I think that it goes both ways.  I think people only have themselves to blame for their predicament.  If you don't like it then find something better.  All changes in life start from within.

i think your rite....sometimes we dont do it because we want to ...but because we want to feel loved. but thats no the rite way to go... i agree with da 1st 2 comments... love n sex not da same thing...n if something is wrong then move on....

I think its because a lot of girls believe that by doing something as intimate as sex with a guy it will develop into something deeper. They think it will keep them around...just maybe this is a stepping stone to something better. But its not...The guy was just using you.

@TruthNeverTold@xanga - That's very true. But at the same time, some guys are the same way. It all has to do with how well you communicate with the person involved.

YOU ARE SPEAKING ABOUT WOMEN LIKE ME. I AM JUST BEGGINING TO SORT MY POST TRAUMATIC SYNDROME (P.T.S.D.), PREVIOUSLY MISSDIAGNOSED & MEDCATED SINCE THE AGE OF 4 YEARS OLD. NO, FOUR YEARS OLD IS RIGHT. BUT I MUST SAY, IT IS ABOUT TIME. I AM ADAPTING, UNTIL NOW.  I AM WHAT I USED TO CALL '

"RETIRED" HOOKER. YES, MAM. I AM ALSO A BURN SURVIVOR, AS WELL AS A CHILD ABUSE SUVIVOR. IT ALL BEGAN AS A CHILD. I LITTERALLY STILL HAVE NO CONCEPT, OR UNDERSTANDING OF ANY "HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP".  MY FIRST EVER RELATIONSHIPS & BONDS WERE NOT CORRECT, BUT THAT WAS MY FOUNDATION, & I BUILT IT. SHEER HELL! STILL TODAY, BUT TODAY I KNOW WHAT IT IS, WHY I THINK THAT WAY, RECOGNIZE PATTERNS, AND BEHAVIORS. I AM DEALING WITH IT DAILY, TRYING TO ACCEPT THAT YOUR WHOLE PERCEPTION OF LOVE AND GRASP OF LOVE IS SICK, THAT SUCKS. I DONT KNOW WHAT IT IS. ATLEAST, I HOPE NOT TO MISNAME THE NEXT LESSON LIFE HAS FOR ME. I AM SICK OF HEARING "LOVE YOURSELF" , AND TRULY, THERE IS NOTHING TO LOOSE IN LIFE FOR ME, EVEN MY DAUGHTER IS GONE. BUT, THAT WAS MY CHOICE, WHEN I GAVE HER TO A FAMILY MEMBER LAST YEAR. SHE WAS 6, AND NOW SHE HAS A HEALTHY LIFE AND ROLE MODEL. I WAS A GOOD MOM, BUT DETATCHED IN THE PUREST WAY. I STILL ENVY THE "LOVE' THAT I CAN'T UNDERSTAND. , EVENTUALLY, AFTER YOU'VE  LOST ALL-YOU ARE EMTY AGAIN, THAT IS FAMILIAR BUT HURTS; TIME DOESNT HEAL US, FROM THE 1ST AND WORST TRAUMA, TO THE LAST THE WORST, AND I THINK ATLEAST I HAVE DEALT WITH MY PAST, AND WILL BE ONE AGAIN. JUST HAVE TO NOT DEVELOP ANYMORE. MAYBE IT IS NOT FOR ME, THE RISK TO GREAT, AND WOUNDS TO DEEP, I WENT 4 YEARS CELIBATE, AND AS A RECLUSE. COMPARED TO THIS LAST YEAR IN REALITY WITH SOCIETY, AND MEN.. I PREFER THE SOLITUDE AT THE MOMENT. BUT SOMETIMES, THE " ME" IS SHUTOFF AND I DONT KNOW IT. IF YOU READ THIS, IT MAY OR MAY NOT MAKE SENSE. BUT 31 YEARS I HAVE LIVED, THROUGH MANY HOSPITALS; JAILS; REHABS, AND CAREERS. BUT IF I THINK I AM IN LOVE- THEN LIFE IS GOOD AND COMPLETE. MY LOVE DEFINITION, SYMPTOMS, AND REACTIONS ARE BROKE. 

It's really easy to just say "Oh god, girls just wanna be loved, and boys just stomp all over our hearts, fuck our lady parts, and leave," but really, if you're having sex to feel loved, or to feel needed, you're using the guy just as much as he's 'using' you. In fact, if you're having sex with a random dude for ANY reasons other than just to have sex, you're using them.

People like sex, whether they're male or female. It's socially acceptable to fuck a lot of people now, and that's not 'guys taking advantage', that's women going out looking for men to sleep with.