So, I was at work today and I was talking with some co-workers. We were talking about relationships and suddenly they got on the subject of cheating!!! I couldn't believe it, they were talking about it as if it was okay. They were even talking about the number of times they've cheated. I was disgusted. I was disgusted even more when they told me that "I'd know eventually" about the "joys" of cheating.
Now I have a girlfriend who I'm in love with. I'll admit I've only been with her for a little over a month and she is my first girlfriend, but I could never imagine cheating on her, EVER! I don't know what it is, maybe it's the fact that I am somehow, for want of a better phrase, higher evolved than my ignorant co-workers. Or maybe it's just because I love my girlfriend more than they've ever loved any of theirs, but it seems completely unbelievable that someone could do that.
I lost so much respect for them today because of this discussion. It's the kind of thing that makes me hate being a guy, because I know that if they do it, a lot of guys do it, and it makes a bad reputation for my gender.
Personally, I love my girlfriend and if I could never do something so horrible to hurt her. And no, I'm not claiming to be the best boyfriend ever, but I believe that if you are "In a relationship" that means something and yes, it's not like your married, but I still see it as a commitment, and for one thing, I don't break a commitment. Also, my girlfriend and I said "I love you" to each other quite early in our relationship... (Like before we were dating) However we have been friends with each other for 15 years, so it's not like we just met. But even still, I'm don't believe "I love you" is a phrase easily said, and I honestly needed to believe that I loved her before I said it. And once I'm in love with someone, I couldn't imagine hurting them like that.
I dunno, I mean, I don't think I'm a perfect boyfriend by any means, but I think I can easily say that I am so much better than those losers who seem to think that cheating is a part of a relationship. All I know for sure is that I love my girlfriend and I could never do that, and I honestly do think that makes me better than those other losers...
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Oh man, if a guy ever cheat on me, he'd be sorry.
I never understood the point of cheating. I've heard 'excuses' but it was all bullshit to me.
I hate cheaters. The act in and of itself is morally wrong
I never understood the origin of the "cheater cheater pumpkin eater" phrase. Pumpkins are awesome. Cheaters are not. Why are we letting unawesome people eat awesome things? No pumpkins for you, cheaters.
Also, the co-workers bragging about their cheating ways is horrifying, but not unusual. In a society that tells men they should be raging horn-dogs lest their man-cards be revoked, many feel it is necessary to act in such a disgusting matter in order to conform to the horn-dog standards. It's really sad because I'm sure that there are many other men (like you) who feel cheating is wrong and that it shouldn't define their gender's sex lives.
Stupid archaic gender roles. :\
i don't condone it but honestly, people get bored. and you make it sound like girls are all angelic and that they don't cheat - maybe i skimmed through the post too quickly. anyways, i think your rationale is a little off. you don't like your gender because some ppl at your office cheat and so you assume a lot of other guys cheat (they do). you forget though that girls are the same. i'm not bashing your post. i dislike cheaters as well but come on man, have some pride! being a man is not the end of the world, LOL
Good for you! You're girlfriend will appreciate it :)
girls cheat too, which is the sad thing. one of my best friend's cheated on her bf, and it made me upset but it's her life, her relationship and if she wanted to do that whatever. but even if people get bored, if you're that bored with the relationship, end it. cheating only makes things worse and causes more drama. it's good that you don't believe in cheating, I think your girlfriend has found a good guy in you, for that
@lot223@xanga - The stereotype is that guys cheat more often than girls, even though it's definitely not true.
I agree with you, and you definitely are better than those others if you really can commit to what you stated.
Your coworkers are big pieces of douche dipped in shit about 60 times. There is no joy in cheating on either side. I've never cheated on any of my past girlfriends and I never plan to cheat on any one in the future. If they cheat because they get bored, they need to stop being a pussy and just end it. If they cheat because their boyfriend or girlfriend was acting bitchy, they need to suck it up and grow some balls (or a vag). Don't give into the fact that men or women will eventually cheat. Be that one that gives everyone the benefit of a doubt.
sigh. this is the reason why i never want to get married. thank you, though, for being a respectable human being.
i have been cheated on and its the worst feeling i could have ever experienced. Don't lie to your girlfriend either. if u do something ur not proud of or u do accidentaly cheat or anything, if she means the world to u u'll tell her. it wouldn't be easy but then u wont loose her respect. but u sound pretty legit to not hurt her and i wish there were more guys like u in the world :\
I've cheated on some past boyfriends before. The first one didn't deserve it- the second one did. In fact- cheating on him and dumping him improved his life 1000%. But whatever... you guys just keep living all single-minded.
:( i hope my boyfriend doesn't ever cheat on me. it's really sad that i read this post at this moment in time though, because i was JUST thinking that he might be.. ya know.. cheating. i hope this isn't a sign. that's awesome that you wouldn't cheat on your girlfriend, i hope there are more people like this. it makes me sad thinking about it.
i've been cheated on before and it is one of the worst things you'll ever experience. If anyone EVER did that to me again, I'd drop them like it's hot. period.
There really is no point to cheating. If there is a problem, talk about it.. Since, just about all the time when people get cause cheating... It turns into a storm between two people. Just don't do it, if there is a lack of something between two people, say it.. Don't wait to make it worse.
Honestly most of the girls I know are cheaters, only a few of the guys have cheated. But I say that since you've only been in your first relationship for about a month it is pretty hard for you to grasp the reasoning, thought or motivation behind people to cheat. I've never cheated, been cheated on a lot, and pretty much despise cheaters but I can understand it.
cheating is bad.
it's one thing if the other "allows" you to sleep with other people, but to go behind someone's back? wrong.
You're probably not more highly evolved. Cheaters have a greater chance of spreading their seed among multiple women, so in the evolutionary race, YOU LOSE.
@gatorgirl54@xanga - haha I was thinking that too.
Cheating seems more and more condoned in this culture, as the whole race seems to be evolving into more open relationships, threesomes, etc. I hope your girl feels the same way you do. Men cheat because they're horny and stupid. But women do, I'd say more than not because they need attention. Keep telling her how awesome and beautiful she is, and try not to ever get too bored, and I think you two will be alright! I love my boyfriend as well and I know how you feel. Could not EVER even conceive of it. I don't ever want to be with anyone else, even in a physical sense. He is HOT and AMAZING. It's so good to find someone who makes you happy. Never take her for granted. <3
thank gawd there is at least ONE faithful trustworthy guy -_- this gives me slight hope for me in the future.
It does. I feel that cheating is a ridiculous thing to do and there is no excuse for it. At least have the decency to end one relationship, before starting another. Even if it is just a sexual relationship or a one-night-stand with someone else.
Its great that some guys feel the need to prove over and over that they have no self-control. Those are the ones to stay away from. :)
I'm glad that you think more of yourself and more of your girlfriend and your relationship with her to cheat on her.
There is no good reason, excuse or explanation for cheating, no matter what. Ever.
@lot223@xanga - if your bored than you leave the person, you dont go behind their back and screw other people and then think its fun/funny.
@ayceeeeeer@xanga - haha obviously that is the most rational thing to do but i'm just saying some people are like that - the cheaters. why else would they cheat? its just one reason why :)
We are only human.
Anybody, Everybody is capable of cheating.
The trick is not to cheat.