Friday, 08 January 2010

  • Games vs. No Games

    I've thought about this a few times, but luckily - have never been in a serious relationship where I had to choose which I preferred.

    This is what I mean by GAMES (a few examples amongst many):

    1. Most Obviously - the Game

    Where men play women, and women are seduced. There are lines to be memorized and acted, and even props. Ladies and gentlemen, we are no longer humans but animals engaged in some sort of mating ritual, and this is it. I really don't want to explain the whole book, but if you're read it - you know what I'm taking about. 

    But this includes - criticizing the woman lightly to draw attention to you, making up shit about her future or her palm, dressing like a peacock, etc. Basically, pretending to be the alpha male even if you aren't.

     

    2. The Three Day Rule - when the girl is contacted after three days so that the man doesn't seem desperate. Man, may or may not be eager to call back - but if he is interested, must wait so that he isn't seen as too clingy. Girls, if interested, are eagerly waiting for the phone call. 


    3. The Jealousy Act
    This one has been done sooooo many times its not funny. Basically flirting with someone else to make your so and so jealous. I really don't think I need to explain any more. 


    4. The being extra funny/smart/rich in order to Impress.
    We all do this - knowingly or unknowingly. Don't take me wrong - I do it all the time. Show the side of me I like the most in order to seem appealing.
    If he's a sexual person, be extra slutty.
    If he's a nerd, talk to him about books and the news in order to show that you're smart.
    If he's a gamer, OMG....did you PLAY the latest whatever?
    If he watches sports....Holy shit, did you see when so and so scored!
    You may not think it's manipulative, but think about it. You see someone, immediately try to figure their likes/dislikes and approach them with that in mind. This includes - dressing better, dining and wining better, etc.  Thing is, once you know each other well - it all stops. You don't try that hard.

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    (Please don't take this all literally, there are degrees of this manipulativeness. Not all do it as much)

    5. The I'm Horny So You should Be Too Game
    As far as I know this is mostly girls doing it to guys.
    It includes - walking in half naked wrapped in a towel after a shower, bending down while wearing short shorts, licking an ice cream suggestively, making moaning noises and saying that you're thinking of him, etc.
    This probably happens AFTER the couple is together.

    There are soooooo many more....but you get what I mean, hopefully, by now.

    This is NOT Playing Games:

    1. Calling him/her when you feel like because you're bored, lonely, etc.
    No thinking of whether you sound desperate or not.

    2. Being Straightforward/Honest - if you're jealous, sharing your feelings, talking about it.

    3. Telling them what you want in a relationship, not leaving the person to guess and fret over it.

    Point is, I think both have its strength and benefits. Games make things exciting, whilst no games keep it a mature/real relationship. Is everyone leaning to one or the other, or are people like me - in the middle?

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