Relationships. They are what holds humanity to some sort of moral standard. Whether it be familial relationships, sexual relationships, friendships, or just mere acquaintances; They make you adhere to certain standards. However, not all relationships are healthy and/or meant to last. Let's see an example:
Guy meets girl. Girl likes guy. They date. Things start to get semi-serious. They meet each other's parents, and random relatives here, and there. Their parents meet, and everyone is getting along. One day, guy decides it's a smart thing to marry this girl. He asks, she says 'Sure.'
Now let's fast-forward ten or so years.
Both are internally sick of the other.
Everything that their spouse does that is not to their standards is annoying, or worse, causing extreme discontent within the other. These people should be able to talk to each other normally, discussing their problems and coming to a solution. Everyone around them can see the tension, and the things that they actually 'talk' to each other about, or rather argue about, are microbial things. Little tiny things that infect their thoughts, and feelings towards the other. This couple should inevitably end their relationship, right? There is no saving it. It is too far gone. The world's 'unintentional religious morals', you know.. The ones that were taught as secular? They are the base of this problem. Religion sets an amazing base of morals. Except, the way which we interact with each other. This hypothetical relationship should be ended, by either party.
Why in today's society is everyone upheld to some heinously high standard, which by the end of things causes more chaos than need be? Because of every other relationship that they have ever had. If parents taught their kids to be able to come to them with issues, whether it be with them or not, in a manner in which words were used non-maliciously, then the children's future relationships would be able to flourish healthily. If more people understood that their plenteous variating reactions to things caused an indirect malfunction in all their other relationships. Emotions should be taken with a grain of salt when resolving issues, so that facts and feelings put into words may come through.
Unfortunately, most people think that the drama must be present. For someone to really be in love, they must confess it upon the tallest mountain, to ALL the people of the world, so that everyone may share in their joy! This is complete bull-shit, and if any one of my significant others EVER did this.. I would shoot them. Twice. Just to make sure they are no longer sucking oxygen. Humans need to realize not everything is about the flash. Sometimes it's just having the ability to see what's dark that is truly important.
Alas, I am rambling.
Well, I hope this wasn't too bad.
And, please do take into consideration that I know there weren't any facts or real points in my argument. This is merely a means of venting my current frustrations.
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Well, this was a useful post.
..if you look to Datingish for incoherent rants wtf.
@InTheThin@xanga - ...yeah I thought maybe it was my inability to read lately.. nope. I think it's just someone's inability to coherently write.
Hahaha at the above comment - will you marry me and we can live in eternal misery but not split up and then one of us will climb a mountain and declare the other to be better than Eros?
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so what is the main point of this post..it started off well but not sure where the author was going...
No relationship is perfect and even if you think you found your soulmate. A person changes with time, so expect the perfect relationship to go downhill.
All relationships take work. Period. I think I said this on another comment on another post that was very similar to this not too long ago. No relationship is going to be perfect, and things arent always going to work out the way that the couple might want. But thats life! Don't sit around and bitch about it, just move on!
...someone's bitter.
hope venting helped you figure some stuff out, lol.
@NadoAngel@xanga - Exactly. If you have the time to sit around and bitch about it, obviously you would have had time to work it out.
You can't sit and wait for things to work themselves out. They'll just keep going downhill.
My boyfriend and I want to scream that we love each other off the top of a mountain, what of it? Some people in this world have truly unique relationships. Who gives a crap if we want everyone to know it?
Like you said, everyone has obnoxiously, impossibly high standards. I think that's dumb.
People need to go with the flow, be happy, and pull their snooty poles out of their asses.
This is just a crap, useless post, end of.
marriage isn't supposed to be perfect and not every moment is supposed be happy, happy go lucky, but you have to work with each other to overcome the obstacles that life brings you. of course it's going to be easy in the beginning but as a married couple, you have to keep the candle ignited to keep the love alive even if curve balls are thrown at you.
huh..
You sound as confused as I am when I talk about a topic on which I have and am caught between two different resaonings. Don't feel bad if noone understands or tells you speak clearly because at least you got that off your chest, now unto he fun part of picking a side! if you can't, then ramble to a friend.
Commitment, relationships, even friendship, they are not easy to maintain. It takes work. There are always times when one person or the other wish to exit a relationship, the problem occurs when both people want to exit at the same time. It should all work out to equal effort in the end, but if both partners want to put in 0 effort at the same time, then that is when things break.
I understand what you are saying... but you missed a point. You missed something you were really trying to say. I can tell. Something at the heart of the issue... about the heart of the issue. This was written straight from your mind in a flow of thought, not planned out in a triple-draft double edited project. As is it, it's unstructured but there is still truth in it.
yes really a good post. In today's life style many boys and girls are just making relationship with each other in-order to date and to have sex and they are not in any intention to marring further. They are just malfunctioning their relationship just want to enjoy their youth life. they are not aware of the problem they might face in future.
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haha love the logic. they are not talking about the real issues...so they should definitely split up right now, and it's society's fault they don't? what if they have kids?
how bout, they should actually talk about the issues. they should seek counseling, which often helps people like this (meaning: people who have a hard time "putting their feelings into words") actually talk about things with one another.
y'know, or you could just give up. not everyone thinks relationships should last forever, so those people don't get married. but don't blame society for your failed relationships. that's just silly.
are you angry about someone in particular that you're having difficulty in communicating with them directly, thus you resort to write an entry on datingish?
OF COURSE relationships are hard. It is not effortless although it feels like it when things are good and happy. OF course that doesn't last, NOTHING ever lasts, whether it's bad or good. OF COURSE it's difficult, two totally different people get together and promise committment, trust and love to each other, you are going to have issues come at you like snowball on a tornado. But that's what you DEAL with if you find that it's WORTH it. And if you realize it's NOT, then you ACT to change it, one way or another. Instead of writing a ranty entry about how you'll shoot your s.o. for shouting their love for you on top of a mountain.
@InTheThin@xanga - exactly!! its fine to rant, I just don't understand why it's on datingish lol I come to datingish to read sometimes useful, but at least coherent articles