@decembriel@xanga - Depends on the person really.

I fell into that "trap" of sorts when I was younger. Now, I balance my own time--which has become very precious to me--with time spent with my boyfriend. I agree: you can love someone very much and still respect one another's space and independence. My boyfriend and I both have our own, distinct lives; yet we're still a happy couple and enjoy each other's company. I think it takes time to learn what works best. And sometimes, I think some people are wholly unaware that they may be spending too much time clinging to their partner. A gentle reality check can be very helpful. : ) I know I get "itchy" for some girl-time when I've spent too much time with my boyfriend. Nothing personal, and nothing against him, but I do like my ( small, but happy ) social life, too.

i think a reason for that is because girls seem to make plans with their friends more than guys. guys are willing to do stuff or consider stuff more when their SO is involved. also maybe some of the invites he declines from his friends are invites to clubbing/partying/late night events. he may be trying to consider your feelings when it come to things such as this. events.  Winter break vacation may also be one of them. he may be trying to consider your feelings. if I went on a vacation to say vegas or on a trip with a bunch of girls, i know that my SO wouldn't feel good about it so i really try to consider her feelings when it comes to things like this. Your SO may be the same way.

For other events, you may need to ask him why he declines them. Are you sure it's you and not something else? I know that if if my friends invited me somewhere and i knew my gf would go then that would give me a greater reason to go. things such as tiredness or laziness to go out would make no difference if my SO went out with me. but if she doesn't go, then all those reasons plus how far the drive would be to the event would make me reconsider.

I also think that if you really need your space then you should just tell him. After all, relationships are about communications. I'm sure he would understand. "Is it too much to expect your SO to understand your situation without having to ASK can we not see each other today?" If you don't ask, how would he ever know that you want your alone time? seems like he's accustomed to seeing you everyday and for him to just understand without him knowing if kind of difficult.

well, from my own personal experience. it does depend on how you start off the relationship. my man and I were dating for 2 years and just finally called it official. couldnt be any happier but while we were in the dating phase. we each had our own groups we hang with and there are times we would hang with the same crowd. easing in the transition of being 2 strangers turning from friends to lovers. we still have our own agendas. we moved in together too. we both work and our only arguments would be about whose doing the cleaning next. other than that, i can say our relationship is pretty healthy. hes not clingy nor am i and were both still young. so pretty much, my point is. its how you start off that will result in whether things will be bad or good.

After ten years of marriage I say it is damn nice to be able to see my husband for ten minutes between the time he gets home from work til the time his head hits the pillow!

i thought this blog was actually gonna be about puppies following people. :(

SO's come and go. But SO CAN FRIENDS! Trust me, you cannot trust anyone to stick by you anymore!

From my experience, the guys I know usually forms deep bonds with girls instead of their male buddies. So when they do get into a relationship, they make that girl their best friend and just forget about the world. This is only for most of the guys that I know though. Lol. Some of my guy friends complain about their guy friends in relationships because they seem so whipped by their girlfriends and they basically disappear whenever there are plans of hanging out and getting together are made.