Thursday, 03 December 2009
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Down with the "Hot" Guy?
or these guys....
I've been seeing this trend lately in movies, the male figure is, let's say, not-so-good-looking. Guys like Seth Rogan, Jonah Hill, Jon Favreau, Vince Vaughn, Jason Segal. These men do not have washboard abs. They aren't 10's - per se. And you definitely wouldn't think to see them with girls like Kristen Bell, Jennifer Aniston, Amber Heard, Mila Kunis, Jaime Pressly. (They also all seem to have really curly hair?) So why are they so likeable? Why do they always seem to get the pretty girl? It's because, (and I'm starting to see this in my own life) they are hilarious, genuine, non-bullshitters, that seem to have a heart of gold.
You see the guys like Zac Efron, Brad Pitt, Channing Tatum, (and who is this Taylor Lautner kid?) the pretty boys, the ones with the extremely hot bodies and good looks; they aren't doing it for me anymore. OK, they're attractive. But what the hell... They have no personality, they seem to have this "I'm better than you" attitude, and they have an ego the size of Texas. (I'm strictly talking about on-screen performances and overall perception, I really don't know how these guys are in real life)
So I have this friend. And maybe I just never noticed him much before. But I hung out with him a couple times recently, and although he is no Ashton Kutcher, I find myself extremely attracted to him. Not because of how he looks; but because of who he is. We totally have the same sense of humor (I was literally laughing at everything he said) and he is generally a very sweet guy. Now I had to keep the flirting to a minimum because I was already with someone there, but he texted me after we had left and said it was good to see me again and we should definitely hang out more. So I knew he felt some sort of attraction there too.
Now my dating record is all over the board. I've dated some crazy characters. It's because I have never thought about what other people think, and just gone with how the guy makes me feel. (My friends are always telling me I can get someone better, i.e. someone hotter) That kind of has changed, I'm now dating this guy who is very physically attractive. And I really did like him at first. (I think I was blinded by his attractiveness) Now all of a sudden I'm not feeling the same way about him anymore. And I really can't stop thinking about that friend...
So do looks matter at all? Would you rather have the hot guy, or the not-so-hot guy that you get along with better? And do you think you find someone more attractive after you get to know them and like their personality? I'm really beginning to think so... :)
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TAYLOR LAUTNER YES PLZKTHNX.
He doesn't seem stuck up to me, he's always really sweet and funny in his interviews. This being part of the reason why I like him so much, but hey I don't know him personally. Who's to say it isn't all just an act? (He plays Jacob Black in the Twilight movies, btw) Even if it was though, I'd still go for him. Shallow, yeah, but oh well. Just can't resist. (x
But when it comes to people I actually have a chance with, I would much rather have the not so good looking guy I get along with. My last ex was really hot, but I didn't very much care for his personality. I mean he was entertaining to talk to, and I did have a crush on him at the very least, but we just weren't right together. We hardly got along and our whole relationship was just a huge mess. He's still quite attractive to me, but now that it's all said and done I'm not into him anymore.
Besides, when you have feelings for someone, they DO become more attractive to you.
Come now, the choice MUST be obvious...
and by that I mean, don't always choose based on hotness. duh. in case it really isn't clear to someone. which is... unfortunate.
taylor lautner is really hot. some people only find him hot because of his abs or something like that but i liked him when he first came out in the first twilight movie with his long hair. in the second movie he is reallly hot with his long hair but yea
I have this weird tendency to attract lots of average/ugly guys, and then one or two really attractive guys that I'm attracted to. And then I stick to that one (or two) guy(s) for what seems like forever. One of my best friends started out like that, and not getting into the other guy. But I love their personalities, it's not like I'm that shallow.
Personally, I'm not too much of a looks person myself, but I always have this habit of not going for the hot women anymore. Rather, I focus on their personality first, then see what's up. I have dated a hot girl at least once, and I always find myself a little less taken to them, because there never seems to be anything, most of the time. I'd like someone who can make me laugh, can pull me int oan intelligent conversation, or something like that. I couldn't imaigne doing that with my first two exes, who just happened to have been hot.
This makes me feel better, I think...
(Taylor Lautner looks really young. That baby face does not turn me on. LOL)
But yeah. Personality gives attractiveness a huge boost. The average guy turned into the hot guy because of how well he gets along with you. Or the hot guy who's suddenly ugly because he was a jerkwad. I'm pretty sure scientific research has proven that. Haha.
Don't choose people based on attractiveness, but don't assume that the unattractive are people with "hearts of gold". Neither asshattery nor kindness correlate to an attractiveness level.
This has always been the case where the less attractive person has more of a better personality, and the attractive ones seem stuck up. Once in a great while you'll find someone super attractive with a heart of gold...but I really dont think that happens too often...well not to just anyone. Those who have come to terms that they dont fit in with the "good looking" group of people try harder to impress their interests with their personality. That's where and when it really counts. After all, they cant just leave it up to chance based on their looks.
I never go for the typical "hot" guy. They have never been my type. I've dated a few here and there, but all the guys I've actually cared about have been more unique, definitely not super gorgeous. I like it better that way. Why would I want to date someone who feels I owe him something? I would hate to date a guy who made me feel like I had to prove myself to him or measure up to him in some way.
One of my girlfriends made a comment to me one time that considering the way I am with most things (ie, I like nice clothes, doing my hair and makeup, and generally just trying to look my best at all times), she was surprised that I didn't usually go for guys that were more similar to me. I know what she meant. She meant that you don't usually see pretty, sociable girls going for average-looking guys. (She herself is an attractive and very likable girl and she does typically go for strictly "hot guy" types.) Personally, I hold myself to a high standard physically, simply because I have an interest in fashion, beauty, and keeping myself in shape. But when it comes to others, I don't judge. I don't think that appearances make you a better or worse person than anyone else. People can think what they want about my SO or any of the other guys in my past...it doesn't bother me. I think my man is the greatest guy alive.
Looks matter but intelligence and personality is what keeps you after the initial "omg he's so hot!" feeling has faded. Someone who is hot and has a bad personality turns ugly once you get to know them better. But someone who is "average" and has an awesome personality will definitely become more attractive to you as time goes by. Your mind needs to be stimulated, too, in order to stay interested!
My fiance is amazing, sweet, kind, and everything wonderful. (he has flaws, but is really awesome anyway.) He's also insanely HOT. And not just by my standards...he has to like, beat off annoying flirty girls all the time.
Hot guys can be really sweet too. Don't assume that a guy who has a good body has to be a jerk.
I wouldn't totally disregard really hot guys but personality is what matters more than looks. I'd be more attracted to someone who can make me laugh. I do agree though someone does become more attractive the more you get to know them and the more you like about them. I think physical attractiveness is a bonus. :)
I'll admit my babeh isnt the best looking guy in the world (to me he is though =]) but it was definitely his personality that ended making me fall for him.
He is the most genuine person in the world. He is so kind-hearted, silly, and intelligent that I sometimes feel like I have to pinch myself to make sure he's real.
I always thought Seth Rogan was cute though. He's like a cuddly teddy bear to me lmao
Egh.
I hate it when people say, "He/she could do so much better!" just based off of the person's looks. Honestly, there are good and bad people in every "hotness" range from 0-10, and why should a couple's compatibility be based solely on looks. I don't know. That's just one of my pet peeves.
I would love to say looks don't draw me in a little, but they do; however, I kind of like quirky-looking guys with personalities to match. Plus, the better the personality, the more attractive they get to me.
I think it's a combination of both. My current boy isn't the hottest..the tallest..the most popular[actually he's pretty high up there..but still],but he's really funny,and cute,and when i hug him or kiss him it's pretty friking magical. A peck is like heaven. XD
This is something that I have changed a lot over the years. If I was gonna choose a girl back in high school she would have to have a great body and be really pretty-I wouldn't really look at anything else. Nowadays I look for more of a balance-looks AND personality. Although it's tough to find a girl who has them equally I feel like i might be getting close-I've met some girls who have a good looks/personality combination. I have seen some REALLY hot girls with some of the worst personalities on the planet. And I've seen the average looking girl with a great personality. Like I said, for me though it's all about balance between the two.
Looks matter, though not everyone's perception of what's hot or sexy is the same. But no one would date someone they weren't the slightest bit attracted to. Physical attraction initiates, personality maintains.
personality>looks - every time.
It's great for me to know that someone will like me for who I am and how I act, not just how I look. I mean, sure the first thing that catches someone's attention is the looks. I won't doubt that. But usually, if that's the only thing going for them, well . . . . they'll need some major guidance.
It's funny like you said that some friends will often say that you can get someone better just because they aren't the fit of so-called "hot" stature.
the not-so-hot guy. yeah.
lmfao the second picture made me say outloud "wtf....?"
but i love seth roganthe hot guy with the personality :). they exist, u just gotta dig deeper.
Looks play some part but once personality is known, those looks can become even greater and eventually they may become the most amazing person you've ever seen :)
omgggid take seth rogan anyday. he seems so down to earth