Pros of Players:- They are experienced in bed
- They're just looking for casual sex
- They'll buy you a ton of drinks
- They can be smooth and convincing
Cons of Players:- They've been around
- They're just looking for casual sex
- They're usually chauvenistic douchebags who objectify women
- They fumble around with words when their player buddy counterparts who are hotter than them, are around
Pros of Reclusive Nerds:- They're loyal, devoted and usually quite intellectual
- Most likely have never had sex and thus no STDs
- They're romantic and have thought out plans for wooing you
- They have interesting things to say
- Always there for you, a shoulder to cry on
Cons of Reclusive Nerds:- They're extremely clingy, emotional, and can't take a hint
- Most likely have never had sex and thus bad sex ensues
- Their romance ideas are from D&D, Star Wars, maybe the Vulcan ritual for a mate
- They're potentially stalker-y and creepy
- The interesting things they say can go right over your head as you don't know much about the nerdy things they do
There's obviously no winner here. By the way, all men fall into this category. That's why women read harlequin novels and chase celebrities down who play fictional, perfect men.
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Comments (59)
-shakes head- This had such an eye-for-an-eye feel to it. I think the other post was taken far too seriously, and this just proved my point. Whatever floats your boat, though.
I love my nerd. period. I love a person who has a brain and uses it well.
some nerds got the knowledge from reading "biology" books, particually dealing with the female body. all he needs to do is use and apply that knowledge ^^
Good then, be miserable and hate men.
lol nice comeback.
i like my mid-way nerd.
I kind of resent the last paragraph.
"They'll buy you a ton of drinks" - They're not doing that as a generous offer. Expect a roofie from guys like this.
A man can be a player (and learn how to treat women so that they'll sleep with him) and he can also be a nerd (and learn how to treat women so that they'll want to marry him). It all comes down to his personal choice, and want he truly wants from a woman. (i.e. not necessarily sex)
I don't really get the point of this post.
Hey guys, I have an idea. Let's fight sweeping generalizations with sweeping generalizations.
Lol, it's ridiculous how many people take both posts so seriously. Obviously jokes, everyone. Obviously. Untwist them panties.
@tavatava@xanga - hahah. fantastic.
@whitetrashpoet@xanga - I know, it's obnoxious. You think people could lighten up a bit and take a joke. Clearly this is a retaliation post to the Dialetics of Slutism, which shouldn't have been taken seriously in the first place. Frankly, both are kind of humorous in their own way. LOL at the guys who probably laughed at the other post but find this one offensive... awesome.
@Coffee_Kaioken@xanga - lol
I actually like ladies men because they appreciate women so much without being blatantly pervy or arrogant.
@ChOcOChObO@xanga - LoL~ That was an awesome response.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Agreed.
I enjoy being a nerd lots. =D
I'm way more of a nerd than a player. For me, this is kind of unfortunate.
Just like the post about "sluts" and "plain-janes," this is dumb.
@tavatava@xanga - Fighting fire with fire only causes arson.
Somehow i knew a post like this was going to arise =D but im kinda confused so if any1 wants to share i'd like to here some replys, Was or is my b.f a Player, or a Nerd,?? or just a wanabee poser?,
USED TO - he used to play yugioh the childrens card game, though he claims its for "older" ppl dispite the excited 5 yr old on the commercial, he used to flirt with "groupie" Nerd whores that had zero self esteem, tried 2 sleep with the guys, but never had a real long last relationship. played card games like magic the gathering, world of war craft etc. flirted behind my back, and got relationship advice from wet noodles who were cheating hoe tarts. meanwhile he lied to me and tried to "sweet talk" me through the whole first few months of our relationship w00t!.
NOW HE DOES - still plays yugioh the card game, and has an orgasm once "new sets" are released, as he has to bore the crap of me with details, complains when i want to do normal stuff like chill with friends and him, weened himself away from most whores except those really wierd twats, that like yaoi brothers doing it. and find it "sexy". his work consumes the middle hours of the day aside from his failing nets team, that cant seem to pull wins,
was he a player transformed ito a nerd??, or is it like a poser to a player sort of thing, i'm just really curious, if any1 can tell me??? i'd like to know others opnions.
I knew this would happen! Oh and define fictional, perfect men please.
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - Which (as long as it isn't your house) is one hell of a light show.
While I think this post is very obviously a tit-for-tat response to the last (and thus probably satirical, especially considering the last line). But, again, I think it's important to realise that men don't get off easy in modern day patriarchy either.
Okay, so, it's pretty obvious that the dichotomy here is just as false that sluts/plain jane's one. There are men who are by no measure players, but who are definitely not reclusive nerds. Essentially this is a reiteration of what you can call the "asshole/nice guy" dilemma (comparable in many ways to the "virgin/whore" dilemma for women).
The "asshole" attempts to attract women by insulting and objectifying them, had huge insecurity issues around other men (while clinging to male validation of his sexual misadventures), and easily floats into the category of rapist because he has learned to disregard the actual signals his potential partners are sending (usually a loud GTFO).
The analogy doesn't carry over well, but we can say that "reclusive nerd" is a subcategory of "nice guy" and extrapolate from there. Nice guys (not to be confused with Nice Guys[tm] from the feminist blogosphere) are often ostracised from masculine culture because they won't condone or participate in the assholes' degradation of women/gay men. They often encounter the "friend zone" phenomenon from some women (though I think the friend zone is really a myth for most people), where the woman has been so conditioned to see the assholes' boorishness as "manly" that she looks exclusively for asshole types to date.
To be specific, the Reclusive Nerd cons are pretty gross - deriding men for being "emotional" when you want them to be there for you, and to be able to express themselves well? Also, on a personal note, I hate it when people expect me to take hints - I am not a mindreader and I don't expect other people to be.
Not all nerds are even D&D/Star Wars/Star Trek fans - some are animé enthusiasts, or just like computers and video games more than movies and RPing. I don't think you can assume that all nerds are little virgins who have no clue about sex - I mean, yeah, first sex is usually not the best, but is an art that is quickly mastered ;)
It's also pretty offensive to assume that someone who is a "reclusive nerd" would be a potential stalker, and it emanates from idea that male virgins are so weird and sex starved that they just have to cling to whatever lubricated holes come their way.
I'm really tired, so I may have more/more coherent thoughts tomorrow.
AHAHAHAHAHA awesome.
I didn't really mind the other one, but this one is just funny.
one last point, this piece isn't as offensive because the subject is moot - men have not historically been divided into players/nerds and the nerds are not reducible to their sexuality in the same way sluts are supposed to be. Furthermore, nerd is not necessarily a gendered insult. What this demonstrates most clearly is that the categories for [heterosexual] men are not nearly as rigid as those defined for women.
Edward Cullen to the rescue!
I love nerds! ;D Players should stick to each other.
I'll take the nerd any day