Monday, 04 January 2010
-
Loving Someone Wholly and Completely
If you don't love their body as well, you don't completely, 100%, love all of them, every aspect of their existence, and everything that makes them... well, them. Because the way you look, is a part of who you are. Your body houses your brain which produces your thoughts, wants, personality, etc. It is an integral part of your being, and it needs to be loved too.
There have been several posts in Xangaland lately about the importance of appearance, and it got me thinking.
I did at one time hold the belief that appearance shouldn't matter. This was until I fell completely, and totally, 100% in love with someone.
I remember him complaining about something... maybe his stomach, or maybe his thick, gorgeous hair. But I recall saying, "I love every inch of you." And it made me realize that, you know... being in love with someone's body really matters too. Loving running your fingers over every inch of skin you can reach, loving seeing a beautiful pair of eyes stare into yours, loving stroking their hair... just loving, all over their body.
Mostly, what I'm trying to express, is that you cannot just love someone for their mind and personality.
You should never fall in love with someone for or because of their appearance, that would be wrong. But I feel that as your relationship grows and develops, you do need to love their body, and their mind. You may fall in love with someone for their personality and be iffy on how they look; but if you love someone enough you should be able to look past their flaws, accept, and love every aspect, and inch of them.
Has anyone else ever seen it this way?
Related Posts
Post a Comment
- Back to datingish's Datingish Site!
- Note: your comment will appear in datingish's local time zone: GMT -05:00 (Eastern Standard - US, Canada)
About the Author
-
- From: greenglow28@xanga
- About Me: I'm an 18 year old college student, but for god's sake, please judge me on what I have to say, and not my age or the rest of my generation.
-
True
Stats: This Week All Time Posts: 0 19 Views: 0 62410 Comments: 0 1459 View all posts by greenglow28@xanga
Comments (38)
Wow, I've never completely agreed with a post, but this one, I do!
Absolute agreement. If you can't look at the person you love and think that they are the most attractive person in the world, then you don't love them as much as you could.
As normally someone who'd disagree, it does make sense. I am one for personality over looks, but to truly be completely in love with someone, you have to find them attractive (duhr), body and mind. Can't do just looks, either.
. I loved, very much , once long ago..a human brillo pad. The man was so hairy, I thought cousin iT had many more cousins. I detest men with body hair and this guy was a whopping 6"3 , built like an ox, and would scare any professional waxer into another state, and I loved him. So no, looks mdear are not everything and yes...I loved him completely.....the fact that he cheated on me...well...that's another story...for another time...
I've dated guys before for personality over looks but now my perspective has adjusted a little. I think it should start with physical attraction foremost, then the personality will surface and you can love them for their personality too.
true to a point. i always go for looks before anything else when i start liking someone.but i still believe mind and soul and personality outweight.
I agree 100%. I have to roll my eyes everytime someone says looks don't matter to them. And when I say they matter to me, I'm suddenly "shallow." It makes sense though. How can you marry somebody and have children with them if you don't even want to touch them?
yes, i agree. i think love is deeper if you think they are the hottest person in the world. on the other side of it, i know it's important to me when my boyf says i'm the hottest girl he's ever seen, that he loves my body, mind, heart, and soul. and then starts listing both physical attributes and character traits as competitors for my best feature....
yeah, loving someone completely involves loving their body, too. this can be accomplished, though, either by loving their body of its own accord or by loving them so much you grow to love their body. i think that can happen (to a degree!), too.
Mhmm :)
@JennyGee@xanga - Haha I have a tendency to completely fall for guys' bodies when I'm in love with them. It's a bit scary how love can change your perspective so much, but I guess it's good that when I fall in love I also start idolizing the guy's body. Of course, he has to at least be fairly attractive to start out with.
yeah, i agree. i sorta slowly fell in love with my bf while we were friends.... i loved his silly weirdness and strange antics first, but swore that i never thought he was very cute... but then his face grew to seem cuter, and then he dressed up one day and idk ... i felt such sadness (long before we were dating). we kept in touch over aim for years, and once we agreed to hang out again, i just knew, no matter what he actually looked like that night, idk.... i just knew i already loved him. he's still adorable :) lol
I totally agree with this. But, I don't think many people can find that "happy medium." They either date someone whose appearance they hate, or they date someone solely because of their looks.
Yeah, I loved someone. Even there asshole side of them... now someone else can deal with them. I still love this person though, wish i didn't.
I love my boyfriend no matter what, from his head down to his toes ;3 So yeah, I do love him 100%. I don't care how he changes his appearance...he's still the same guy. <3
Best thing ever: lying in bed together and just touching or gazing into each other's eyes. So cheesy but so fun and romantic XD
Very good right on, just so, lol. No it's true though, people talk about that oh you shouldn't care what they look like. But I know my man is hot, and has an amazing mind and heart. But his pretty eyes, and quick warm smile was how it all started. he said my laugh and hair did it for him, but you have to have all 100% of it.
yeah I wish someone loves me for my body too
I agree. All of my boyfriend's little quirky habits and things other people might find as 'flaws', I've never questioned them. I think he's perfect. I've never looked at him and thought, "I wish he had so and so instead," or, "I don't like so and so about him, but I'll deal". Ever. In my eyes he's always been 100% himself, and I've adored that 100%.
I agree also. I've also said, "I love every inch of you" to someone who complained about their body. And it still is true, even though we've broken up.
not yet.
props
I agree.
Although looks shouldn't be the most important factor in loving someone, having a hot body does help you like them completely.
I absolutely agree!
I'm 100% in love with this guy.
I love every inch of him, Even though it's skinny, and lengthy, I love it...
I love every thing about him; Even his unruly red hair.
@haley1262@xanga - lol, sounds like my boyfriend :) tall and lanky, totally unruly, thick brown hair... and yet, I've never seen a more beautiful guy :)
I used to think my mind was just trapped inside my body. Thus, I wasn't too fond of the "body" that bogged me down. It wasn't that I didn't like it, don't get me wrong. I just felt it was a bit unfair that it should be what it is from birth and hardly have the chance to change naturally alongside my mind (that is, change according to the changes in my mind.) But I guess over the years I've come to love my body for all its worth. Yeah, it's a nifty one. I think the important thing is to love your own body (or at least respecting it), because that's when another person loving you and your body means the most.
i agree with you but we're so human and we're so judgmental towards each other so we're never going to accept that person 100%.