Today, I feel blessed. I have the best friends...and they complete me. Some people touch you in a way you could never imagine and stay forever. Sure, they make mistakes, but so do I. Being friends isn't about being the perfect friend it's about being the best friend you are capable of being and letting your friends screw up sometimes. My friends have let me screw up plenty of times and always continue to accept and love me. Each one of my friends is extremely unique and has helped to shape a part of me. I wouldn't be who I am without each and every one of them, even the ones I'm not friends with anymore.
I find it unbelievable that some people are able to sustain romantic relationships without being best friends with their significant other.
Me and Josh never would have lasted this long or been this happy without our unbelievable friendship. I believe that friendship brings and unbeatable level of trust and love that a simply romantic relationship can't even compare to. I understand that you need a physical and romantic aspect to make a relationship last but friendship is the glue that holds it all together and keeps you going when things are hard and don't seem fixable. Romantic relationships are based on nothing but physical attraction and butterflies in the stomach, but friendship is a deep understanding of who the other person really is and what they need. I've watched many of my friends romantic relationships die because once the physical attraction died down a little there was nothing left to stand on. The times with my boyfriend that I cherish the most are when we start laughing hysterically at something stupid like only friends could, or when he sits with me and watches youtube videos with cats just because he knows I love them. I hope you are all as lucky as I am.
Is your significant other your best friend?
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my boyfriend is very much my best friend, we do everything together. shopping, dinner, movies, sledding, and anything else we can. we're always together, too, when i don't see him, it breaks my heart. lame, i know, but i wouldn't have it any other way.
i had that. its gone. :(
I have a best friend that I have feelings for that I'm not dating and don't really intend to.
It's interesting, and gives me some head scratching moments, but I'm extremely happy with how things are now.
- John
I have always been best friends with my past SOs.
Right now I'm looking for a new best friend.
I'm single at the moment, but in the past....I've never been best friends with my mate. I've found in keeping myself single for the pass 3 years, that not having the foundation of true friendship with my mate, was a HUGE reason why it didn't work out. Not the only reason, but one of my top 3 reasons.
My ex was my best friend. I still can't find anyone to replace him in my heart. Ahh, how people change! [Personally, I'd like to blame it on puberty. Those nasty hormones and whatnot. Ah ha.]
Absolutely, yes.
"...but friendship is a deep understanding of who the other person really is and what they need."
I don't agree. Some people are married for years upon years before they discover skeletons in the closet; furthermore, some people live with themselves 24/7 and still don't know who they are so how is someone else supposed to understand them? Not only that, how can they understand the other person?
But you're happy so that's good.
Oh, I wish!
My guy friend and I have been close friends for 4 years. We just started dating about 2 weeks ago. It's amazing.
I always fall for my best friends. and that's where the trouble begins.
Agreed. I personally could never date anyone I was just casual acquaintances with. I've just begun dating my best friend of 3 years now. 16 of the best weeks ever. <3
Very true.
My boyfriend is, and always will be, my best friend for life.
We've been childhood best friends
since we were 6 & now that we are dating, it is
absolutely amazing.
I'm very close friends with my boyfriend, just like I was with my ex. It's harder when things go wrong because you not only lose your love but a good friend as well...
Not right now. All we do is get all hot and heavy and then try awkwardly to find things to do together afterwards that don't involve touching. Hmmm
But I dated for three years a guy who was my best friend. He ended up being abusive and a brilliant asshole, and now I wish I had never become friends with him. Not sure what to think about that..
So here's my issue with this-everytime I've seen a guy be friends with a girl for a few years and then try to go to the next level he's flat out rejected. How in the world do you move on beyond the friendship level with a girl you've been friends with for a while? It almost always seems like the ball is put into her hands with the decision so if she says no there isn't a whole lot you can do about it as a guy.
usually when i'm in a relationship, my SO becomes my best friend.
My first ex was my best friend. It's kinda hard to keep that going when you break up.
My fiance and I were friends for years before we got together. It gave us a chance to know each other inside and out before we got together. (Then again, we had sex before we became friends, so I suppose we did things out of order.) But I previously dated a best friend who ended up cheating on me with my brother, my cousin, my brother's neighbor, my brother's roommate, my ex-girlfriend, and her ex-boyfriend. So it's a tough call.
i agree. i really think that you should be best friends with your SO.
i completly agree with you
@LovelyLadyLucyx3@xanga - I agree--my ex was my best friend too and once we broke up, all was lost...
It's dangerous to be friends with your SO...i was best friends with my first bf and then once we broke up, everything was lost.
I think the significant other can become your best friend too but it's best not to put all your eggs in one basket because if it ends, then you lose everything.
@endlesscrowd@xanga - Snap. My ex-boyfriend became my best friend, and we are still friends now. After him I dated my best friend, and that didn't work out either. Now our friendship will always be damaged. I will never date my best friend again. In fact, I pretty much refuse to date close friends in general.