Sunday, 06 December 2009
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A Tip for the Guys: PLAN
Sorry guys for picking on you, but here's tip if your really want to make a girl's day (or night)....
PLAN!
It cannot be emphasized enough how much a girl likes the guy to take control of her plans for one day.
Now there is nothing wrong with a conversation that goes like this...
"So what are we doing today?"
BOY >> "I don't know what do you want to do?"
"Um, I don't know. Dinner and a movie?"
BOY >> "Okay, let's do that."Like I said, there's nothing wrong with planning dates together. But I think a lot of girls like conversations like these...
"So what are we doing today?"
BOY >> "We'll, I thought we'd go to dinner and movie."
"Really?"
BOY >> "Yeah, let's make it a date."What's the major difference? The guy makes the day EASIER for the girl. He sets out this plan for her because maybe she had a long day or maybe he just wants to show that he really wants to spend time with her so he made plans to spend time with her.
Now this does not have to happen all the time (it could get tiresome for some girls if there whole life is planned). But make it a monthly habit. Couples complain about the conversations that always end up being "I don't know what do you want to do?" >> "I don't know what do you want to do?">> "I don't --- (you get my point?)"
Girls, yea, we can do the same too for guys. But I'm telling you guys, if you want to do something special for your girl, plan for her.
And if you want to keep a secret then simply tell her "Hey baby, don't do anything (whatever) day. Because I got the whole day planned." That way they can leave the day open for you to work your magic AND you build up excitement without revealing the real surprise. It might not be the whole day, it could be just night time. And the event doesn't need to be elaborate.
Just telling your girl (or boy) that you made plans tells them they are special enough to you that you made specific plans and wanted this much amount of time.
So do yourselves both a favor. Plan for your date, significant other, your spouse, AND yourself. This makes things a whole lot easier.
Girls, do you agree? Guys, do you plan dates for your SO?
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I agree, I hate it when I always have to plan everything.
I'm extremely indecisive, so this would be good :]
I'd object to the sexist language... but that aside... yes. I'd be flattered if a guy took the time and effort to plan something for me. Hm.
Ughhhhh, but its so hard and painful, and I have to do all the thinking again and just...alright, i'll do it...I keep forgetting shes on here too, and reads my comments.
Only problem with even going on dates out here (In LV) is...theres pretty much no fun out here unless your 21+, or love movies alot (or love circus circus), I'll figure something out damnit.
Why?
Because planning is a sign of a prepared (or an extremely nervous) and dominant (or controlling) man.
Not to mention, if you hit it right on the mark, the girl feels ultra special.
I think both my boyfriend and I are spontaneous people, so we don't mind not having plans set out.
Anyway, I think it's just a nice gesture and idea, but why is it always the guy that has to plan everything?
If a girl hates not having a plan, then she should make one herself.
Guys get tired too, so if a girl planned an entire day for him, that
would be nice for him too.
I guess what I'm just saying is that I think both sides in the
relationship should take charge and make plans every once in a while.
yes yes yes YESSSSSSSS. This is so on the mark.
I don't mind planning dates, but feedback is always good. If I ask questions about what to do about dinner, what movie to watch, etc., I'm not being indecisive, I'm being courteous to my girlfriend's opinions. If I wanted, I could definitely say "Tonight, we're taking a walk in the park, going to Olive Garden, and then watching Ghostbusters," but if I'm like that every time, I guarantee my image won't be the thoughtful guy who plans ahead, but rather an inflexible control freak.
It's always nice to know your bf planned something special for you. My most recent ex bf planned a nice date for me once. ONCE and he thought he never ever had to again, ugh. That relationship did not last long.
@Passionflwr86@xanga - Agreed, couldn't figure out how to word it though heh.
I'd rather have an independent girl who didn't rely on me to make all the decisions all the time and could actually tell me what she wants to do rather than just leaving it up to me because I'm the man. Plus then there's the problem with over planning and over thinking and plotting too much that you get wrapped up in it and then nothing gets done.
Absolutely. I'm such an indecisive person and sometimes I just hate doing all the thinking. haha I would love it if he planned the entire day for once.
I love planned dates. It keeps the love alive. And I soooo don't think it's sexist at all. It's sweet and romantic.
TOTALLY AGREED!
uhhhhhhhhgreeeeeeeeeeeee
agree. =)
like you said, from time to time
ahh sweet.
Ah! Yes! Good tip for all the males who have girlfriends.
It is a turn on when the guy occasionally takes control, just as long as it isn't all the time. It's also really unattractive when a guy lets a girl have all the control... someone who let's me whip him is never gonna last. It's too much of a turn off!
this is too true, guys who can't take the lead make my head spin...... awesome post!!
Good advice, I'll have to remember this for the next time I end up in a relationship.
Definitely. Bleh. I dislike indecisive guys.
That first conversation: OMG. -_- That happens all the time.
Any actual suggestions for things to do? Dinner and a movie only works so often...
Guilty as charged, at least for my last couple relationships. I think I've made a conscious effort to actually plan dates since then.
Cannot agree more.... my ex used to do that... I just sit back and let him run the show.
agree
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