Friday, 11 December 2009
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The Eternal Question: Blondes v. Brunettes
When I was a teenager and still living in California I used to walk around in a perpetual gloomy state. So I didn't exactly give off good vibrations, as the good ol' beach boys sang. At the time I had nothing to smile about. I didn't like myself very much and I don't think many boys liked me either. Some of them actually called me a dog. How mean can you get!!
Back then, I was short (well I still am) and ermmm plump. I hated my body so much that I used to borrow my Dads' T shirts to hide myself in. And to top it all, I felt I was ugly. Well, lets just say I felt that I was rather plain looking compared to my sister and the tanned surfer blue-eyed babes with long blonde hair and exotic dark longhaired hispanic beauties in school. I had blue eyes alright but I was neither blonde nor darkhaired. I had wavy mousy brown hair which my Dad, for some reason or other, insisted I kept it short well into my early teens. I still can't understand the reasoning behind that logic! Perhaps he was jealous - who knows? Anyhow I felt I was part of the scenery. You couldn't exactly say that I stood out of the crowd.
All that changed when I was sixteen and came to Malta. I began to shed weight over the next couple of years and actually started feeling comfortable in my own skin. For the first time in my life I began to feel I was attractive. I stood out here. I also came to realize very quickly how Maltese men tick. You see Maltese men - most of whom are dark skinned and dark haired - seemed to be more attracted to fair-haired women with blue eyes. And by Maltese standards I was fair, so therefore appealing. Knowing this, I was never short of boyfriends and since Maltese men preferred blondes, I capitalized on this fact by going a hair shade or two or three lighter and wearing my hair as mother nature had intended - long, curly, wild and free.
In a similar vein, I too was attracted to darkhaired men. Blonde, blue-eyed men did (and still do) nothing for me. I'm not usually attracted to them, that is. In fact, most of my boyfriends have been guys with a typical Mediterranean complexion. I've also dated a few foreign men in the past, but most of my boyfriends and my ex have been Maltese. That is up till now. Jan doesn't seem to fit the bill - he's not dark haired or skinned and certainly not Maltese. And I don't seem to fit his 'type' either. It's not that we are not attracted to one another because we certainly are. However we (I more than him actually) often tease each other about not being each others' 'types'. :)
So my questions for today are these:
If your boyfriend told you he finds darkhaired Mediterranean women very appealing and you are fair haired and skinned would you shrug it off or get offended? Do men - especially dark haired men prefer blondes? And do opposites really attract? What do you think?
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I like redheads but it really just depends on the guy.
Hey, if he's with you, then what's the big deal? Obviously, you have something that other women don't, and whatever it is managed to attract and hold on to him. I wouldn't be offended, I'd be flattered. I must be pretty great to make him deviate from his usual type.;)
-Katie
I think all types can be beautiful; it depends on the person, really. =]
I like blondes, brunettes, black and redheads--with most luck in brunettes and black. Blondes seem to be immediate friend zones with redheads being professors. >_<
Am I missing a key/natural hair color?
I have dark hair and eyes and tan really dark (mostly from my Cherokee blood, which somehow seems to override my English/Scottish ancestry) and am rather tall. I tend to be attracted to tall (over 6'0) guys with dark hair and blue or green eyes. They're usually on the skinny side, but muscular. Haha. I'm not really opposite of the guys that I'm attracted to, and rarely attract the blonde-hair-blue-eyed guy. So yeah.
asians!
though we'd technically fall into brunettes...
I'd shrug it off. I'd say no to the second question and third questions, but maybe.
its weird i always thot dark haired/eyed guys were really attractive, but my bf's all ended up blond hair/blue eyes. i think appearance just doesn't matter so much to me... lol i mean, my bf is adorable, but its the part that makes him HIM that i like :)
I have a darker Mediterranean exotic look which some guys seem to have a preference for, plus I'm tall so I stand out at least on that front. I like my guys dark...like the darker the better. I have a preference for black guys, and they seem to like me too haha. Blonde/blue eyes usually doesn't do anything for me...sometimes though. For the question, I don't get the point of someone telling their SO that they have a preference for something other than what their SO is? I don't know if I'd be offended or flattered. My boyfriend always tells me that he doesn't like blondes, I dunno, but a lot of his (dark) friends seem to like blondes.
I got stuck with blonde hair growing up. Not just blonde. White blonde. My mom had it to. Very pale skin and blue eyes. People used to ask my grandmother if she was part albino. -.- Anywho, I dye my hair brown and I will keep it that way. Being blonde isn't that amazing. My grandma used to take us to dollywood during the summer.. Apparently, the hornets really liked my hair. Nuff said.
dear perspn who wrote this,
this question should only be asked when you cant find a red head.
sincerely,
a read head.
BAHahahaha i said read instead of red. ohgosh what has finals week done to me
Of course, the answer will always be REDHEADS.
Hmmmm, all of my boyfriends exes are blonde and I am VERY much a brunette (but fair skinned thanks to my swedish ancestors). I felt a little self conscious over it in the beginning thinking I wasn't good enough, but when I asked my boyfriend why he just said brunettes were always his attraction, but too intimidating to approach so he dated blonde women. I loved it! I felt seriously powerful over this statement.
@pawnshop_heart@xanga - Me too (: Go gingers!
My boyfriend has told me that he really likes red heads but I'm a brunette. It was like, okay, that's cool... it's kind of a strange thing to say but everyone has their own preferences. It's not to say that one day you won't find a really hot girl with blonde hair or brown hair or whatever other color and like them best. I prefer brunettes, typically, but every now and then there is a really good looking blonde.
And the correct answer is....redheads!
dark haired beauties will always come out on the top of my list. As well as redheads, they're tied for first.
I can't choose! That is, for girls... i think i like dark hair best on guys.. my bf has black-ish hair. I love rich dark hair. XD
But essentially, best hair color is nearly an impossible thing to choose!
I just came back from Argentina and my experience is that Latino men are more drawn to Blond and fairer looking women as far as I can tell.
Being blond and blue eyed, I find more guys who have darker complexions like me than those guys with lighter complexions. I dont know why that is. However, it is good for me because I like darker complexioned guys, but to be honest...it doesn't bother me either way.
He could have blue hair and if he has a heart of gold, He would win me over.
--Lauren
black hair ftw. indian girls with fair skin are my absolute least favorite, i think--conversely, if they have dark skin they get bonus points.
@tsunami_kid@xanga - freudian slip :)) ... brains over beauty?
"Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall in love with a gorgeous redhead." - Lucille Ball
My husband would tell you to forget blonds and brunettes. Redheads, like myself, are superior. ;)
REDHEADS FOR LIFE!! <3
I've never had a problem with my boyfriend complaining about type, because I AM his type. lol He said he loves the glasses (although I never wear mine) brunette look. He likes my natural blond highlights too.