Friday, 04 December 2009
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Dating a Wanted Person
A couple of friends of mine and I were discussing whether or not we would date a wanted person.
There's this guy I know. He's intelligent, very very VERY good-looking, goes to an Ivy League college, knows what he wants to do. On top of all of that, he's a nice guy. He's got the whole deal going on for him, which makes him the most wanted.Granted I'm sure there are a few people who would turn him down...but more people would accept going out with him than anything. Every time he goes out with a girl, he's always with her for at least a year...which makes me think he is in fact, date-able...but then they break up after a long, long time...so maybe not? He's only single ever for like a few weeks/one month, then jumps right into another relationship.Anyway, my question to you Datingish readers, would you date an extremely wanted person?I don't think I would because I'd have major trust issues. I'd be flattered that he'd pick me out of all the people that want him (for now), buut...I don't think I could trust him either way.
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LOL, from the title of this post, I thought this was gonna be about like, whether or not you should date someone who was wanted, as in, by the police or something! :P But yeah, I'd date a person who a lot of people liked. Why not?
@steph - I thought the same thing when I read the post.
I'd definitely date the girl everyone wanted, as long as she was everything she was cut out to be. That said, in my experience, the girls that all the guys want tend to have horrible personalities.
Maybe. I'd just date who I like, whether or not there the most wanted person or not.
I agree I would have trust issues. And the fact that in your post he is only single for a month at a time seems a bit sketch.. If he was really serious about these girls he's dated for a year or whatever, I think it'd take a bit more than just a month to move into another relationship.@steph - hahaha yeah I thought the same thing
I stay away from the most popular girls. I guess itd be a challenge, and indeed flattering if she chose me...but who's to say I wont be just another check off on her list? And you mention you wouldn't be able to trust that person right off the bat...that in itself is a sign. No trust = No relationship...period.
this guy? I wouldn't go near him, I don't do all that well with gay guys and they don't like me either, cuz I'm a chick.
@steph - That's what I thought, too!
Personally, if the person is extremely wanted by certain people, I wouldn't waste my time thinking I had a chance. I'd be just another person trying to score an appointment in the wanted person's blackbook. And that's no fun feeling like you have to take a number to ask out somebody you like.
If a lot of people like them, they're probably an asshole. So no.
I dated a person once who was pretty darn wanted.
I liked him a whoooole lot.
He was one of those mysterious, quiet ones. It kind of made me like him even more.
Later on I realized that I couldn't trust him, and he didn't appreciate it that much.
So he dumped me. :/
It would've been nice if he would've at least given me reason to trust him, though. Just saying.
You would have to really, really, really have real and strong feelings for them. And the same goes for the wanted person about you. Dating a wanted person is hell. Don't do it if you're not serious about them. Or just looking for someone to date for a year. I know from experience.
No thank you. Perfection has a price. And it's not a price I'm willing to pay.
lol, an ugly guy isn't any more trustworthy...
I think like attracts like. Not always, but generally the case. There is a difference between this and being a player.
me neither. that would be my severe insecurity.
I think what would make this sort of guy more attractive to me is when he has many girls wanting him, BUT he doesn't simply enter into a relationship just because of that. He's discerning and wise in his choice of girlfriends. THAT would make him more attractive to me.
I have. I guess it was fun?
Think about, it's kinda empowering to know that out of all the people he could've chosen, he picked you.
My ex and I were probably the two most wanted out of the people in our group of friends. I didn't see myself as wanted so I never had to deal with that mentality of "man I could probably get any girl I wanted" even though friends and my gf would often tell me things like that. I would tell my ex the same thing about how she could probably get any guy she wanted. It definitely put a lot of trust issues on her. I generally trust my gf completely (even though I've been cheated on by pretty much everyone of my gfs heh) but I guess it was just harder for her to trust me.
I'd rather be with someone who I want than what everyone else wants though.
go for it.
i thought you meant a convict from the title hahaha. but erms i mean why not?
My boyfriend is pretty wanted :/ He gets hit on by a different girl around two times a week. It doesn't help that he's friendly and talkative to strangers.
I'm not a particularly insecure person, but it is rather disconcerting to hear your boyfriend tell you that some cute girl asked him out for lunch, for a drink, for coffee, etc etc etc over and over again.
Otherwise, it hasn't really been much of a problem. If they really like you, then you really don't have anything to worry about. They're probably used to that sort of treatment and you shouldn't punish them for being wonderful ^^
I dated a musician once. For some reason, they're really wanted. After him, I swore I'd never date another musician. Does that answer your question?
I dont think I could. I mean its fun after awhile.
But then when you wanna get serious, its practically impossible.
Pretty much all "wanted" people are used to getting anything they wanted
and getting hit on all the time. So they're significant other, really isnt a big thing for them,
knowing they can always get better.
I would want someone that SOME girls want, but then SOME other girls are like WTF.
I mean if everyone wanted my boyfriend, then he would most likely NOT be in a relationship with me, probably only talking to me.
YANNNNO?
Im dating a musician, I guess you could call him wanted. I see slutty drunk girls going up to him commenting on his "guitar playing" all the time. Haha how it makes me laugh! None of the girls at his gigs will never know him how I do. He will never spend every second of his free time with them or even call them. But my boyfriend isn't as egocentric as the guy in the post seems. The guy above will keep doing what hes doing until brave girl that he wants rejects him! The thing about these guys is that you never let them know how "wanted" they are. Play super hard to get! Guys like these are used to getting whoever they want.
If you are the jealous type then this type of journey is not for you. Wanted people who know their wanted status will always have some part of them that craves the attention of being wanted. If you find somebody who is oblivious to their wantedness then you might have a chance but then they become so scared to meet new people its close to impossible to date them unless you know a family member of wanted person or a close friend. Either way it’s a tough road ahead if this is the path you choose.
haha i know what you're talking about. i think for me, seeing as i have trust issues as well, i would hate to feel like i'm competing with all these girls all the time. and the fact that he's really nice to everyone, is not always a good thing with certain girls, they'd probably assume he's digging her. and you know how that goes from there. but then again this opinion coming from someone super insecure haha.