Friday, 18 December 2009
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"How Do You Do It?"
I have a friend who likes to follow me around. Don't worry, I REALLY don't mean me haha. Anyways, because I love to keep him anonymous, I shall not name names. Let's call him TT. Now this friend; well he likes to follow me around, and one day, asked me "How do you do that?". How do I do what exactly? I really had no idea the first time he asked me that.
*Now I'm going to be honest about myself for a second here. I'm probably one of those "middle tier" guys. I'm not the best looking, though I am pretty attractive ;) and I'm not exactly known to be the nicest guy out there. I'm probably considered as "average/slightly above" by most.
So, I do have a lot of female friends. About 70-80% of the people I'm with most of the time are female. I have a long history with a lot of them, both intimate and completely innocent, so having a girl around isn't really a big thing. Well TT just came out and was asking me how exactly I talk to these girls in the first place. Though flattered, I kind of giggled at the fact that he portrayed me as some kind of super pimp. I knew TT for about a month at this point (yes this was quite recent as well). I can't say that I knew the guy well, but I didn't expect him to actually think that. He's a tall black guy (about 6') and I'm a short Filipino (about 5'6), so it's just not something you expect.So what advice did I give him? Well it went something like this: "Ermm... I really don't know man, it just happens. I just... talk? haha... it's really not that hard". He gave me a look, one of those "You're shitting me" looks, thinking I was lying. Truth is, I didn't know what to tell him.
My question is.. how do you do it?
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Comments (37)
I make corny jokes to keep them interested. Hopefully they'll be interested.
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Relax. Be confident. Be yourself.
2 easy rules.
1. you need to be kind of an asshole.
2. having women around you begets having more women.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - LOL. That's exactly how he gets women. ;D
just go with the flow. don't talk as if you are memorizing lines and be friendly, smile and laugh. show that you really enjoy being around them.
Its a secret, dammit!
sex and drugs
@andeeeee@xanga - I agree your answer =/ LOL
@andeeeee@xanga - yes.
YOu just gotta be street smart. Random stuff always keeps a conversation going..
Be charming and witty. Keep the conversation going.
have lots of money and flaunt it.
no seriously.
All any woman wants is attention.
Pay attention to things she says and does, and just notice her.
And a sense of humor is always a good thing to have, that's definitely a must for any guy in my book.
If I could find that in a man again... I'd be the happiest girl alive.
I talk and try to keep things interesting. Find a common topic and talk about it.
Be yourself, relax and have fun.
I feel like a lot of people seem to think they're middle tier to top tier.
I think they did a study once where people rated how "popular" or "cool" they were, basically how high they were socially ranked, and something like 90% of people thought they were above average.
Anyways, don't seem desperate, don't seem like the guy who latches onto girls and never lets go. Honestly I've seen a guy who was VERY attractive when he was sitting and eating, but once he stood up, the way he walked made it obvious how awkward and not confident he was, and it was surprising to me how much his attractiveness went down. He just seemed like the type of guy who didn't have many friends and would sit in a corner and eat by himself.
Confidence is everything.
just be honest with yourself --- you want TT ... BAD.
Really, I don't "try" to "do" anything. I'm just myself. And that seems perfectly good enough to attract the attention of others--from my experiences, anyway.
witty and funny leaves them wanting more of you...
It's all about confidence - which your pal is clearly lacking.
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
Just talk. Really. A guy who is willing to make good conversation goes a long way in my book, friend or otherwise.
Being geniune, being consistant, and just nice. People can tell when you're putting on a face or playing games. You don't want to be an asshole, just be nice. Girls like... When you smile at them. When you talk to them look her in the eyes every once in a while. It's not code for don't look at her boobs. Lol. I'm being serious, people gain a sense of trust and security when you look them in the eyes. But you don't have to try to plunge into her soul or anything. Lol. It's not a staring contest. Try to relax, I know it's kind of nerve wrecking.
Tell him to be confident in himself. Girls and people really like to see someone who's confident and proud of who they are.
I personally kind of like a guy being a partial asshole to me. I hate pushovers. Butting heads is what i do best. Being my type involves dominance, not beating around the bush about stuff, and having confident and energetic personality. Bold guys are the most attractive!
@wingedferret@xanga - def agreee!