Thursday, 10 December 2009

• Symptoms of a Good Relationship: P.A.R.T.

  I was bored in class today, and I just happened to be thinking about somebody in particular. Anyways, beyond that, I thought deeply about this. So, in terms of relationships, there will be good ones, and bad ones, right? So what are the symptoms of the good ones? And the bad?
  

  
  

  
  

  
  The way I see it, bad relationships have awkwardness, fake smiles and laughters, silence, and lack of eye contact. The good ones rather have more eye contact, harmonized smiles and laughters, much conversation, and glistening in the eyes. These are the just a couple, and they're only the apparent ones.
  
  Even more so, beyond the naked eye, a good relationship has to have a few factors: P.A.R.T. Pride, Awareness, Respect, and Trust.
  
  PRIDE: If you're with someone, why would you be embarrassed by it in any way? Answer? You shouldn't be. If you chose to be with someone, don't be afraid to show it. It's like being afraid people will think your partner is smart or something. It only creates insecurity, where your partner would question whether your love[I really hate using that word, it's never used correctly] is strong enough that others' opinions don't matter. If it were me, I'd be so proud, I'd show her off! (Not because she would be the most beautiful thing I've found!)
  
  AWARENESS: You need to let your partner know two things - they are special to you, and everything on your mind. Obviously, you must let them know that they're special. If they aren't special, why else would you guys date? You need to make sure they understand that they mean more than anything else in your life. And the other thing, hmm. Some of you guys might be thinking, "OH MY GOD, THAT WOULD BE SO ANNOYING." So, let's back it up. Think about it. When you think of something, and you want to let someone know, who would the first person be? Your partner, wouldn't it? You need to stay connected with them, both physically and mentally. This is probably the reason that there is awkwardness in couples. This may subject to the idea of "clinginess", but who knows? Some people just like to be clingy.
  
  RESPECT: Say your girlfriend just went from long-hair to short-hair, and it is a complete mess. So what? Don't you love them for who they are? It shouldn't matter if they look different now than before. I've gotta admit, appearance does matter to an extent, but can it more than how you feel about them themselves? If they look different than usual, don't be disappointed about it. Instead, you should be proud of it. Just as if they were to have different opinions than you. If that is the case, good. You guys aren't coming to a quick consensus about everything, and it's not cliche of what you guys think, whereas a lot of couples probably do. In fact, different opinions and personalities probably blend in better. You would be with someone new and fresh, totally different from yourself, so you can see "A Whole New World", so your interest and internal flame wouldn't die. Cheesy as that sounds. If you guys argue about an idea, hey, even better. It shows you guys love each other and would go far enough to care about them.
  
  TRUST: Last but not least, trust is most obviously important. Must I say much? Thing is, if you trust your partner, everything will be fine. The moment you guys chose to be with each other, you guys have signed an internal contract to try believing in them to make your life happier. If you aren't sure about such an initiation, don't be together. If you pull a bunch of stunts here and there to find out if they are being truthful to you, you'll just end up in a pile where you may end up wrong in the end. Privacy is most definitely important in a relationship anyways.
  
  Those are just MY opinions. I don't know about you guys, but I find this to be true and should be followed.
  
  Thoughts?
  

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