Sunday, 13 December 2009
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It's Better To Have Loved and Lost
...than to have never loved at all.
We all know how the saying goes, but do we all think it's true?
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Yeah, because then when someone else goes through the same thing, we can all tell our sob stories and be sad together.
But at least love is something which most can relate.
no. i really don't. i think that's all bullshit.
yeah i do. i used to regret never sharing my feelings with my now-bf before he had a previous gf. now that they have long since broken up and we're dating, i'm going through it so as to never regret holding anything back.
Yeah, when I was with my boyfriend, I thought this was true. But now that we've broken up... I wish I'd never loved him. The good times are memories but every bit of it hurts and I don't think I'll ever be able to think back about it without being sad.
Yeah....I went through some hard crap with my last boyfriend (fiance)...I really loved bring with him..
But we broke off our engagement...
I don't regret any of it because it's made me who I am today and taught me a lot about relationships (even though breaking up was the most painful thing I've ever had to go through). We're currently not friends, but I do respect him and his family.
I am who I am today because I dated him....and I'm a lot different now. I'm sure my current fiance is grateful that I'm a different person. I'm more compassionate now.
Yes, otherwise how do you know it's love when you find it again?
@Utoppia - Good point.
the real quote should be: "Better to have loved and lost than to have spent the rest of my life with that PSYCHO!" hahah. saw it on a tshirt, bought it for my best friend, and we joke about it allllllllll the time :)
It might be true the first few times, but after the third and the fourth and the fifth...you just wonder about love, I think. You accumulate that baggage and it haunts you for the rest of your life. Sometimes, it destroys future relationships and it leaves you insecure, dissatisfied, paranoid, cynical...the list goes on.
When it comes to matters of the heart, I believe that we should proceed with caution and not take this statement to mean get love wherever and whenever you can.
Yes.
No, not at all.
no... and the only way i could feasibly think otherwise is if the good times overtook the bad.
I'm definitely a different person because of the relationship that my ex and I had, but I would have been totally fine not knowing what losing love feels like. I don't think I'll put myself through it again. It was the WORST thing I've ever had to go through. It's not better to have loved and lost than to never love at all. The ones that haven't been in love are the lucky ones.
Well, if we're talking about just romantic love, clearly I disagree with the saying. I'm a testament to just not giving a fuck about it.
In all other cases of love (familial, platonic, etc.), I would agree. Living your life without someone like a family member or a friend to love would be hard...unless you're a sociopath or something.
I think it's true. If you are in a good relationship, You learn things about yourself and grow despite the heartbreak. There are also memories involved. It's a memorable time in your life that changes you for the better. It all makes a person stronger. I wouldn't give up anything even though the break up leaves me quite a wreck for a bit. Temporary pain for a greater experience.
I agree. Love in general, not just the passionate lovey dovey kind of love but the love you give to your friends, family and your own lover as well.
yeahh
I'd say it's right around 72% of the time.
If it was a good love, yes. If it was crappy, then no.
@materialactress@xanga - i agree with you on this
It seems true. I can't imagine living an entirely loveless life.
No. It's bullshit.
no, not at all. I used to think that before i lost love. and then i lost it again. i think i was WAY better off before i ever started dating. i'd rather the feeling of never knowing what there was to have, then losing what i had.
hands down.
I think it depends on the relationship. A good relationship that ended badly is often the kind I wish I never had because it hurts so much more.
whenever you suffer a great loss like that, theres a lesson inside the experience that may feel crappy.. but it drives you deeper and you discover things about yourself that make you stronger, more humble, more real.
how shallow of a person would I be if I never knew what it felt like to *know that I can overcome adversity like that...