Saturday, 05 December 2009
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What is it about Makeup and Hairspray?
It is common to find relationships where the woman takes much longer than the man to get ready to leave the house. But why are women so obsessed about how they look?
All over the country, nearly the entire female population is obsessing over one thing: beauty. Although there are many opinionated definitions of the word “beauty,” women still live their everyday lives putting labels on others based only on what they see and think of what beauty is.
If a woman sees someone thinking they are not attractive, they automatically feel they are of a higher status. But how did this silent competition start and why are most the women hoping to take victory against everyone they see?
The men in the relationship usually have nothing to worry about when it comes to being beautiful since many women consider their flaws to be of more importance making men’s flaws to be of no importance. Also, since men do not give as much effort as women do, most men do not need to take the time to apply makeup, style their hair and fashionably accessorize.
It is in the woman’s mind that they need to be beautiful whether to win a useless competition or just to please themselves.
To me, beauty is opinionated. And even though a well-dressed woman will walk down the street and see someone dressed in sweatpants and a t-shirt thinking, “I look so much better than her, hah,” the woman in the t-shirt might look at the well dressed woman thinking, “She is trying way too hard.”
I personally take over an hour to get ready in the morning when I’m heading off to school or work, and I feel beautiful when I leave my apartment. But if I’m just walking to the store or getting a quick bite to eat, I feel just as beautiful as I do when I leave for school except I would be wearing a sweater and sweatpants, no contacts and no makeup.
Most guys would agree that taking so much time to feel beautiful is absolutely preposterous but even though women will realize that, they still spent countless hours obsessing over beauty.
Guys, when you tell your girlfriend/wife that they look beautiful, is it often that they discard your compliments because they only think you say it to rush the process of getting ready?
And girls, what is it about makeup and hairspray that is so necessary, or unnecessary?
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I think that a lot of it is psychological. As in girls feel as though they have to try to step up their looks to rise above other girls. It's a difficult thing. Many girls don't care about looks as much, but obviously most girls do. I mean, I am like that some days. It usually depends on my mood, and what I am going to be doing that day. I usually take the time to get ready and look good when I am going to be hanging out with friends / my boyfriend. Not because I want to one up my friends, but because I want to feel good about myself when I'm with them. I want to look good for my boyfriend. I don't want to just let myself go because I feel comfortable around him, yeah i have those days where i do, but I think it's nice for them sometimes when you at least try to make yourself look nice. Not saying you NEED a lot of makeup / hairspray for that.
I personally wear makeup, days when i feel like doing it. And because I like doing makeup, yeah i like how it makes me look. But i feel just as good and comfortable with just mascara on.I think it all depends on the mood, person, and what their activities are throughout the day.
If that makes sense. ?
Women have historically only been valued on whether they were attractive or not. Men were not held to such a standard and instead were regarded for their ability to provide (ex. job, money) or for who they were as a person. This even holds true a bit today (films in which a less than attractive man can attain a woman with their charms, but the woman always has to be an attractive one; any ugly woman is usually given a makeover to make her look attractive, etc).
It's sad because all this obsessiveness over our appearance has lead to some extreme behaviors in order to attain the unattainable (society sets an impossible standard for beauty after all). If a woman wants to look good though, she should do what makes her happy. I just wish that all women didn't feel that they have to rely on their attractiveness as a means to preserve their self-esteem.
Personally, I stopped caring about my appearance in terms of femininity. Then again, I'm not seeking to attract anyone through my looks and I also prefer to look a bit androgynous. Make-up makes me look like too much of a girl and hairspray is pointless on short hair. XD
Sometimes, if it is a special occasion I will wear make-up and fix my hair. On a daily basis, I refuse. I think guys need to see you for who you truly are, not who you are aspiring to be. If fashion is so important, are guys really going to like that, shouldn't they be more important?
because society sets the standards of what attributes will create the desired acknowledgment, we just follow it like zombies =]
ITS BECAUSE ADVERTISING IN YOUR COUNTRY IS MALE-CENTERED BECAUSE ITS MALE RUN...ITS A TOTAL MIND-JOB AND ITS SO SAD THAT GIRLS MAKE THEMSELVES TO FIT INTO A STEREOTYPICAL MOLD
NARCISSISM RULES HERE
I WEAR NEITHER MAKE-UP OR USE HAIRSPRAY...I LET MY NATURAL BEAUTY BE ITS OWN COMPLIMENT
ALL WOMAN ARE BEAUTIFUL IN SOME WAY TO SOMEBODY...BE UNIQUE ~NAMASTE
personally, i think it's weird to just not care about what you look like. but that's just my opinion.
To be perfectly honest, I don't think this has anything to do with guys.
On multiple occasions, I've told different girls not to worry about makeup/whatever, and that they look beautiful naturally. Did it ever convince anyone to do anything differently? No.
I feel like these girls are hyper critical of themselves, or maybe are in this big giant silent competition with every other girl on the face of the planet. It's the same reason girlfriends have always liked my pretty friends less and my less-pretty friends more.
They might be assuming in some way or another that we, as guys, actually give a shit, but in actuality, I 'rank' girls physically by what they look like without makeup.
>>; If Al Gore knew how much hairspray Dolly Parton used in a day.. he'd do something to stop it.
@lewk@xanga - I agree that what the guy thinks won't change the girl's mind about how she sees herself.
The point I was trying to make is that men don't really care about their appearance because their flaws are easily ignored by other guys and girls. But for girls, they notive everything about another girl to a point where it becomes a mental competition.
@Inaheartbeatx@xanga - I like doing makeup too! But I don't mind going out without any on. It's like, I don't HAVE to make an effort but I do sometimes cause i feel like it.
@shillykins - yeah thats exactly how i feel. If i have the time and the ambition I'll do it, otherwise. I just throw on some mascara and go. (:
I prefer girls to not wear makeup and other flashy things that might distract from how ugly they truly are. It's shocking when you take a girl home and she takes off all her stuff (fake lashes, colored contacts, wonder bra, butt lifting tights, eye liner, makeup etc) and find a completely different person then you thought you'd always seen before. shudder heh.
Seriously though, makeup is good for certain situations, but on an everyday use it's not necessary. Metro men take a lot of time on their appearance though. And seems metro men are becoming more and more common.
Uh..uh...oh yeah, guys definitely care about their flaws, we know everything that's wrong with us. We just don't have the tools to fix most of them like girls do.
If you really want to get down to it, the reason we women value our beauty so much is because of the patriarchy we live in. Girls are told from the day they're born that how they look is THE most important, and everything else is second to beauty. Boys, on the other hand, are praised for how smart and active they are. Also, all media images are based from a man's perspective, and any woman in the image is styled in a way that is appealing to men. So girls see that and then feel like they need to keep up with what "men like".
And my boyfriend tells me I'm beautiful without makeup all the time...but I just instinctively think he's lying, haha. I can't help it. I like makeup and I like getting done up, it makes me feel more confident.
My boyfriend tell me that I'm beautiful without makeup, and I actually believe him. I never did like makeup; the only thing that I really need to put on is brow liner, cos my eyebrows are sparse. I don't like eye makeup, or lipstick/ gloss. A little foundation or blush is okay, but I can live without them.
I am praying that as I age, I will NOT succumb to the world's idea of makeup = beauty, for myself.
@JusticeCho@xanga - I'm with you on the first paragraph! LOL. Funny. I've had guys telling me, you're the epitome of natural beauty. They said that they like waking up to the same girl they slept with the night before
@FreeeVerse@xanga - I think every girl can live without it. But they're convinced that they can't. So it's like... all in the mind haha.
@shillykins - That's what the media tells them... especially the makeup industry. Seriously. They're freaking rich coz of what they make us women believe. It's stupid.
For me, I usually like to see girls without their make up. I don't mind a little make up here and there, but I usually, I like to compliment them without it on. It's just because I don't believe in make up and I don't really agree with Photoshopping either.
@FreeeVerse@xanga - Hell yeah. I slept with one girl and the next morning she wouldn't let me look her in the face because she took off her makeup while I was asleep and didn't want me to see her without it on...girls are weird heh.
Oh yeah forgot to mention I rarely tell my gf she's pretty, even though I thought she was extremely pretty. Same reason I try to not say I love you too much. Using those phrases too often lessens the impact of them. So I try to use them sparingly...usually doesn't come off quite right to the girl though and they just think I think they're ugly and don't care about them hehe.
@laytexduckie@xanga - I used to do photo retouching for models. Whooo you should see the difference...although I love photo retouching now, can pretty much make anyone look pretty good heh
@JusticeCho@xanga - I find that rather sad... (in regards to your first paragraph).
And you probably SHOULD tell your gf more often that she's pretty! LOL. Encourage her, and tell her constantly (without sounding berating) that she's beautiful without makeup. If she's not too wired by the media and the makeup industry (and I hope so), she'll believe you.
@JusticeCho@xanga - .@FreeeVerse@xanga has a good point. Girls always fish for compliments. Lol. If my bf rarely told me that I looked nice, I'd probably feel pretty insecure.
@FreeeVerse@xanga - In regards to the first paragraph I wrote before hehe. Yeah was very sad. And well the gf I was talking about she's not my gf anymore. One of the reasons being that she thought I never appreciated her heh.
@shillykins - Yeah pretty much. I think in the begining I complimented all the time, then I felt it just became more of a reaction. Like you know when you leave the house and you go "Bye see you later, love you." There's no real purpose behind it just a conditioned response.
guys to an extent, worry about beauty too. It's not obvious like guy-liner or a touch up there, but it's something else (muscles)
@ChOcOChObO@xanga - Then, that's a whole different story. Girls work out too. I was talking about a more... materialistic kinda thing. Like when a couple wakes up and wants to go out for breakfast, the girl will have so much more things to put on and do in my opinion. Maybe this happens in SOME relationships but I doubt a guy will work out everytime he wants to go out. Lol
@shillykins - oh i see. It's kinda strange cause usually I take more time prepping myself than my gf O_O