Monday, 11 January 2010
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I'd Buy You A Drink, But I'd Be Jealous Of The Glass.
Okay, so last night me and Babooshka went to a bar, the Rack. Nothing nasty now, it's a popular place where you could shoot pool. We were looking for Danny - Babooshka's "draedal", he works at the bar as a bouncer. Anyways, we went in there for a second time, trying to find him. When she asked a bartender if he was in yet, they answered no, that he won't be in till 10. We're not exactly the bar kind of people. So we left, or were going to, till we got stopped by a drunk old guy. It's exactly as it sounds, an unwanted hit on.
He asked us what we were doing there. We told him. He was clearly drunk, he asked us twice what we were doing there, we gave him two different answers. He believed both, at different occasions. The hit was meant for her, and not me. I guess I was just an added bonus? Because he asked us if we were sisters, and I told him we were cousins - we're not, we don't even look like each other. Apparently he didn't hear me because he then blurted out, "I like sisters." With a goofy smile and arm motions. Creepy. It was getting awkward. I was thinking, "How the fuck do we get ourselves out of this?" Thinking of a plan, drunk man was asking, "So what are we doing tonight?" Yeah, I don't think so. Hell no, hell no times a bagillion! Thought about it and I whipped out my phone, pretending to answer it and telling Babooshka that we needed to go. What was even more sick was that there was another old guy at the bar sitting, just watching all this happen. He was smiling at the whole situation. Bastard. When we finally got out of the bar, I felt so violated. It was so gross that we had experienced that. We laughed it off, but I still kept thinking...
Bars have been around for ages... I know we're not the first two to get hit on together. But what makes men act that way? Is it because of the alcohol that's been in them that brings out their "perversed" side? Or do men really act that sleezy without the drinks in them? What makes them possessed to act like that, to hit on girls 30+ younger than them? Do men really think that woman think that they're hot shit? That they could get anyone they'd want?
Reader, what is your opinion on drunk men/women hitting on someone younger than them?
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you should know that that's the kind of run-in you'd normally get at a bar
you should have just told him to piss off and go play with himself in the back or something. don't let ugly losers get you down like that :o
Bars are the only appropriate place to proposition someone so straight-forwardly.
And many women like guys that are significantly older than them.
One day, I saw an old man whistle at two smoking hot women walking down the street. I asked my boyfriend why? Does he really think he has a chance at that? My boyfriend replied, "Would you say he has a one in a million shot?" I replied, "Yeah, I guess." He said, "Then that one chance is enough to say something."
What's the point of this, again?
That's my view.
Desperation.
That's the same reason they're in the bar in the first place. To drink themselves into submission, and find someone else as desperate as they are who have also drank themselves into submission.
@An_iLL_Dispositi0n@xanga - i like the desperation answer, but that surely isnt the case all the time?
hrm, i guess since you're not bar-type people you haven't really experienced this often. just atmospheres like that encourage people to pick up/hit on other people. next time that happens, don't even fake an excuse, just leave.
Don't worry; If I ever saw you at a bar, I DEFINITELY would NOT hit on you, by any means necessary. :)
There's hardly a chance you won't run into creepy old men like that anyways. This guy jacked off right next to my cousin and I in the movie theater, and kept persisting in finding my cousin's cellphone she dropped earlier too. Then there was the married man who hit on me at school.
And like most girls experience when walking down the streets, the honkers.
The bar is definitely not a "safe" place to be. Try to avoid the situation by walking away instead of wasting your breathe on him. It'd just make him try even harder.
@amyetta619@xanga - Probably not all of the time. But a good majority of it, I'd think.
I guess it really depends upon the bar, and where in town it's located. But there's bound to be a handful of desperates wherever you go.
Oh man. I didn't get the title until I finished the comments. Wow...
Anyway, the environment is a place that is stereotypically a place where sleazy men hit on girls. That's what the media tends to portray it as, thus that's how it has been. I haven't been to the bars myself so that's just a speculation on my part. However, from I hear, bars are generally places to pick up women/men. I bet sleazy men sometimes do get laid so they continue what they're doing.
When I was dating my ex, his dad and friends would go to a local bar to drink/hang out/hit on the bartender..My ex would take me with him so we could eat.. I always got stuck sitting to some drunk guy who thought I was sitting next to him so he could hit on me.
*not that it has to do with the post, but be careful when sitting next to drunk men..I had a guy sneeze beer all over me, than try to 'help me clean up', than hit on me by telling me he likes younger girls and asked for my number. I couldn't even move to another seat..I just had to sit there and get as close as possible to my bf. It was the most disgusting thing ever, and I ended up smelling like beer all night.
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Men do that whether they're drunk or not. I go to a Community college and there's always some old guy in my class. I usually sit back in the corner if I don't know anyone, and of course there's always some perv that comes and sits next to me. I glare at him when he tries to sit down..Sometimes they'll get the hint and leave, sometimes they sit down anyway and I move.
@An_iLL_Dispositi0n@xanga - I agree. I mean presumably this particular old drunkie that you speak of is truly unhappy with his life, and maybe his wife. To be honest, this is why I have never really been into the whole bar scene. It seems that more often than not you'll have to deal with being hit on, especially as a woman. I mean the same thing could happen to any guy but for the most part-women tend to NOT be as...what's the word...dominant? Regardless of gender the whole environment...the dark lighting, an abundance of alcohol, paired with those "regulars" who would rather drown their sorrows than deal with them...gives rise to that type of behavior.
And if you want to know my opinion about drunk men/women hitting on ANYONE...I think it's pathetic. More often than not the person who is hitting on you is married or in a relationship and if they aren't, most likely just looking for a "good time"-which ultimately will not be remembered as a good time if it is remembered at all. And the sad part is that alcohol wouldn't even have to be in the equation for some people to have behaved that way.
Now if you want to get into the older men/woman hitting on the younger...that's a whole other can of worms. I WOULD say that age shouldn't matter but it does-Would you really reciprocate attention to someone who is old enough to be your father or mother?....ehh not so much. But I would venture to guess that the older man you encountered would not have been as brave to talk to you the way he did if he weren't intoxicated.
God forbid someone is sexually attracted to you! oh no!
@Simply_Cynical@xanga - lmao
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@Simply_Cynical@xanga - agreed.Any age after 18 when they know hitting on you won't land their ass in jail, is fair game. It doesn't matter if he's old enough to be the creepy uncle or your grand father. Alcohol makes people do stupid stuff. So guys hit on women and girls drunk dials their exes.
*shrug*Be responsible when your drink kiddies!Its the alcohol ~_~ yay biology class! Once the liver shutsdown and the alcohol goes to your brain, you are drunk! The intoxication numbs the brain so that you stop feeling guilt and shame, also good bye to motor senses and perception, thats why people tend to do stupid things, perceives things differently than what it really it or say things they won't usually say when drunk. Our limiters are gone .-. its a scary thing really. Well some people are naturally perverted, or hit the point of their life where they no longer care so those people might not need to be intoxicated to be shameless. Pitiful beings really.
You maybe suffering from this person's harassment, but he has probably been through so much pain in his life that all other means to seek satisfaction are gone. One must be really desperate if hurting others is the only method to bring upon self satisfaction.
you really should know better by now. no sympathy.Â
and alcohol in small dosages (incase your interested) triggers DA release, in higher doses triggers the release of GABA which binds to the cerebellum and major parts of the forebrain (more specifically the sites of the forebrain that are responsible for inhibition...like the orbitofrontal).
cerebellum=fine motor movementOFC, ACC, insula etc= social inhibitionÂ
GABA is an inhibitory little bugger itself.
so we're inhibiting an inhibitory mechanism. uh oh.
so dont be surprised when you walk into a bar to be hit on...period. because quite frankly they dont give a shit because of the above.
Um, they are drunk, shady creepers? Some men just suck. (same with women). I would have told him to screw off and not even deal with it. But some girls like to hang around men that are hitting on them because they like the attention.
@Shy___Away@xanga - yeah, ghost of a chance and nothing to lose. drives people to do stupid things.
Eww. Sounds like an experience I had at a bar once. The first time I visited my parents after turning 21, they took me out to a couple bars. At one of them, some creepy middle aged guy started hitting on my mom and I hardcore. Apparently he thought we were sisters, and asked us straight up if we wanted to have a threesome with him. My parents were both pretty drunk and I guess they knew this guy, so they thought it was hilarious. My mom finally told him, "Um, actually, this is my daughter" to which he responded, "Well how old is she? 21? Oh, she'll be fine then!" My dad told the guy he was fine with it, as long as the creep had us back home by morning. Now, if I'd been as drunk as they were and if I'd known the guy too, I MIGHT have found some humor in this situation. Unfortunately, I was almost completely sober and absolutely horrified.
ANYWAYS...yeah. Creepy drunk guys suck.
I had a guy come up to me and say "You should come back to my apartment and fuck my roommate." Straight up. Just like that. For real guy? I should fuck your roommate? No thanks.
Really guys just say what they think they can get away with. If you say no then the guy thinks he's funny for asking. If you say yes he (or in my case his roommate) will score. Either way it's a win as long as he doesn't get slapped.
@An_iLL_Dispositi0n@xanga - You have no idea how much this made me laugh..
Even a couple of my friends act like this when they're drunk, and they are definitely desperate. :')
@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - Haha, yeah. Sorry to hear about your friends....but alcohol is definitely a desperate person's best friend. Not to say that everyone who drinks is desperate..