Monday, 04 January 2010

• A Little [Self] R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

  

  I would just like to say that if a guy doesn’t return your feelings, it absolutely does NOT mean that there is anything whatsoever even remotely wrong with you. I can not stress enough how utterly incorrect this assumption is. I mean, we’ve all got faults, but as females I think we tend to magnify those faults, especially in situations where we feel we we’re not adequate enough; not satisfactory to whomever we were striving to please. Come on, you know you do it. We all do. It’s one of the downfalls of being born a beautiful baby girl.

  To me, there is nothing more heartbreaking than watching and listening to a friend who is devastated and doesn’t know who they are because they put their worth into one man’s opinions. I’ve seen a lot of tears, and given many hugs. I’ve been the girl sitting in the bathroom, handing toilet paper to the anguished girl with mascara cascading down her cheeks. I’ve been the one who tries to understand phone calls and voicemails of sobbing best friends. And to be honest, I’ve been the one to give many of the guys who caused those tears their just desserts.

  The point is, they’re all beautiful, compassionate, witty, charming young ladies who don’t understand that the boy, in most cases, didn’t do it to be nasty, and they didn’t do it because there’s something horribly wrong with the girls’ personalities. They did it because, put simply, they’re people.

  Face it. It’s not that “nobody likes you.” Guys like you, they’re just either your friends…or they’re those “stalkers” that, be honest, creep you out. Or sometimes they’re perfectly nice guys, but you just don’t feel the same way. That’s justified, isn’t it?

  …Well how come it’s not justified if a guy does it to you?

  Then there’s the whole break-up situation. I’m aware that breakups hurt and I would never EVER tell you any different, because it can be excruciatingly painful. This is a known fact. But I like to think of it in a more logical fashion, and I hope I continue to do so when I get dumped in the future. The way I see it: He changed his mind. It’s not that anything is WRONG with you. Not at all! Everybody changes their mind sometimes; everybody is ENTITLED to change their mind. And soon enough, you’ll change your mind about him, too. It just might take a little longer than it did for him.

  If you’re not what someone’s looking for, it shouldn’t matter. That doesn’t reflect on what kind of person YOU are. So don’t be bitter about it. And don’t beat yourself up about it either.

  On that note, if a guy treats you like crud, don’t let that change your opinion of yourself. Some people grow up a little faster than others. Some people never grow up. They weren’t what YOU were looking for anyway, if that’s the case.

  Girls, we’re special. We require love and attention and acceptance. But you have to love yourself before anyone else will want to love you. You know?

  So be happy! Don’t hang around with losers, and don’t spend you’re life wondering why you AREN’T adequate. Because you’re beyond adequate.  

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