Monday, 04 January 2010
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I Deactivated My Facebook and I'm Still Alive
After a breakup, I deactivated my Facebook. I thought it would be hard to stay away, but I knew it would be even harder to fight the urge to stalk my ex on some level. The breakup was mutual, so de-friending wasn't necessary, I just didn't want to know about his future exploits/ flirtations. And plus, I felt that this website was simply exhausting me. I needed a break.
Fast forward a few weeks:
I've found that this was probably the best decision of my life. I have so much more time to myself, I'm actually keeping in touch with my friends through the phone, emailing and in person instead of through status updates and photo albums.Throughout the span of a week, I used to sometimes spend hours on Facebook when bored, but now I'm working out, reading, and spending time painting. And there's a lot less distraction when it comes to getting school work done. It's such a wonderful feeling.
Have any of you deactivated your Facebook accounts? How did it feel?
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Since I actually do use Facebook for re-connecting with people I've lost contact with and since it's a free way to communicate long-distance, I probably won't be deleting it any time soon. But taking breaks from it can be a good thing.
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I know what you mean about not wanting to see the doings of your ex, but I simply de-friended the guy I needed to let go of. Good job deactivating. I spend so much time on facebook, but I don't think I will be doing the same thing.
Yes. I've deactivated it several times, and it's been wonderful! I mostly have it deactivated these days, but occasionally I'll pop back on (for no more than a day or two) to see what some long distance friends are doing and drop them a line.
Honestly, since I first deactivated my facebook (around two years ago), I've realized how very far it is from being a necessity. It just creates mental clutter in my life.
I understand what you mean about the stalking temptation. It's so tempting to "glimpse" at profiles of guys you were once interested in.
However, I'm kind of with @sarahzthoughts@xanga - I've moved around my whole life because of the military, and it seems like the only way to keep up with EVERYBODY.
Good for you, though! I wish I was brave enough to do the same.
I don't have a facebook
I don't feel that I've missed out since that network site is similar to myspace. I had a myspace but that got boring. xanga is the place to be
I'm still too much of an addict to actually stop using it, but I feel refreshed and relieved when I haven't been on it in a while. lol. It's nice to devote my time to less trivial pursuits.
yep, I nuked my facebook with my former blog loonsounds. I never ever missed facebook. around new years I though of putting it back up for a day, but I didn't.
I've deactivated my facebook twice now. I enjoy facebook though to see what others are up to.
i know you didn't want to defriend, but why cut off your social networking when you can just block the guy and never have to hear of him?
i like facebook.
I like having Facebook to keep in touch with long distance relatives and friends. It was a great crutch when my brother was in Iraq. I was able to chat with him a few times a week through Facebook. The only thing I don't like is how come people rely on it for their sole communication source. If someone has something planned they'll leave a comment on my wall or status and assume I sit in front of my computer for hours on end like they do. When I don't get their message via Facebook they get annoyed. Sorry, I have a life outside of the internet!
I do think I'd probably be better off without these social networking sites, but they're so soft and protective and comfortable....
@modernjane@xanga - Agreed. Us too. We've been in three places in less than a year. Twenty years from now, I can't even imagine the number of people we will know that we will want to keep in contact with.
I actually did this two days ago! I had a nasty breakup with the ex, as i posted on another blog ( on here) and it does feel great already to be a bit 'detached' from this whole social network. it keeps me from looking at my ex's things, and remembering the past. i have alot more time to ACTUALLY communicate with people, in reality, thats the way i like to put it.
Yes! It was hard at first but I had to.
I just felt like a stalker knowing everything about everyone. Plus, the people there are... ehhhh. They got me annoyed. So I deactivated it (temporarily... just in case).
It's true that it's a good way to keep in contact with people who barely see anymore, but I became addicted to being a "creeper" and it only aggrivated me whenever I got online.
I agree, 'twas a good decision.
good job :]
Wow, I don't think I could get rid my Facebook. Good for you for being able to do it! I like to use it to keep in touch with my friends from HS and usually, I just have to de-friend the exes.
I would love to break from facebook!! It eats my life! lol but I don't want to not have it; I get a lot of party invites etc. that way, or if I want to communicate with people I don't know well enough to have their phone number or email address but want to get to know better it works really well.
I got rid of mine mid-September and I'm never getting it back. I have WAY more time, and I'm doing alot more meaningful things. More homework, reading, more time to actually DO fun stuff. I'd recommend everyone just get rid of it.
I don't deactivate my Facebook because I have control of certain groups that we actually use to coordinate events outside of Facebook. When I want to get away from Facebook, I get my roommate to change my password, (yes I am well aware that I can just do forget password, but I don't want to go through so much trouble to get back on Facebook, I'm not some addict.)
Yup, definetly.
I still use the Facebook because my friends and teachers from the former college there. Actually, I don't wanna use it anymore but I fear to lose the contact with my friends!
This is so strange because I did the exact same thing with my myspace a year ago! I couldn't be happier either. No drama anymore:) That's all facebook/myspace seems to attract these days.
I didn't stay on Facebook long before I deactivated my account. I've already been spending a lot of time on Xanga. There's just no time for it, plus I value my privacy too much.
would it be possible to ask him to limit profile you? this way you don't see the wall post, status update, etc. just a thought?