How to Lose Me: 1. Immaturity/IgnoranceI hate when guys think it's funny to be immature. It's not. There is a difference between humor and immaturity. Or, sometimes an initial comment will be funny, but not when you go on about it for ten minutes. I have a level of tolerance when it comes to immaturity, but I immediately lose respect for those who surpass it. Also, often connected to immaturity is ignorance. It's not cool to assume stuff when you are ignorant. It's revolting.
2. Lack of RespectThere are a few key things that irritate me when it comes to respect. I do not appreciate hearing repetitive insults about my friends, ever. A joke every once in a while is perfectly fine, but it gets annoying when you harshly diss my best friends. My friends mean everything to me, if you cannot treat them with respect you might as well be disrespecting me. Another thing that irritates me is acting abusive towards females. It's not funny to imitate abuse, nor act like women are of lesser value. It's not funny to sexually harass someone, ever. I am equal to any male in regards to rights, so treat me like it.
3. Wasting my TimeThis is self explanatory. I don't like having my time wasted nor being used. If you say you're going to do something, do it. If you say you'll meet me somewhere, meet me there. If I wait around for you, don't simply leave when I ask you to wait for me. Don't waste my time, I don't have time for people who cannot appreciate me.
4. StupidityThis is probably my most shallow turn off. I don't like guys who lack knowledge. I need a guy who can actually stand up to me in terms of a debate or opinionated discussion. I love intellectual conversations, I hate receiving texts that simply say "k" or "lol."
5. Not Showing AffectionI like knowing where I stand when it comes to people liking me. I get frustrated when someone doesn't show any signs they like me. I hate waiting around on people who won't even show me any emotion. I like honesty, I hate guys who act tough and pretend they have no feelings and don't care about anything. It's not cool to act emotionally unaffected, it just makes me grow bored.
How to Win Me:1. WordsI like guys who read, write and speak well. The ability to impress me with the English language is crucial to truly getting anywhere. I love getting cute emails, messages, texts and notes. My favourite is receiving handwritten notes, they actually show the effort a guy is willing to make for me. I'll admit it, I'm easily won over by words. I also love the ability to be able to discuss things with guys that are more complex. I have a thing for guys who read.
2. AffectionI like when a guy isn't embarrassed to show that he likes me. I like random hugs from behind, having my hand held or being kissed for no reason. (not just for goodbye.) I hate feeling like I'm not worth the attention. I like when a guy will show me attention in front of his friends, I feel like I actually matter. I like playful attention.
3. WarmthI like guys who will keep me warm :)
4. Honesty and HumilityI like being told the truth, even when it hurts a little. I like when a guy takes the initiative to apologize to me or realize when he may have said or did something that would hurt or offend me. I don't like when things are ignored or when a guy can't take responsibility for his actions.
5. KnowledgeI like to know things. I like guys to tell me about them. I like hearing stories of the past. I like knowing what someone is thinking. I like when a guy opens up to me.
So, what about you?What do you like/dislike when it comes to guys/girls?
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i love this! its very true
i already read this when you first wrote it, and i loved it.
you're an amazing writer! (:
It's funny, because if you read this multiple times to yourself you start to believe it. Although most of these likes and dislikes I relate to, but I just found it amusing to read "I like" and "I don't like" to the point where I could feel the same emotion. Interesting post.
well i couldn't have written it better myself.
i just want to add "sense of humor" to the likes. i love guys that make me laugh.
but other than that i agree with the whole thing.
thank you thank you thank you. Finally SOMEONE who understands the immaturity thing. Just because it's funny the first time [and maybe even the second] doesn't mean it's funny the 10th, 11th,and 12th times.
This is a great post. :) I agree with all the points.
I 100% agree with all your points.
Careful with the random hug from behind thing. It's cute but not so much when you accidentally hug the wrong girl >.<
*Hugs girl from behind*
Me: Hi honey, been waiting for me long?
Girl: umm, hi there.
Me: ...and you're not my girlfriend...
Girl: Is she the one over in the corner laughing at you?
Me: Yeah, that's her. *palmface*
Here is a list of reasons why guys are not that into certain girls.
http://bit.ly/7QqpSy
true post.
i just couldn't ever be with a guy who couldn't make me laugh, or cheer me up.
@nonurbusinessyo@xanga - Lol you'd be lucky if she was just laughing at you.
k... lol!
Agreed!
@adrieell@xanga - Same here, I love guys that can make me laugh, especially when they have witty humor, and if a guy can't cheer me up, we're both gonna be miserable
I dislike always being asked what I'm thinking about, especially if I'm thinking about nothing, because then I almost feel forced to make up something, but then I would be lying, so I say "nothing" and they think I'm lying. :/
Good post, this list seems to be what most women want in general.
Now, how would one go about it?
@nonurbusinessyo@xanga - lmao hilarious. thats happened to me before
Helpful. And true, very true. >.<
how to lose me:
1. arrogance.2. selfishness.3. stupidity.
how to win me:
1. intelligence.2. sensitive.3. honest.
my boy won me head over heels.
i agree with this post entirely...
and as for me,
add on:
men who cannot let go of their past...any men who dwells on past relationships or experiences has a lot of extra baggage..which can neither be fixed or helped if he's not willing
i can't handle being with a man who can't live in the present and future..your #5 has a lot to do with men who can't let go of the past due to either being hurt or still loving her(relationships with past girlfriends..or issues with an older female figure..mom/sister/aunt)
men who act tough around women tend to have stemmed from this (from what i have seen)
how come i've never met a girl like you?!
I completely agree with you. Especially when it comes to Lack of respect. My ex would constantly say Men are Talking. Wave his hand as if i was trash. I would get so angry, i eventually told him it bothered me. But then occassionally he would do it again.
Perfect!
You're just giving men a checklist to use when they dont feel like dating you anymore but dont wan to go through the hassle of breaking up with you themselves.
we've all done it, i hope you're not surprised.
This sounds a lot like me...
Good list!
@my_stickers_are_secretly_stars@xanga - agreed, omg! just because i laughed doesn't mean you should say the same thing again 10 seconds later!!!
=)