Sunday, 03 January 2010
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So, Am I Asking For Too Much?
In a person (relationship or whatever), there are certain things I ask, but I really don't think they're too hard:
- I ask for you to be honest, even if it will piss me off (I'll get over it)
- Be sincere, do something because you want to, not because you feel obligated to
- If you don't do it, don't expect it from me
- If you have something to say about someone, say it to me and don't be a bitch about it.
- If you're unsure on something, instead of assuming what you heard from someone else, ask the source (me!)
- Show me the real you and I'll show you the real me.
- Know your place. I say many egocentric things but I'm really not that way.
It's sad that I get more honesty from people I don't even know rather then people I've known for years.
I do my best to do these things. it wouldn't be right if I asked you to when I didn't (which would be contradicting what I just said).
In relationships, since I want something serious; I'm much more strict and more direct when it comes to these. I don't want any actors in my already limited social circle. I believe if being a real person and not playing a part in a movie you're not getting paid for. But if I'm going to deal with you, more then a normal person, I'd like to know the real person because I can decide if I want to deal with you.
Putting your cards on the table is very important. if there is anything that you tell that may change the way I view you, you're better off just telling me. Most times a person is sacred and I understand that, but you should just be honest. Because trust I tell my situation from the get-go, well if you ask. I have no problem with answering questions you ask, that's how you learn about one another.
I went through a phase where I tried to act a certain way and while it may work for a time, I found people liking/disliking me for the wrong reasons. I now give you the good and the bad. I figure to give you both sides; but you get the truth.
Is this so hard to understand?
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Comments (37)
not really
It's easy to understand, but it's sometimes hard to follow through.
Not at all.
makes perfect sense to me
i agree.
That's what I expect, and that's what i get... (:
not hard at all.
No, not at all. Â That's exactly what I want as well.
what?????
it's not too much, maybe they just don't fully understand it.
you should hand out dating applications to weed out the bad ones. the actors, rather.
this is not asking for much...
this is called having standards/ common sense.
it means you have a lot of respect for yourself and you're not dealing with other people's shit.
you'll find the person who deserves you eventually :)
don't ever drop your standards just to be with someone.
it'll make you miserable in the long run.
Nope, not asking much.
no way jose :)
not at all.
This isn't asking for much at all. If people actually followed this, relationships would actually work instead of being so .... effed up
You're not asking too much, you're looking for what's right for you! Too many people settle for "what's there" and not "what's best." Never become one of those! :)
Perfectly reasonable.
I don't understand people who don't follow some of this. I especially hate when people tell you what they think you want to hear instead of the truth.
it's not too much, but you might have to wait a bit for some of them, ie showing the "real you."
This is the best out of those "what I expect" posts. Good job. Sounds just about right.
@lewk@xanga - whats even better is when they tell you "what you want to hear" and it's totally opposite. Those moments are always fun to reflect on later.
I agree with all of them except the last one. In a relationship I feel it's your duty to make the other person know what their place is. I think what you look for in a relationship is admirable though. It's what everyone should want.
It's not hard to understand, and your deffinately not asking too much.
thats what i expect...plus a little more but those are some basic things. and yes the way you ACT shows a person how they should treat you and what your and their place is. good luck
i totally agree!xx