Saturday, 09 January 2010
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Does The World Know What Love Is?
In a recent conversation with my SO I brought up the topic of life changing accidents.
I asked if he knew whether he would stay with me after a life changing accident? Example, what if my face fell off; would you still love me?
He said he really didn't know the answer. The said truth is when asked the same question, I don't know either. I can't say for sure that I'll be there after both his legs are amputated (Inshallah, I hope this never happens).
The answers to this question have really got me considering our relationship with a critical eye. Do we know what Love is? Or are we just in love with each others looks? And if we don't know,
Does the world know?
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- From: Maniacraving@xanga
- About Me: I have been in two relationships in my young impetuous life, one unbelievably hostile and tragic, the other unbelievably loving and powerful. Both extremely meaningful and great. I live for love and I know that LOVE CONQUERS ALL. It will always prevail and I will never put anything before it. Love makes my world go round. Update: I can't believe 2010 is over. I dumped the guys. Moved to a new state and threw away all my clothes. Something big is coming, and it's time to open the door. Signed, January 18, 2011
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Some do. I think it depends on the situation.
In yours, only you guys know.
I remember saying something like that to my ex. In my mind, I thought about it really hard, and decided I would stay, because I did love her NO MATTER what happened to her. If she were blind, couldnt talk, lost her arms or legs, . . . whatever the cause, I knew I loved her and would stand by her side through it all. I hope I find someone that I could say the same about.
ive thought about this too. in psychology today, my teacher said that "love" only lasts for about a year, and then its just another person. in other words, the chemicals that give you butterflies when you see them stop after a year.
No. That's why there are wars and divorces everywhere.
I don't think most people do. Or, rather, there's not one "regular" definition that everyone agrees on. To me, it's when you value their happiness and well-being over your own, among various other things. However, I'm just a silly 16 year old girl, so what do I know.
nope, as most don't agree. there is no common collective knowing
i'd like to think i know but probably is bias speaking.
I think its different for everybody. The definition for love is hard to interpret, but it focuses on things that people feel strongly for, such as another person or something they enjoy doing. Either way, I honestly don't believe the world know what love really is. There is no exact definition and no way to prove it if there was one. It's an emotion, something we feel; and I believe feelings and emotions cannot be calculated or examined.
I am in a relationship and I love every moment of it. My own interpretation of love is my own and it may be similar or different to other people.
Ending thought: It all comes down to the individual(s). A single person alone cannot change how an entire world views a feeling. True there may be a universal definition, but personal thoughts are individual.
I once asked my ex this... my first love. lol. He couldn't answer me and instead reflected the question back at me. I thought about it and said yes, I'd love him no matter what. I think I should have known from his lack of an answer then that he never truly cared for me. Haha, so young, so stupid, so foolish. Hopefully I'll find someone who cares as much for me as I care for him.
I'm sure the real answer is that they love you, but the last thig anyone really wants to picture is something as tragic as getting an involuntary facelift.
Really, as long as you stay the same, it should be good, but the last thing you want to make the guy do is picture the day he has to put his final answer to the test.
I will love him no matter what, through everything.
Love much different then attraction
i think i would love my boyfriend even if he lost all his limbs, messed up his face...even if we dont work out one day. i just know i love him through and through. although, if we ever did break up, i dont think i could ever speak to him or see him again. my dreams can be haunting enough. i loved him about 3-4 years before we started dating, we were close friends....even though i almost never saw him; he was dating another girl for 3 of them. anytime another of my friends mentioned something he was up to or anything, i would dream about him for about a month straight. i would tell myself i had to stop talking to him, cut him out of my life but ... it wasnt his fault i loved him so. he never did anything to hurt me, on purpose.
we have been together for a year and a half, and a lot of bad things have happened in my life since we've gotten together, (car accident, seizure, cannot drive...) and he's still very wonderful to me...
so, i think that even if we did not marry, i think i have at least a flavor of what love is. maybe it wont be the deepest in my lifetime, or longest lasting ... who knows? but it is real.
My professor once told me that Love cannot be defined so no the world does not know what love is. You can only know love exists through growth in relationships.
I don't think I'll ever ask that question. But I'm sure.. that I'll be very scared of having his face destroyed.. yet I can't help but know that I can't stand to leave someone for who he really is, and the face he was born with.
If he lost a limb or .. four.. I'd stick with him. If he lost his genitals, i'd still love him.
But because I haven't experienced this, what I say might not be true if it happens. That's what scares me.
LOVE is just crazy, its that simple. . . .
Everyone has their own idealistic views of what love is, truth is i dont think anyone really knows. I've been through many long relationships, I also have said "i love you" and supposedly love lasts for ever yet I'm single. . . so my answer . . . sry, i don't know know what love is :-/What I have learned is that no one can ever love you perfectly. Everyone has a different amount of love they can provide to the other. This is why no one can define love. This leads us to just go off of what we feel.
The truest definition I have found of love is the one in the Bible.
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@BlehhItsTu@xanga - exactly, that's what i wonder about
on the other hand ... my parents were happily married for 25 years, then my dad got a brain tumor, and his entire personality changed. like 180. and his decisions became less and less rational. after 31 years of marriage, and him failing his business and losing our house, they are getting divorced. so. i mean. shit happens. what now?
A chemical reaction that binds us to desire instead of logic.
i think love can be defined people who say it doesnt exist or that it cant be havent experienced yet, but it takes a lot of work and commitment that no person is willing to putout, and if someon asked me if id still be around if their face fell off, id have to real and honest and say no
if it was just dating, most likely no. if we were married for a few decades, yes, I'd love him unconditionally and be there by his side on his deathbed if that were the case.
LOL @ "what if my face fell off?"
I think some people will say "If you love someone you'll love them no matter what happens to them physically," but idk. It would be incredibly difficult. I'm sure a physical change that drastic would have some emotional changes on a person as well. If I lost both my legs I'd probably be very depressed and idk if I could ever really get over it, and I'm not sure if I could stay with someone who was constantly unhappy. It all really depends on the person.
@crystaldurden@xanga - i agree. (also with the face comment, lol.=p )
Love is true friendship. All other feelings are the lead up to :)
i think you won't know until you loses it.
i think that when you love someone, you know. it's different for everyone; not everyone gets goosebumps every time they see their soulmate and their heart beats "faster and slower at the same time" (i never understood that).