I often find myself in the middle of very awkward conversations. These conversations can range from a variation of topics including how much beer one is able to consume without puking; how, exactly someone can be "sexy as balls"; how much skin a male classmate is or is not getting, and even how my ex boyfriend is going to bang that chick who just drove by because she has a sexy car. Not only that, but how he's going to do so in the back of the sexy car. All of these subjects and ones similar to these are part of my daily discussions. Mix that in with a few sexual innuendos, double big-macs and a loud fart or burp here and there, and you've got yourself the "b'ys.”
"B'ys" is a word used by us Newfoundlanders as a term of friendship for a group of male friends. While "b'ys" is slang for "boys,” which would usually indicate that such people being dubbed "one of the b'ys" would have a penis, I have somehow wound up becoming one of the b'ys. One of the beer chugging, hockey-watching b'ys who make fun of the girls who can't eat a full slice of pizza at hockey on Saturday night.
Now, let's just get it out of the way that I'm not your typical tiny, short, skinny girl. I never have been. - I've always been able to eat just as much as the boys, and almost as fast as them, too, so perhaps that's the reason why they don't feel the need to save the discussion about their genitalia for when I’m not present. (Although ironically, enough, there have been plenty of times where I couldn't be in on a secret because I'm a girl.) I don't really understand why it seems that they believe I'm not a girl. I see myself as fairly girly. I love to shop. I have a purple iPod. I sleep with a stuffed animal. I LOVE wearing dresses. However, the boys who are my friends still see me as one of "the b'ys.”
I have a lot of guy friends. Four of whom I would consider my best friends, and at least another five or six who I see only school or randomly out around. While I still have my girlfriends, there are only about three who are really close to my heart, that I’m around a lot. One would think that with so many guy friends, it would be a breeze to keep a boyfriend, or get a date, right?
Wrong.
As it is for boys being best friends to girls, when a girl enters friend territory, there really is no turning back. You're no longer the cute girl he hangs around with, you're one of the b'ys who he watches hockey with. You're stuck. For example, I had a massive crush on one of my guy friends. (Well . . . I’ve liked a number of them.) I liked the guy so bad. When one of my friends casually asked him about him and I possibly dating, he replied "She's just so nice and such a good friend! I'd be afraid of hurting her." (At least their hearts are in the right place.) The same thing applies to about every guy I'm friends with. My most recent ex and I broke up because he felt like I was simply his friend. My best guy friend "doesn't want to touch my tit." My other guy friend is one of my best friend's exes. This narrows my list of awesome guys down to about two, one of whom has recently drunkenly screamed at me "KRISTEN! You’re my BEST FRIEND!" That crush went down the drain real fast.
Don't get me wrong. I love my boys. I always feel proud when my mom teases that all I ever do is go out with the b’ys, never the girls. And although being one of the b'ys does subject me to hours of teasing, playful bantering, gas a "guy talk,” it also has its perks. Yes, once in a while, they do realize I’m a girl, no, I don't have a penis, and yes, I do put on makeup and straighten my hair every morning. Sometimes they do sweet boy things like buying my lunch for me. I always get the door held open for me, and I’ve always got some strong arms around for help. I've always got someone to bring me back down to earth, or make me laugh when I’m angry. I've always got someone to make me happy without making a scene when they notice that I’m about to cry. I'm always the one they come to for advice, which is really nice, it makes you feel needed.
All in all, I wouldn't trade my boys for the world. Even though they can be smelly, even though they have dirty minds, even though I cringe every time I hear "wow. I’d give HER a poke.", I still would not trade them in for two girlfriends. Even ten.
Are you one of the "b'ys"?
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this post seems more like bragging than asking a question
I have about an equal number of male and female friends. I'm not one of the guys, but I am really laidback, so I'm not treated a whole lot different. However, most of my male friends are just waiting to see if they can get further than friendship, so that kinda sucks. My best guy friends are protective and sweet and funny though, so that makes up for it, but still.
Also, just out of curiosity, how would "b'ys" be pronounced? Like byes?
I'm the exact opposite. I technically dont have a single guyfriend. :[
Most of my friends are guys. Although, for some reason, none of them have ever completely friend zoned me, so our hang outs tend to be one long flirt fest, interlaced with the several raunchy acts they would like to do to to both the girls in passing, and myself. It's exciting
I can be one of the b'ys. I have 2 older brothers, no sisters, so I get along with guys really well. I've never been friend-zoned though - they usually turn into relationships.
@BlehhItsTu@xanga - don't feel sad :( I'll be your friend!
Um well considering I have a penis, I'm one of the boys. I wouldn't trade my guys for anything lol they make awkward situations even more awkward and funny jokes, funnier. They're cool guys, plus we destroy pizzas and love tits. Can't get anymore boyish than that.
I have equal parts male and female, I would say. My guy friends love me
because I'm super chill around them, I'm just as funny as they are and I can contribute to their conversations, no matter how awkward. I've been told that I'm just really cool and easy to talk to. And the same goes for my female friends. They don't see me as a tomboy or anything of that sort. So even though I'm tight with the guys, I'm still a girl ! haha
Eh I have more guy friends than girlfriends, but I wouldn't say I'm "one of the boys." I don't chug beers and I'm horrible at video games - I just scream and cringe away when scary things pop out. Just something about the way I act with them doesn't get me friendzoned.
yepp, i'm one of the b'ys.
I'm one of the boys. I'm one of the girls. The boys are one of the girls. The girls are one of the boys.
We just love each other all 'round and don't care about what's between the other's legs because that doesn't determine our personalities. We're all crazy, loud jackasses regardless of our respective reproductive systems. I wouldn't trade any of them for the world.
How do you pronounce that word?
I am. :)
And I wouldn't change a thing. I can only take so much girl talk and gossip at a time.Let me look nice and talk about action movies instead.
Haha I am. My girlfriends all went away to college, and most of the friends who stayed and the people I connected with and am now friends with are...guys. But I met my love through them, too. I had no problem slowly taking him out of the friend-zone.
I chug beer and do shots with the best of them and talk about all the intricacies of pooping and sex and penises like it's my job.
Also, at anime conventions, most of my friends are guys. And they're huge party boys. So I'll be stuck in a hotel room drinking and yelling uproariously (our version of a conversation) with them until 3am.
no, I'm not one of the boys. I tend to have close proximity syndrome, so eventually I'll start to like one of them
hanging around boys is like high school peer pressure to prove myself to them to be in their no girls allowed club
or a female trying to be in a male fraternity.
I am, but I'm ok with it. It was never me crushing on them but the other way around. Bleh, I just enjoy the time I have with them.
@k_Skrap_moua@xanga -
@FallenReign@xanga -
b'ys is pronounced "byes" :)
Sure, in a way. I've always loved guy friends more than girl friends in general, not that I have anything against girls or anything lol. I'm never really friend zoned though, but I end up friend zoning all of them though, to an extent.
I've always have gotten along better with the "b'ys." Maybe I'm stereotyping or just haven't met the right people, but most girls I know are OBSESSED with talking about other people, over-analyzing everything, and in general needing to chill-the-fuck-out. I love hanging out with my boyfriend and his friends because I'd rather drink beer and try to dance to AC/DC. So much more laid-back and I'm not stressing over whether I've said the right things or called back in an acceptable amount of time.
@anonymous - THAT'S THE FIRST THOUGHT THAT RAN THROUGH MY MIND!
@lobsterrxX@xanga - Thanks, I thought it was pronounced like "bee's". lol.
@anonymous - That was my first thought, too.
Also, how is saying 'byes' shorter than saying 'boys' or 'guys'?
@anon - it's not, it's just the accent around here. :) when some people with a stronger accent say "boys" it sounds more like an abbreviation, making it "b'ys", as they leave out the "o".
It's difficult to explain, if you visited, you'd probably understand. :)
@LoveYouToDeath16@xanga -
@anonymous -
To all of you, it was HONESTLY not meant as a bragging post. :) I actually re-read it to see where it seems like I'm bragging, but i didn't mean to take that sort of tone. I was just sort of frustrated that while I do love my friends, that it gets a little irritating when they would talk about their penises and talk about the girls that they wanted to have sex with. (even my ex did this WHILE we were dating.)
Hmm... I have more trans friends than guy or girl friends. Three of my best technically female friends act a bit more like my guy friends, I've got two guy friends that I love to death and another two or three that I like quite a bit and get along really well with, and about 1 good girl friend. So I don't know where that would place me.
yep! i am, and i love it! they always have my back and everything, no matter what.
my best friend just so happens to be my boyfriend, too. it's been over a year now and we're still going strong :)All of my friends here are boys. The only female friends I have is my sister, and a girl I was best friends with before I moved. I'm definitely girly, I just prefer guys because girls are so fucking dramatic. I hate it. I hate bullshit, mind games, holding grudges. I like communication, and it seems like guys do too. They don't "build walls to see who cares enough to tear them down -sniff-" Not that I'm not emotional, or that I'm against emotions, I just like to know where I stand and girls like to fuck around.