Question: How often do you talk to your significant other?
By "talk" I mean actually talking. Not texting, not IM-ing, not Facebook-ing, like actual voice-to-voice conversation. Notice I didn't say 'face-to-face' because I realize that there are some couples out there who don't see each other everyday. Still, that doesn't stop them from talking every day. I can't help but envy those people a little.
Here's the thing, I am one of those people who enjoys talking to my significant other everyday. Granted, that doesn't actually happen. But I can assure you that when I do talk to him it's usually the highlight of my day.
What?! I love my boyfriend! Therefor, I love talking to him. Is that so wrong? Plus, dude has a British accent (see Interests section on my profile)! *lol* So, naturally when I don't get to talk to him I can't help but feel just the tiniest bit sad. If you don't have a significant other, surely there must be someone in your life you look forward to talking to on a daily (or almost daily) basis. Right? So, on the days when you can't talk to that person, it's a little depressing.
I don't want to come off as one of those clingy girlfriends, but here's the thing: I'm in a long-distance relationship (LDR). I know, right? It's a little tough sometimes. Communication is all that we have.
Talking is as close to physical connection as I can get right now. And I know other people who have been or are in a LDR and many of them say they do try to talk to their boyfriend or girlfriend everyday otherwise they'd go crazy. It's not like "normal" couples who go to school together, work together, or just live within driving distance of each other. They're use to each other's daily lives. They can afford to take each other's presence for granted. Us LDR folks don't have that luxury, which is why we can get a little obsessive about talking to our significant other.
Talking everyday is not always possible, I know. People get busy, they get tired, they forget, whatever. But I still believe in making as much effort as possible to communicate with your significant other on a daily basis, especially when you're long-distance. On the other hand, I will admit that I do take advantage of the time that I'm not spending with my boyfriend. We live separate lives and that's fine. It's more than fine, it's great. Because when we do talk we actually have things to share and talk about.
Still....
There's nothing like ending a crappy (or even happy) day with a good ol' fashioned conversation with your beloved and hearing his or her wonderful voice. We are human after all. We crave connection especially with the ones who mean the most to us. And it's nice to be able to share our lives with that special someone, knowing we can tell him or her anything.
Are you itching to talk to that special someone right now?
By "talk" I mean actually talking. Not texting, not IM-ing, not Facebook-ing, like actual voice-to-voice conversation. Notice I didn't say 'face-to-face' because I realize that there are some couples out there who don't see each other everyday. Still, that doesn't stop them from talking every day. I can't help but envy those people a little.
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I am!!! Although I talked to him like 2 hours ago lol.
my boyfriend and I talk every single day...whether on the phone or in person. we talk atleast 3 or more times a day too. and its not like a chore like it used to be with my old boyfriends. we love just talking about anyhting and everything to eachother. I'm so glad I have that in a boyfriend.
I live with my SO, so I am fortunate enough to get to see and talk to him everyday. He's the talker, though. I'm really quiet, so when I do say something, it's probably important (at least to me). I generally prefer to listen.
Well I live literally right next door to my boyfriend right now...we live in college dorms. I miss seeing him for hours each day.
I'm just a bit spoiled...
when i did have a significant other, we talked every day even though we didn't see each other every day due to our crazy schedule. it's because i like to talk a lot but it's also good communication between us because we had no secrets from each other.
we aim pretty much every night, and play online vid-games. we phone if theres something important to talk about, and we see each other about twice a week usually. (we're an hour apart.) over a year and a half - i think we're healthy and happy, its good to me.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and half, we practically see each other every day, and definitely talk face to face in school, on the way home from school, when we hang out, etc. We talk on the phone on the days we don't hang out and text each other for the majority of the day when we're not busy [not during class, when hanging with other friends or family, etc].
When we go a day or so without communicating, I feel like somethings missing. We actually probably used to talk/text/see each other too much, but we have been able to balance our lives and see friends, do work, hang with each other in a successful manner that satisfies everyone!
I only went once without talking to him during the day and we've been together for a year and 4 months.. We talk a LOT on the phone and see each other just as much.. his mom always talks about his phone bill and even had to change up the contract so he could call me for free or something ( Im not sure how it works)
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I talk with my husband daily. Sometimes I do not actively listen, especially when he is giving me advice.
My fiance and I talk everyday, face to face. Though, we live together. I don't think you need to be in a LDR to appreciate communication, if you do it's a little sad.
Of course. Who doesn't?
When he's home, we talk every day - definitely. However, at the moment, he's deployed and soon will be in the middle of the ocean on a submarine, so communication will be extremely limited. But we make do with what we can. We write letters, send emails and talk on the phone when we can.
@gatorgirl54@xanga - Ooo! Jealous
!! But really, that's great. I'd KILL to have my boyfriend next door...lol
@Gorrific@xanga - Lucky girl! And I agree, you don't need to be in a LDR to appreciate communication. However, I think a lot of people who are not take it for granted they can talk to their SO everyday.
I talk to him a few times everyday. I generally see him on the weekends, so it's nice to keep in touch during the weekdays.
I'm single so talking to myself would just be....weird.
Well I'm in a LDR as well, as we talk a lot on MSN. We don't really call a lot (because of long distance calling cost), but we do call once in a while (every couple of weeks).
@Rambleongirl@xanga - BEST ANSWER EVER.
@raedium@xanga - thank you :)
Um, he needs a bit of space sometimes. I feel bad, everyone else is saying they talk everyday! But we've been going out for almost 1.5 years now so something must be good.
I hate LDRs, when I was in one my whole life was school and my bf was stuck doing the same thing every day with the kids at the orphanage he was @ in India, so.... nothing to talk about frequently :(
I see my boyfriend pretty much everyday when we're at school. We occasionally don't see each other for a day and a half at most when we're super busy, but it's really no big deal. I like space and so does he.
When we're apart we only talk about twice a week. No need to update each other on what the other ate that day and it makes the time when we do talk really meaningful and full of substance. We're busy people but we're always constantly thinking of each other : )
But I'm not sure if I could do an LDR for that long; my boyfriend and I have only gone about 3 months before I traveled to go see him.
My boyfriend and I IM each other often but ever since we started dating (about 11 months ago) we almost always talk on the phone at night. Be it an hour long conversation or a quick good night, we always make sure to give each other a call. It's important to me because I want him to be the last person I talk to every night before I go to bed--and he's usually the first person I talk to when I wake up. :)
oh i love it! My boyfriend and I don't see each other often as well. so thank God to our phones! We do meet up once every week , but sometimes the days im tired i don't want to , and that kind ticks him off!
The person I'm interested in is a distance away, and I'd love it if we talked on the phone...we're just not at that point yet.
Talking, as opposed to the technological craze, seems a lot more worthwhile. Especially when you're talking to your SO through texting or instant-messaging and the conversation just immediately becomes stale or inappropriate. Talking face-to-face seems to have a lot more potential substance.