The headlines today are horrible.
Who else is cheating?
I feel like cheating is so common these days, and not that long ago it was Kobe and even our past President of the United States.
Why is it that it has become so hard to stay faithful? Back in the day, people were put to shame on so many different levels, but now it seems like cheating has become more common.
If people are going to cheat, then why make vows?
Why do people promise to love and to hold for the rest of their lives? Is it because now people have the option to divorce? Perhaps, because we can now get out of vows somehow, we can do whatever the f*ck we want. No matter what the cost.
I am disgusted with how society has turned, what happened to being men and women of our word? What happened to purity, loyalty, and honesty?
Why is it that we must live in a society when we have to second guess everything people say, even the people who are suppose to and promise to love "from death til us part"?
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The Gays....if it wasn't for the gays this wouldn't be happening. People have to focus on the gays and their desire to get married so they cannot keep up their own homes in order.
This is much like Afganistan and Iraq. Our country is crumbling because we had to go and fight them over there so we didn't have to fight them here.
Amen... Honestly? People don't take vows seriously anymore. I honestly think a lot of it has to do with the fact that the reprocutions of their actions are mild.
I also think that it's because women (who are often the ones being cheated "on") don't hold their men accountable anymore at all. I do, and always will. I know where he's going, where he'll be, what he's looking at, etc... No, I'm not paranoid, I just know that people get "tempted" and that too much temptation (sometimes hardly any) eventually leads to "cheating".
When I met my husband we had a very open conversation about his sexual life... I think this is key to understanding whether you are going to be cheated on in the future or not. Asking questions, getting answers, "what does SEX mean to you? What does FAITHFUL mean to you? Have you ever cheated on anyone? Do you look at porn often? Why?" etc...
I think these questions need to be asked of women as well. And YES, I think accountability is key to keeping your partner in line. Keep those lines of communication open... don't let your man just run all over town without you. Don't think "oh, I'm being nagging so I won't bug him..." you're not being naggy, you're trying to protect him, and your relationship.
And lastly, don't think that it can't happen to you. Don't be naive, all people have it in them to cheat no matter how much they say they don't. Evil is human nature. So is selfishness.
@tendollar4ways@xanga - OMG are you SERIOUS
Yeah. I agree. WHAT HAPPENED "Til' Death Do Us Part?" Hmm?
Just so you have some faith in society....my husband and I firmly believe in "till death do us part". When we got married, we went into marriage knowing and believing that it is completely unacceptable to cheat and that divorce was not an option. We've had our tough times, but things have always worked themselves out because we have the mindset to work things out. I wouldn't trade being married for anything. Being a wife is the most amazing job ever, and I love it. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with my husband. :)
The problem with society now is we believe that for whatever reason, we deserve happiness and we deserve it handed to us on a silver platter. If something, anything, be it our spouse, child, job, parents don't make us happy or work the way we THINK we should be happy or think it should work, then we can just get rid of them....no questions asked. We divorce cause we don't want to deal with it, get abortions because we don't want to deal with it, quit jobs because they are too much work.....it honestly all boils down to selfishness and laziness. I think we have a right to be happy, but we also have to realize that happiness is a choice AND it's hard work. But.....we're a society of instant gratification....why work hard for something when something else can instantly satisfy us, and it's right there for the taking?
@tendollar4ways@xanga - neither of the two things you just mentioned have anything to do with the subject of the post...
People aren't held to any sort of standards anymore, and there's always a way to escape your responsibilities.
People are no longer tied to their words, but to the world instead. Everyone's materialistic, and sex has become just another mode of entertainment.
People are so focused on finding their own happiness that nothing else really matters to them.
Completely agree 100%. I am extremely determined to defy those odds in my relationship. Take that media! Suck it!
@XxFireXboltxX@xanga - I think you're right. I think that people will do whatever it takes to make them happy... and people do not understand the ramifications of marriage.
marriage means work. marriage means you have to work with this person, you made a commitment, and if you didn't think it through before you made it? that's your fault and you should have to suffer. divorce shouldn't be an option. I think that if divorce weren't an option, 50% of people would not get married. like... people should not get married with the notion "if it doesn't work we can always get divorced"
people should marry with the notion that I am 100% sure that I want to love this person, forever, and I will never not love them no matter what happens.
but selfishness can be prominent in human nature... and a lot of people are just too selfish to selflessly love someone in that manner.
While some people can do the whole "till death do us part" thing, it is true that a lot of people's relationships end because of cheating.
Monogamy is actually a new thing few humans and polygamy and/or polyamory was usually seen as normal way back when (and still is). It's kind of hard to force ourselves into a system of relationship we are not used to and expect everything to run smoothly.
Also, society as a whole used to and still finds it OK when a man cheats. Note how films set in even the 60s would normalize a man being married and having his mistress to the side. Women do cheat, yea, but the increasing number of women who cheat is a new phenomena and is usually looked down upon more so than men cheating. (Oh noez. Them dirty whores are doing the exact same thing men have done for centuries. Society's in a moral decay. RUN!)
I don't condone cheating. If you can't see yourself committing to someone (or someones), say so and maybe even break it off before you really hurt them; however, to expect and be concerned that others aren't staying together till death is none of anyone's business. Some people have multiple partners in their life and others still only have or have had one. Those relationships are theirs alone and we shouldn't impose what we believe to be a "true" relationship on them when everyone has different guidelines.
that's bs. look at any men of influence in history, like Henry the 8th. Not only did he cheat on his wives, but he had multiple and killed them. while he's an extreme, any man of influence and power has always cheated.
BRAVE NEW WORLD! BRAVE NEW WORLD! It's coming true!
The whole idea of cheating makes my stomach hurt.
@XxFireXboltxX@xanga - I totally agree with you here. If I end up getting married, this is the exact view I have, and hopefully the person I marry will share it (I have a serious boyfriend but I'm still too young for marriage!). People just get so tempted by immediate pleasure, but the most satisfying things in life are the ones you have to put time and effort into- good relationships, good jobs, good friendships, they all take work.
@XxFireXboltxX@xanga - Totally agree!!
this entire thing is so freaking true. seriously.
@tendollar4ways@xanga -
Wow. What timing.
This is a very good post. I wonder that same thing.
I completely agree. Cheating is disgusting.
People are selfish. I'm married and fully intend on "til death to us part", and would never cheat. My marriage is beautiful - it's a pity people don't put enough though into it these days.
@XxFireXboltxX@xanga - Excellent comment! Totally agree!
What happened to purity. There was no purity to begin with.
I don't think things have changed. I think it's always been this way. It was just easier to keep it quiet in the past.
@tendollar4ways@xanga - dude what the helll....shut up
ugh forgot what i was about to right because that comment just messed me all up