Wednesday, 16 December 2009
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Don't Ignore Me
Ok, so I'm a little crazy, maybe. But one thing I cannot stand in the least is to be ignored, consciously at least. If someone gets sidetracked, that's fine & doesn't bother me, but when someone flat-out does not respond to me, knowing that I'm trying to communicate to them somehow, it drives me insane. It makes me want to beat them senseless! Sounds like I have an anger issue, huh? Well, maybe I do. I don't know. It's just one of those things you don't want to do to me, if you're close to me or want to be.
My boyfriend's been doing it... again. And it makes me so angry. I don't know what the deal is. Did I do something? Do you still love me? Have you forgotten about me? What's the deal? That's all I want to know! If it's something I can fix, please tell me. I'll fix it. If it's something that I've done or am doing, please tell me so I can apologize sincerely. Just don't ignore me and expect me to understand why you won't respond to anything I'm saying to you.
It's not like I'm spamming him with txts or IM's. Maybe one or two a day on either, not both, & that's it. Sometimes not even that. I'm just trying to get his attention is all, and I get nothing back! If I could call him, I would. If I could drive over to his house, I would. But I can't. He's been going places, not entirely behind my back, but doing things he knows I don't want him doing. I can get over all that mess. I just hate when he ignores me, thinking it's better for him or me that way.
If he at least told me he wouldn't be on for a while, I could deal with that too. Just him never answering anything makes me want to rip my hair out!
Please tell me there's someone else out there who feels the same way.
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Ohmygosh, you aren't alone at all!!! It drives me crazy! My ex-boyfriend used to do that to me constantly. I hated every moment of it. No, your not alone at all!
I think this is yet another doomed relationship. Cut your losses and dump him. You should not allow yourself to be treated in such a manner.
Yes! I had a boyfriend who ignored me for about 5 days. Out of the blue. He just didn't respond to me anymore and never contacted me. I would cry at work, home, out with my friends, everywhere. I was a total emotional wreck. Then, I turned into the crazy girlfriend and showed up at his house. He was there in his room listening to music. We ended up breaking up. He told me he ignored me because he just needed space........If he had just told me this, I would have been understanding. Guys never understand that communication is key.
My ex did that too! It was horrible. You're definitely not alone.
Wow I can relate to this a lot, but not necessarily under the same circumstances. I hate hate hate when people ignore me. It's the worst thing someone can do to me. It's like they're saying "You are such a big fucking pile of crap that you aren't even worth my attention anymore". I can't even find the power within myself to ignore someone, even if they tell me I should. I am incapable.
In your case, you should get rid of that guy. He doesn't sound like he's worth it if he doesn't even give you the time of day.
@Believe_InMe - just about THE same thing happened to me. exactly. UGH
guys just do NOT understand communication. He needs a reality check. badly. what an ass.
Well, I'm in that very same situation right now! And I HATE it! People get tired too.
@Believe_InMe - Ohmygoodness that's exactly how my last two relationships ended, except they were dragged out over two weeks. thing is, I gave them plentyyyy of space, no communication for those two weeks. if you didn't want to be with me, just be upfront instead of stringing me along for two weeks, having me worry about you, then calling me clingy when I was only caring. -_______-
Yup. Same here. I HATE it. And no, you don't have an anger problem (from what you tell us in this post). It's infuriating to be ignored! But seriously, it ends up chipping away at your self-esteem because you end up thinking you're not important enough for even him to talk to you. Which is NOT true. So I would have a serious look at this relationship before you really get hurt.
Its obvious that he doesnt want to talk to you, just get the hint and stop calling,texting him and just maybe he will call u back. Give him some space and time
I seem to be noticing a trend here....everyone can relate either because A. they're EX did it to them or B. they're currently going through the same thing....but no one seems to have worked this one out...
In which case a past relationship of mine suffered the same casualty. He wouldn't call, or try to get ahold of me at all he wouldn't answer, I'd go to his apartment and he wouldn't be there etc. I got fed up with being ignored and left his sorry ass.
You can do better and find a guy who's willing to give you the time of day. Believe me. I've moved on and found a few (broken up for assorted other reasons). They're out there.
if he wants his space give him PLENTY. ignore him. if he thinks u dont deserve his attention.. than he doesnt deserve yours. my bf's mom who is a very smart lady told me that once a guy thinks he got the girl wrapped around his finger he thinks he can just act like she doesnt exist.. the best way is give him something to miss. so stop trying to talk to him, go out and do your own thing.. and flaunt it that your fine and fabulous without him. he'll come around. ;) and if not.. he's not worth your time.
There is a fine line between "typical boy behavior" and flat-out douche-baggery...sometimes the difference between the two isn't much
it's the most annoying thing ever, i can't ever figure guys out because of this...
@spitinyoureye@xanga - Well said! I think I am one of the lucky ones here; this has never happened to me. However, my father actually used to do to that to my mother all the time. For no reason apparent to me or the rest of my family, he would suddenly stop talking to my mom and ignore her altogether -- sometimes for months on end. Imagine that! They were married and he acted like that. Talk about douche bag behavior. :D
oh gosh agree X 129348723. When we're fighting, my fiance will just randomly stop responding because he knows it pisses me off more than ANYTHING else he could do or say. Not to mention he'll sometimes randomly leave and then turn off his phone so I have no contact whatsoever, it's really quite an asshole move, especically since he knows how much it pisses me off and thats why he does it.
Anyways, /rant. All I wanted to say was that I agree. lolhaha, if he plays call of duty modern warfare 2 while he is ignoring you then haha take it easy on him... anything else beat the crap outta him.
He needs a slap in the face or something, there is no excuse whatsoever for that type of behavior
Oh I hate it when people ignore me too. You're not alone nor crazy.
he is repeatedly ignoring you because- "He's been going places, not entirely behind my back, but doing things he knows I don't want him doing." so if he calls back or answers your calls/messages, he'll feel obligated to explain why he still does those things that you don't like and he doesn't want to have to feel guilty for doing things that you might not like but he likes to do them even if they might not be good. you might feel disrespected but he probably feels that he is losing part of his freedom because he can't do some things that he wants to and is avoiding confrontation with you by ignoring you. I think guys should be more clear about their feelings but maybe he just isn't that interested in you and doesn't know how to say it without hurting you, so he is hoping you'd get tired of it and break up with him so he doesn't have to do it. who really knows.
YES I feel the same way it just drives me insane. My ex used to do that occasionally. One time he went 2 weeks without saying or typing a word to me. I didn't try to talk to him directly since I knew he was working odd hours and was always afraid of waking him up if I called, and I felt like I had been initiating things too much lately, but I would try other ways of getting his attention and nothing worked. I finally broke down and IMed him and he said everything was fine, nothing was going on and he was just working a lot. I had been going insane for a week and he hadn't even noticed anything. Boys are so stupid.
Whenever this happens I just go
FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU
WTF IS GOING ON.
God it drives me insane. esp when my ex's phone literally doesn't accept my calls, can't call me, just sometimes text, and she never checks emails...
Argh
willfully ignorant ppl can suck horse dick, not just any horse, a huge horse.
You're not abnormal or the only one who feels this way. I think a lot of people feel the same way. I hate being blatantly ignored. I actually get a little mad when someone's talking to me then gets sidetracked and completely forgets about me until say hours later. And the only reason they get back to me is because I message them asking what's going on, then they remember. Argh....yeah anyways, def. a normal feeling. To be ignored by one whom you care about or are trying to directly communicate with is just rude and also an immature way to handle things if nothings even been said or explained as to why the person decided to suddenly ignore all communication efforts.
I hate it when people that matter to me ignore me. It drives me crazy too. But thank God that hardly happens because I have blunt and honest friends.