Thursday, 24 December 2009

  • If You Like the Guy, Then JUST LIKE THE GUY!

    Dating isn't the end of the world.


    So what's the issue if you like a guy, then just like the guy?

    I know people don't wanna get hurt and you're trying to save your "heart" (which is in fact your brain). But really, you really not gonna know what's out there if you keep your guard up. I have a saying "keep your guard up for people that don't matter and have your guard down for those that do".

    I merely say this because, there are VERY few people that are worth your "true" feelings. I'm not really the one to inspire people but it's the truth.

    I'm only 23, but I've just learned this valuable lesson. I mean sure; you may be with many people until you find that "significant other". but in that process, you shouldn't just close yourself off from the prospect of a relationship.

    Relationships are important, but it's completely different if you're making it bigger then it is. I'm not saying to f*ck every man/girl in the world, just free your mind (and the rest will follow)

    Thoughts?

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Comments (51)

  • RaquelHiggins005@xanga

    I so agree. you have to get hurt sometime and from there you learn. I was afraid of liking someone because I Was afraif of getting hurt but then I stopped caring. Why should I close myself off when there's a possibility that I could miss out on somehing wonderful? And even if it never leads to more, there's nothing wrong with just liking someone.
  • idgafutz@xanga

    Great post. I can learn from this.
  • lewk@xanga

    There's also no shame in being straightforward about it.

    Waiting until he's in a relationship to tell a guy you are/were interested in him is not the best strategy.

  • mystic_sapphire@xanga

    I agree but... easier said than done. If you're not ready you're not ready.
  • anonymous

    i disagree with TC's opinion. failed relationships can be very painful, and stick with people their entire lives.  let people learn to love at their own pace. whether it's merely a lesson that needs to be learned or not, i think thats debatable even. especially if certain relationships mean everything to the person in question. lessons like these (of any kind really) can't be forced, it just makes the reciever incredibly unhappy. they may not even learn a thing from this particular example of that "life lesson" because they are so unhappy, what then? are they just left being unhappy? support your friend in healthy, friendlike ways. it's not your job to guide anyone toward pain.
  • k_Skrap_moua@xanga

    I feel you.  If I like a girl, i usually tell her.  If she doesn't like me back, it's just the way it should be.  As people, we just need to learn how to suck it up.  Don't ever waste your time leading anyone on, or being led on.  It's a waste of human effort. 

  • thisxemergencyx@xanga
    heres a quote that describes my intake on love, but not relationships since theres a difference:
    "you`re right. i`ve never had a bad break up,never had my heart broken into a million pieces.i have no right to put up these walls, right? but ihave seen my friends cry for months over boys who they gave their hearts to. i`ve seen boys promise 'forever' only to watch forever end afew months later, when they find someone better to sleep with. i`ve stayed up countless nights, not by choice, but because my parents were fighting so loud that i couldn`t fall asleep. i`ve been the shoulder to cry on. i`ve seen the strongest people in the world become weak for love. and i refuse to be that girl. i will never fall in love."
  • detectiv@xanga

    YOU WILL NEVER FIND LOVE FOR THAT NO ONE WILL EVAR LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111111 AGRAGAH
  • YaBoiAJ@xanga

    Good post!
  • jo_lovely@xanga

    Thank you SO MUCH for posting this. 
  • wiredXecstacy@xanga

    Thank you for putting this into words.
  • P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga

    En Vogue's song said it best
  • quiversound@xanga

    Don't try to give advice on something so relative and objectional.
    Don't even try to act like you're seeing reason through the fog.
    And to all of you that gobble this shit up:
    Write your own story.
    You are the only one who can help you.
    This is just another vortex of false hope on datingish.
  • kinifly@xanga

    Thank you for this, I needed to hear or um read this because I'm at this stage.
  • iJUST_ATEabug@xanga

    i really needed to hear this. easier said than done, of course, but hopefully i can put it into practice. :]
  • black_lie@xanga

    Haha, I'm pretty sure I would not be dating my SO  right now if I hadn't taken that advice... Ironically, it was given by another girl who liked him.
  • fallguyoftheheart
    True, something of this nature is objectionable and different for every person.  However, I feel that these words have light to them.  To many times have I seen two people who get along on so many levels are to afraid to see what might happen if they ventured out into the unknown.  Some people say I just don't find them attractive "in that way" yet when they are together they look like they are having a ball.   What is attractive "in that way" anyway, obviously if you enjoy each other's company then there is some level of attraction. Why not see how much that attraction can grow but that can only happen if both people are willing to go there.  If nothing comes out of that then your friendship should be strong enough to survive, if isn’t then I feel "friendship" was not really there to begin with.  
  • hangthedj_x@xanga

    This is very inspiring. I don't know why, but I am one of those people who always have their guard up. I have been in a wonderful relationship for a year and 7 months now and I STILL shut down due to fear. I know I'll never be as happy as I could be if I constantly have my guard up. I am working on it. Thank you.
  • TheNotoriousGOD@xanga

    every time i have a lapse of judgment and lower my guard, i seem to regret it rather quickly. 


    and this is coming from someone who's never even been in a relationship.
  • peacewithinsunshine@xanga

    i think this is a wonderful post
    putting your guard up only pushes people away who may have wanted to get very close to you, i have just learned a very valuable lesson as well.  His guard did nothing but not allow the relationship to flourish.

  • gifteddork219@xanga

    I like this post.

    And the stereotype is right - if you like the guy, just like the guy / if you don't like the guy, just turn him down.

    ^
    What I mean is that the quote: if you like the girl, just like the girl - does not work. Because us guys never have power on decision when it comes to dating, we normally ask you girls out and we normally face rejection or acceptance. Girls are normally the one putting their guards up and trying to defend / prevent their heart from hurting, whereas guys are the one normally letting guards down and developing feelings for the girl.

    Oh well, people may disagree, but... :D
  • IM_DUMB_YAY@xanga

    Ahahhaa.

    This blog would have helped me three days ago.
  • ih8gorgonzola@xanga

    Yaaaa, I agree. I just call it "go with the flow" and no one gets it.
  • mj_degreat@xanga

    Nice post... A kinda thumb-up for the ones that matters...
    Well I'll just say be nice to everyone and be happy about it.
    But don't make a fool of yourself and be too emotional about your liking...
    Just use your head!
  • ih8gorgonzola@xanga

    Dude but also, it's a pride thing for me. 

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