Friday, 18 December 2009
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When Is It Okay to Hit Your SO?
I've seen a lot of mixed opinions on this in past comments and posts, but I'm curious what the majority of people believe. People in general seem contemptuous of men who have ever laid a hand on a woman for any reason, but some also seem to think that it's okay for a woman to give her man one angry slap before kicking him out the door after finding out that he's done something terrible like sleeping with her best friend. Yet, others seem to be of the belief that men and women should be held to the same standards.
What do you think? Should all physical violence count as abuse? Is it okay to hit your SO when he/she does something bad? Or do your beliefs fall somewhere in the middle?
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This post is stupid.
I don't know but I have slaped my bf before and he has slaped me... only once but it was before we were dating.... four years later... no hits sooo... i don't know.
If my husband ever hurt me or my child I'd be gone in a hot minute! That is one thing that I have put up with in the past and it is completely unacceptable, that should be a given!
I also think that girls get away with this a little too easily. It shouldn't be okay to hit someone out of anger EVER, regardless of whether it's the guy or the girl.
My husband and I punch each other playfully...and I have smacked him, but only when he tickles me - I'm frighteningly ticklish and so I panic. He knows this so I have no sympathy, hah.
Hitting purposely out of rage or as punishment? Not okay, from either gender.
Hitting is never ok, from either side. Unless it's playful and accepted on each side, but even then, there's a limit. I mean... it's ok to "hit on" each other, but beyond flirting is downright unacceptable.
no hitting....BAD! next question please...
I don't hit my SO. However, I believe that if a girl throws a punch or a kick, she's fair game. If you are willing enough to assert violence onto someone, you should be willing to accept violence asserted onto you because of it.
Men and women should be held to the same standards.
As far as significant others goes, there should really never be a reason that it would ever come to violence.
1/ IN BED - mutual satisfaction
2/ When your SO hits you first, yes, slam that son of a bitch!
The only time it's ever "okay" to hit someone seriously is in self-defense. Otherwise, it's abusive. But I do agree with TequilaKisses on her first statement... masochism is in its own category, though, haha
I slapped my SO once playfully, but it hurt him and I felt horrible. Never again. Luckily he knew I was playing, but I really felt and still do feel bad. Poor guy, his ex used to kick him in his nuts, for fun =(.
I think if its playfully than it might be okay, but if its with harmful intent, it isnt.
It never is, coming from either side.
We believe in the double standard from the way we're used to seeing both scenarios. A guy gets slapped when he's being a creep, usually. But a girl is usually being abused when she's getting slapped around.
I know it wouldn't be right to hit my SO...and I haven't, but booyyy, it sure is tempting sometimes. And I'm sure it is for him too.
anytime i want :D
lol
JK.
IT IS NEVER OK TO HIT ANYONE! physical abuse is not to be tolerated in any way!!!
The difference is that when a man hits a woman, he could kill from one hard hit. Not so the other way around. If a man slaps a woman in the face as hard as he can, he could hurt her much more than if she did the same to him, in most cases. Secondly, a slap in the face for crossing the line by a lady is a lot different than a punch in the nose for an honest mistake by a bullying man or woman.
It's ok if they're into BDSM and they ask you to . . . otherwise, never.
it is never okay. however, if he hits me, I won't hit him back, I'll get back at him in other ways
bruising him physically won't hurt him as much as bruising his ego.
@mtngirlsouth@xanga - I think you're exaggerating.
It's ok to hit in self defense, or when it's already been agreed upon that it's ok to hit each other (eg in play). Seems fairly simple to me.
I believe that the only time you can hit a woman is if she's seriously trying to injure you. If she slaps me because she's upset or hits me in jest, that doesn't count. If she punches me full on in the face or kicks me in the stomach with intent to injure, then game on. If you hit like a man and behave aggressively, then expect to be treated like a man.
does spanking her when she is naughty count? Cause my girl likes that.
smack dat all on the flo'
..jk. don't hit people unless you're playing around.
or having kinky secks.