Thursday, 17 December 2009
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Married or Single? Is That All It Is?
Have you noticed that the marital status options on social networking sites such as MySpace and Facebook only give you a very general idea on a person's status?
Neither did I till I decided to view my subscription of Dan and Jennifer on YouTube. And they brought up a very good point. We know that relationships can be complicated and can't just be described as such. I think you should be able to explain exactly what your relationship stands.
Examples:
"I'm just having sex with her. I'm thinking whether we should be together of just remain friends with benefits"
"I'm not with anybody but I have sex with everybody"
"I'm like Lil' Wayne and wish I could f*** every girl in the world"
"I have one girl I like and one I just bang"
"I'm debating on if I should hit her or spit on her like "New York" got spat on during "the Flavor of Love"
Simple stuff...
I don't think there should be a set way you fill in your status. You can say the arbitrary if you want but for those that want detail, having the option doesn't hurt. Otherwise; it will call for some confusion if you're not able to get the full story from someone. In my opinion, you should be able to have the option to explain your particular situation. But if you're more in favor of; single, it's complicated, monogamous relationship or a open relationship, as they suggest, I think that would cover it.
Thoughts?
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Comments (26)
Because Facebook is the end all, be all of relationships, right? And advertising all your personal business on the internet is always a good idea, especially when you have employers, professors, advisors, etc scoping out your life 24/7.
This is why my relationship status is unlisted
There are Facebook groups campaigning for more relationship options. People now want the option to be "In a realtionship with ___ but cheating with ___" or "Friends with Benefits with ___" or "Crushing on ___ but he/she doesn't know it yet" or "Creeping on ___"
I think my status will remain as is.
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga
Seriously, who cares about facebook/myspace relationship status? (Hell, I don't think I've even logged into myspace since like October, and facebook I'm only ever on to respond to messages people send me.)
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - yeah... that's basically what I was going to say.
@sarahzthoughts@xanga - Aww. Fancy. But I don't want the whole world to know I'm "In love with _______ but he doesn't love me back". Lolz.
I think whatever my status is, I prefer it to be private.
@silverlocket_88@xanga - That's something me and my best friend would do as a joke
Yeah..never thought about that, but I do agree.
Or, select that blank option until your in a relationship that fits a catagory. The no one knows your business. Plus, when your just starting out something and you don't really see it as everyone's business, it doesn't have to be. But at the same time, you aren't making the SO question the "Single" status.
/ramble.
All the examples given are lame.
I honestly think Facebook's options are fine.
I see the point of this blog and in some ways the arbitrary descriptions are truer. It seems the more offensive a remark, the closer to the truth it is.
For example, I sleep with late night radio show on and I dreamt about a racist joke personified by sex and violence because I was listening to such a joke in anecdote form.
Yep, I've been thinking there needs to be one for 'Stalking'...not fair that we're always excluded.
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
My relationship status is unlisted because I don't like the idea of saying I'm single. It somehow implies I want to be in a relationship eventually (which I don't).
I know, Facebook isn't the end all be all to anything; however, I would like Facebook to let people have more creative freedom to define who they are and what their relationships are like instead of making arbitrary lines for everyone to follow.
I think it's basic enough. People don't have to know every detail of a relationship. Single, in a relationship, engaged, and married can give people a pretty solid idea of your where you are with someone. For anything else, like what you mentioned...Well, I guess that's what 'it's complicated' is for. But really, what does it matter?
My relationship status is unlisted.
They should just have a write in and leave it at that. Then everyone can reveal as little or as much as they like.
@salvatruca_stalking_havok13@xanga - this is what i do too! it's silly to list yourself. i'd rather just hide that little box, instead of having a relationship status like everyone else.
i could swear there's a "swinger" option on myspace.
that's kind of a middle ground.
and a "in a relationship" option.
that doesn't exactly say what kind of relationship.
that kind of helps.
whatttt????? whoooo carrres....i dont ugh!!!!!!
Just one of about two dozen boxes on myspace and facebook that doesn't fit how I live my life.
i always leave it "it's complicated" because i sometimes don't even know it myself.
I think its fine the way it is.
its stupid to get news feeds of people on your friends list everytime they have a fight with their bf and everytime u break up and get together. I mean i dont really care. You get those people when ever they get a slight new developement they put their relationship status as "complicated" just ugh im sick of social networking sites.
If they put too many option then we will all get TMI
I honestly disagree. I could care less if you have an open relationship. I could give a rats behind if you like a girl, but have 3 fuck buddies on the side, and are still considered single. Single is anything between lonely single to fuck buddy single. I don't care what your relationship status is, but single covers what i said, open is obvious, as well as taken. Facebook has complicated, and everything else too. Why do we need a status that says "I fuck people"? (not even a set sex... just people) The options are great, and there aren't many people who care about what you do (besides those who gossip and love drama).
facebook is overated
Facebook just lists generic choices.
If you don't know or have something other than what's listed, then don't put it. Simple as that.