Sunday, 10 January 2010
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Keep Your Nose Out of My Sex Life
I don't appreciate being donned with unwarranted advice.
I don't take kindly to anyone telling me what I should or should not be doing in the bedroom; I do not appreciate "hey you should try this!" tips, because quite frankly, what I've already got going on is working for me. Maybe if I ask for your tips or advice? But do not thrust them upon me. Do not generalize what I "should" be doing, just because it works for you.
This doesn't mean it'll work for me. Just because you think your way is the best way, doesn't mean it will work for everyone else out there. If there's anything I'm curious about, I will research it out on my own, or maybe even ask for some advice. If I need to "spice things up" I will come up with my own ways and means based on mine and my SO's preferences because quite frankly, some of the things other chicks are into would probably frighten him (and make me super uncomfortable.) This does not make us boring; it just means we're more into sensual sex than freaky sex.
Has anyone else ever felt offended by unwarranted sex advice? Would you rather seek out advice on your own when you find that you actually need it than have it thrown at you when you weren't looking for it?
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Can't say I get worked up over someone suggesting something. If they insinuated I didn't know what I was doing maybe, but if it was a "hey, give this a try" I wouldn't get offended.
If anything I'd just say "no thanks"
um okay then? good for you two. so glad you wanted to announce how you don't need any sex advice.
@quotes3085@xanga - yes, what an odd announcement...
I felt this way recently over a post on here, which is what I think you are referencing. As I commented on there, sex is different for everyone. I don't think anyone should EVER generalize sex.
I don't know about sex positions, but I would DEFINITELY recommend getting removed whatever it is that is shoved so far up your ass that you can't handle some friendly suggestions. Hope that's not too insinuating...
I have no comment but I'll comment to let people reading this know anyways
@Lordv16@xanga - Exactly.
@quotes3085@xanga - My thoughts exactly.
Jesus. Don't get your knickers in a twist.
@quotes3085@xanga - What I was thinking.
Simply tell the person that you appreciate it, but you've got it under control. Don't flip out just because someone's trying to get you to try new things.People have tried everything to get me to go with them and I'm a hag. It smells bad and looks even worse. Do what ever you want to. There is only one goal and a bunch of hormones that will jack you up.
I've never had sex and I'd like to keep it that way so would you most likely.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6pTdzt7BiI&feature=related
I hate love. Of course, I kissed my ex and it caused a bond, which was terrible. We haven't evolved much in 10,000 years. So we've conquered our environment, now what?
Destroy it with a surge of population and go backwards? We have cool stuff now though. That took a lot of people to do. I guess that makes up for other things and we can get rid of the people now. I know I'm going for a swim. Screw you environment. + R.I.P. I feel you but I'm on a different sphere.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qyJGA_1_v8A
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BgAncEaPj0g
i don't really feel it's thrown at me..
if your readingit on the internet you're probably on a site that tlaks about that kind of thing? so get off the site.
and if it isn't written down somewhere, where will you go to look for advice if you did want it?
it's not like you have to listen to what other people say anyway
What the hell is the big deal if someone says they know of a good bedroom tip, they aren't forcing you to try it, and you never know you might actually enjoy it, if you tried it. Lots of friends share sex tips and advice without asking as it's known that many couple like to keep things interesting before the "need to spice things up."
Sorry you are so easily offended. Maybe you should show this to ALL your IRL friends so they never try and share any tips or advice with you. Trust me, show them this and nobody will ever try and talk to you about sex, even when you ask.
I wasn't aware that people went around giving sex advice for no reason, at least not to the point where it becomes worth bitching about.
Maybe your man isn't satisfied and told someone to drop you hints to help, and you're just not getting it.
@quotes3085@xanga - yup ditto.
And anyhow, if someone was giving me advice on my sex life that I didn't like then I would just say "okay, can you please demonstrate for me please" and when they most likely refuse I would just say "I don't believe anything unless I have seen it with my own two eyes, when you can prove it works then maybe I'll take your advice"... this pretty much works for any advice you don't want.
@lewk@xanga - exactly.
lol first thing i thought after i read this. "what a pointless bitchin waste of 30 seconds of my life'.
seriously. go cry a river. just tell people 'thanks but no'. dang you have a stick up your ass, i'm sorry.
I'm guessing this is a response to that other post...it bothered me too, but for different reasons. I don't mind advice, you can take or leave advice, it was just how it was delivered that annoyed me. The post seemed to shout "hey girls!!!! in case you weren't aware, its totally your responsibility to make sex good!!! if you don't act like a total porn star, he's probably not going to be very into it and he definitely won't even try to make you come!! so be VOCAL VOCAL VOCAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" it was just like any other article in cosmo, basically a bunch of tips to please your man, disguised as tips to please yourself. I don't mean to make a big deal out of it it just ticked me off a little, why can't we have sex tips for both genders instead of putting all the pressure on one.
Think this is quite a girl specific problem...I can't imagine a male friend slapping my wrist if I told him what I got up to. I agree with your point though - people trying to impose their moral code on to other people.
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@Gorrific@xanga - I agree with you.
one: hey, hinder album cover!
two: your friends can't suggest these things to you? perhaps if you aren't open about your sex life and your friends know this they shouldn't talk to you about sex. but someone saying, "i did this with my significant other and i think you'd really like it" offends you, then i'd say you have some intimacy issues. seriously, your friends aren't saying, "YOU SUCK AT SEX." they care about you and want you to be happy with your sex life. but, you know, i guess shame on them for extending a hand to you.
really? this is retarded! i mean its one thing if you are talking about your friends or whatever, but if this post is referring to posts on this website, then you are not very bright. no one is making you read them
get over it. And get over yourself.
@Soul_Pizza@xanga - lmfao <3
@Lordv16@xanga - yes, this is what I mean- I get offended when people insinuate that I don't know what I'm doing. apparently you're the only commenter who got that out of this...
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I probably should have said, "I don't appreciate when other people assume that I don't know what I'm doing."
advice is fine, it's just when other people assume I don't know what I'm doing, that I get offended.
if I didn't know what I was doing, I wouldn't be having sex in the first place.
wouldn't any of you agree that would bother you as well?