Everyone knows that there's something attractive about a jerk. Someone who doesn't show you the least bit of attention when you're looking amazing. The one that makes you think. "Oh god, am I hideous? Why won't he look at me?"
You may think this is due to low self-esteem. But you are wrong.
My sister recently bought a book, which is actually only meant to be a read for men, called 'The Game' by Neil Strauss.
It basically shows men how to act with woman. Aka: Act un-interested, show her minimal attention and she'll hop into bed with you.
The sad part; it works.
I didn't want to post anything about this book cause I actually think it shouldn't have ever been published.
I think women have a hard enough time trying to land a guy and this is just another way to make it difficult and extremely cruel.
Another reason I wanted to discuss it is because my sister was once a victim to this garbage. She is strong, beautiful and successful. She had men falling at her feet constantly, till she met Matt.* He actually acted quiet interested but never gave his full attention. Never delved a little deeper (as so many women want when they feel a man is holding back) constantly talking about breaking up as if it wouldn't be that big of a deal. etc.
She was a wreck by the third month and no one could talk her through it. It wasn't possible to get her out of it. I was so frustrated seeing my once strong sister fall at the feet of a pathetic little boy who just acted like he didn't care. After one long year of back and fourth and back again. She got out of it, finally. I feel she won't ever be the same again, but I feel like the tide is over.
After she read the book she told me, "Mia*, most of the pick up lines and tips in that book, are exactly the same as what Matt* would use on me."
"The screwed up thing is, they work." she continued
All I could think about was how pathetic someone would have to be to copy something word for word from a book to land a girl. What's even more sad is it actually works. I think it would be good for girls to read this book so that they can spot these guys and know to stay away from them. Though they may appear 'charming'.
Have you been a victim to a total jerk, but couldn't seem to get away?
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unfortunately, yes.
That guy is a total manwhore. he flirts with everyone.
This post is kind of ironic. You wish the book hadn't been published, don't want to post any of the content, and yet this post informs the interwebz of its existence.
Tucker Max was probably the actual author of this book. And it's very true, from what I've seen and heard, except that I think most guys who give me attention make their intentions really obvious from the start. Maybe the "charming" type just doesn't come after me, heh.
yep, i've fallen for that.
and i didn't even realize it til recently.in fact, lost my virginity to that.so it really does work.I was in a trap of this for about a month. Sad thing was, he was the one who broke it off, not me, because I finally took a stand for myself and he didn't like it one bit. I blamed myself for the longest time, but I eventually realized that he was just a jerk. :/
Psht. I know a girl who seems to be pretty damn good with these techniques...
i read this book. i think its interesting because it delves into the female psyche. and if it works, they've pretty much figured out the triggers to getting a girl to bed.
and since i've read it, i'm pretty much prepared and aware of these tricks -_____-
yes, I have. but there is a book published for women that tells women how she should react to such a man. it's called Why Men Love Bitches. After thinking about all of the horrible things I had to go through in my previous relationship because he was just a down right jerk, I realized that a lot of the tips in that book could have made a difference.
and just like stardustskye, the jerk left me after I took a stand for myself because he didn't believe I should be angry at him for what he had done. But before I found out all of his secrets and lies and two-faced backstabbing, this relationship went up and down for almost two years. I should have left him the moment the thought of a break up crossed my mind.
As if douchebags needed more inspiration.
It's funny, I've ranted about women not making their intentions clear and not being totally honest, but men often do the exact same thing, but often for worse reasons. It's too bad that people would want to capitalize on making other people feel like crap.
unfortunately yes i have experienced it recently. it was going on for almost 2 months and i finally had to break it off.
Gotta add this to my to-do list over winter break! "Sniff out loser guys!"
we talked about this book before in one of my clubs and i have to disagree to some extent with your conclusion. first you have to take into account that these men are not necessarily looking for a "lay"- they're socially awkward people that just want to be in a relationship.
It's wrong to make "a game" of it but that's more or less a catch phrase. I think the underlying psychology is that it's not that no one likes a "nice guy," but there's a difference between nice and desperate. People who are confident in themselves and not clingy and needy tend to hold themselves backwards and NOT throw themselves at you. It makes a person feel more special because the throw-themselves-at-you-low-self-esteemers will just throw themselves at anyone.
not to mention that a lot of it is basic... duh-ness. if you flirt with a person it usually DOES involve a lot of teasing and back and forth. People are turned off by people who come on too strong.
I've never heard of this book, but I am sure that it is common sense. I've always said the winner of the game is the one who thinks about the other person less. It is a game of emotional chicken. Look at the writing of Tucker Max, it is hilarious, but universal for most men's existence.
This is a book my own friend actually brought and read, along with many other male friends I have.
Seriously, it depends on the girl. According to the book, this type of "game" can only work on a girl whose very confident with herself to begin with (as in, with her looks and life). And when these lines were tried on my female friends, they went "wtf" because it was simply pathetic. They don't understand the way the males were acting... and the males who tried this crap never got themselves a real girlfriend.
I hate this idea myself. It actually turned some of my own guy friends into monsters. They were no longer themselves anymore, and everything was followed by pick-up artists and the way THEY would act.
The good thing about this book, and the theory behind it -- is that it does show a bit of how you should act socially with others, and how to gain respect from those who think they're above everyone. That's about it.
The game doesn't work on me. But it will take some girls to really experience through it to understand that.
Cosmo pulls the 'How to make him ______" card.
I don't see how this is different.
Of course, girls who fall for that multiple times need to smarten up.
"Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, i'm a idiot."
Those things will stop working when women stop letting them work. I've always found it quite silly how these petty things work on women.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Men fall prey to women who behave accordingly to the descriptions in the book as well.
No. My patience with that kind of shit is way too short.
thing is, is there are
thousandsof books for women for almost the exact same thing. The books tell us exactly what to say, what signs to look for, how to get them to fall in love with us, etc etc. Why can't there be one for guys?
The way I see the book is a way for those shy guys to get out of their shells a bit, and actually learn how to date.Thank you all so much for the feedback! (:
@kungfuhampster@xanga - That's the thing though.. it's like a trap. Trust me if you give it a read you may understand..
It only
reallyworks on young and immature girls.
All I could think about was how pathetic someone would have to be to
copy something word for word from a book to land a girl. What's even
more sad is it actually works. I think it would be good for girls to
read this book so that they can spot these guys and know to stay away
from them. Though they may appear 'charming'.
So who's the more sad one
It's like a messed-up man version of The Rules.
Just ordered it! Thank you! ...kidding.
interesting post... jerks, players, narcissists all add up to one thing - they're bad so stay away.