Saturday, 19 December 2009
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Alone for the Holidays
Being single during the holidays. We've all been there right? It's not easy. Every holiday movie is about relationships. Every holiday song is about being with someone you love. Every commercial is about finding a special gift for that special someone.
Last night my friend, Steve IMed me saying he didn't feel right. He was lonely. He said it's partially because he misses Deborah. Now, Steve and Deb were together for 7 years during which he cheated on her and broke her heart several times. NOW he misses her? I asked him, honestly, do you just miss being with someone?
I think this feeling is what makes us lonely during the holidays. We don't miss an ex. We miss having someone to hold us by the fireplace or kiss us under mistletoe. We miss having someone special to shop for and to expect a special gift from. We miss knowing where our midnight kiss will come from. I miss all of that. I do not miss Bachelorette Boy or Nick or Ian. I just miss holding a man close and saying "Merry Christmas". We're feeling all this loneliness and we haven't even APPROACHED Valentine's Day yet! Yikes!!
WELL! I decided this season (since I am completely single with no prospects in sight) I am not going to focus on my loneliness because the truth is: I am not alone. I have the 3 best friends a girl could ever hope to have! Who could be lonely with that? This weekend Nicole will be my date to 2 holiday parties. My girls and I will cuddle when we get lonely/cold. They're my special people to shop for and get something meaningful from. We won't kiss at midnight but we'll ring in the New Year together and be happy for the love we give and receive from each other. A man would be nice but having 3 people who love you more than anything else in the world? Nothing can compete with that.
So this is my holiday suggestion for you single gals and guys: cherish those you have. Significant others are just icing on a very amazing cake for me and I hope that it's that way for you as well.
How do you you single people plan on getting through? If you're with someone, how have you gotten through the single holidays?
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Comments (53)
Very positive way to look at a potentially negative experience. I need to hang onto this.
I'm single and I'm gonna party like crazy!!!!!
Probably going to spend the holidays trying to hook up with some good company. I need more friends. I'm new around here you know.
By not thinking of the bad times, but the good ones.
Hang with some friends. I'm not much of a flirt, so friends will do.
In my experience, this time of year is usually the best for finding someone new.
Excellent post! We've all been there and the holidays are difficult when you're single. But I think you're looking at it in the right way.
Well, I've survived being single over the holidays for the past 19 years, the 20th surely won't kill me. I have friends, I have family, and frankly that's all I'll ever need to "get me through"!
Singles have more funnnnnn!!
i really needed to read something like this. :]
Just because you're single doesn't mean you have to spend it alone. I'm sure there are friends and family. You don't need a significant other to feel special and not alone.
This really made my day! I've been feeling a little lonely lately, especially watching my close friends & family all getting into new relationships. Thank you :)
in the past i've done just what you have - enjoyed the revelry of the holidays with my closest friends and families =)
As the most single man in history, I HATE this time of year. A 28-year-old eating Christmas lunch with his mum and her fella - so depressing. Nice post.
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@Agent_Spanky@xanga - Yes. Exactly. People tend to get lonely during this time of year if they're single but I think it's a great time to be close to those you love as friends or family.
@PMFoutofwater - I checked out your blog! I like it. I'm going to have to start following.
Even though I hate being lonely but uh huh, it doesn't matter much when you have
your friends & family around you ... is it right ?
This year, I think I'm gonna take myself away from thinking too much 'bout the boys, just be
with my girls and family ... haha yup!
Sooner or later, love will come around and maybe next year, things will get better anyway.
I love this post. I plan on spending these holidays with my family, my girl-- my best friend since grade seven-- and my boys-- the closest group of friends I've ever had the pleasure of having. Last holiday was my first holiday with an SO, and though it was fun, it wasn't all I had hoped it would be. My girl and my boys have always been there for me and I can't wait to be able to spend all of my time with my loved ones.
i just broke up with my bf. yeah, i wish i had someone sometimes, but what fun is partying if you have restrictions?
@Reckless@mancouch - Mmm... you have a friend in me now, handsome.
I've always been single during Christmas times and Valentines days :/
i have no idea -.-"
friends, work i guess
I plan on doing what I do every holiday. Stay in my room, Drink, play video games, and watch movies.
I love this and it was exactly what I needed to hear. I started thinking about my ex, and you're right, I don't miss him, just having someone. Great post and I hope your holidays are great and not so lonely :)