Wednesday, 02 December 2009

• He's So Vain

  
  

  
  In December 1972 Carly Simon released one of my favorite songs of all time - her classical number one hit: You're so vain.  To this day she hasn't actually revealed who the song is about.  At best she's claimed that it's about the many vain men in her life.  And more specifically, a composite of three vain men.  Haaa!  What I can also relate to this song and its lyrics, as I shall explain.
  

  I'm sure many of us have met at least one vain man in our lives - be it our brother, cousin, friend or ex boyfriend.  Yeah, sadly, some of us have 'fallen' for this type of guy.  You know the type because they're so easy to spot, in hindsight that is.  These guys are devoted and in love...with themselves, that is.  This means that their hearts don't have room for anyone else.  They're totally self-absorbed with many aspects of themselves.  Many think they're really hot!  And take excessive pride in their looks and appearance.  You can see them gloat as they glance in the mirror.  This aspect of vanity, in fact, verges on narcissism.  Scary!  They're also known to boast about their (actual or imagined) accomplishments, talents and abilities.  So think inflated ego - think a vain man.   In other words these Peacocks are the most appalling creatures on Earth.  And I think there are many of them around - don't you?
  

  I am ashamed to say that I spent two and a half years with such a guy.  I was in my early twenties at the time and very very naive.  When I first met him I thought he was the best thing next to sliced bread.  I must have thought "wow how lucky I was to get him", for, he was a looker at the time, extremely charming and soft spoken.  He spent a lot of money on his clothes and it showed.  He had many friends and acquaintances.  In fact he knew practically everyone.  He walked around with an air of confidence that many guys his age lacked.  He was also really into sports - be it soccer, squash, rowing or the gym.   I know, I used to watch all the soccer matches he played since he was on the national team.  Maybe that's why I hate soccer so much.  And regatta races too!

  Throughout our on and off relationship, I came to realize that no matter what I did and how much I gave, he was a heartbreaker and much more into himself and (every other girl for the matter) than into me.  Besides being a womanizer and attention seeker, he also put me down and criticized how I looked in certain clothes - especially jeans.  To cut a long story short I really don't know why I took all the crap.  I don't know why I forgave him over and over again and why I put up with all the lies and insults for as long as I did.  I was young and stupid. 

  Men like that are just plain bad.  I knew that deep down for he had a developed quite a reputation for being no good.  Despite how much others (including my friends) warned me and my parents about him, I refused to listen to anyone.  It took me a while to let go and realize that I deserved much better.  If I remember correctly I ended this horrid relationship with a bang - or a splash, rather.  You see I caught him red handed cheating on me that night and I figured that there would be no better way of ending it than by toasting drink over his head.  

  I think this was one of my worst relationships in my entire life - not that I had had that many - but this was bad on many counts.  I suppose I was equally foolish and blind.  Oh well you live and learn as they say...and I surely did. 
  

  So I'd like to ask:

  Have you ever gone out with a very conceited guy or a player?  If you did how did it end? 

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