As I was
watching this clip on youtube that my friend posted up, I realized what the most important aspect of any relationship is: compliments. That's right, compliments. Like you, I first thought that the most important aspect of any romantic relationship was love, trust, sex, intelligence or perhaps even money (if you roll that way). So in this entry I hope to explain to you why nothing can outweigh the value of a few good compliments.
While you may not entirely agree that a good compliment can improve your day drastically, you must agree that a nagging significant other/parent after a long day at work can ruin your entire evening. Lets imagine that I walk through the door. My lover asks, "Why did you leave the toilet seat up last night!" "Why are you five minutes late?" Comments such as these make me regret ever walking through the front door. These comments force me to take a defensive position often creating more harm. "It's either that or piss on the toilet seat." If I were married, do you think I'd get any loving that night? Not in that household. So if a verbal attack can harm your relationship, then a compliment (which is essentially the opposite of a verbal attack) should be able to improve it.
While I showed that compliments may prevent your relationship from failing, compliments can also make you like someone. For example, in high school there was a girl who always called me "hoochie." After every time she called me a hoochie, she would follow up with a compliment. "Hoochie, nice shirt." "Looking good today, hoochie." While I had no idea what hoochie meant at that time, I did understand the compliments. Over time, I had no problem with her calling me hoochie because I had been conditioned to think that a compliment would follow. Every time I saw her, I would smile at her. As years passed by, I always had a favorable view of her. While this is not a romantic example, it shows that a compliment over time can make you like someone irregardless of who they are.
Perhaps I can say a compliment paves the path for love, trust, sex. In that sense, I guess a compliment is like a first impression. Like a first impression, the compliment will set the tone of a relationship for the whole day. So today give it a try. Start your conversation with a compliment. Have I convinced you that compliments will make a relationship succeed without exceeding your attention span? Success stories? Failure stories? What's your take?
Note:Definition of hoochie on urban dictionary: "girls who will have sex with anyone."........ I'm a guy.
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i wholeheartedly agree to this post.
awesome post love!! :) i must say....receiving compliments/motivation/support from the one u love is GREAT
I have a hard time agree'n with u that compliments out ways love, trust, sex, intelligence. but i will say that its as important as love, trust, sex, intelligence...compliments are compliments, sorry but i rather have trust, love....etc rather then a compliment any giving day. but thats just me. but being that i get ALL OF THIS ABOVE from my wonderful husband i have no worries =)
yes! i try to compliment my boyfriend everyday. it puts him in a good mood, i think it would put anyone in a good mood. i love receiving compliments so i imagine everyone else does too :)
great post! ;)
Irregardless is not a word.
Otherwise, good post :)
Receiving compliments from your significant other are always good to hear. :)
Ingenuine compliments and/or ass-kissing are fake in my book. It actually makes me dislike the person.
this is a really good post :)
Irregardless is a double negative.
I agree though! I love compliments.. =]
compliments are nice, but getting them all the time feels like sucking up. good post, tho =)
Not to point out the obvious but I think it just varies depending on the person. Some are happy receiving compliments, others do not really care too much about them. Though the opposite, receiving flak from their SO, most people would not feel happy about that period. While I can understand the logic/reason behind your statements, I don't think it's the most important. But nice thought.
This isn't the most important thing in a relationship as it varies from person to person. Compliments are considered a key component in love though. Google the Five Love Languages and those things, all together, some together, or just one in a relationship, allows the relationship to stand the storm
Mmm yeah, a compliment from an SO is a really memorable thing that can help you bond better.
love this :)
@immaairheadxl@xanga - You continually surprise me. hahahahaha
I do miss those. It's a simple way to show love in a relationship.
haha i agree.
a compliment is a good impression lool.
everyone loves a compliment!
but i think if you over do it it can be a bit... freaky in my opinion.
Awesome post. :)
very true. compliments are always a pick me up...even if they're corny
awesome post.
yes compliments are nice, but that doesn't change the fact that the toilet seat is still up, and always will be.
haha yup compliments goes a long way.
Agreed, I tried the opposite for a while because I felt like too many compliments would just create an egomaniac. Not the best idea heh.
agreed. compliments are nice.
HOOCHIE IS AN INSULT.
hoochie(n)-
1.a female who appears to match a set of
characteristics including: trashy, often inappropriately tight dress
(with or without pudge overflowing waistband); eyebrows shaved and
penciled back on in dramatic fashion; heavy, mostly monotonic makeup
with dark lipstick; large, gaudy, costume-grade jewlery. Frequently
accompanied by multiple children from different fathers (see
baby-daddy).
"Damn, did you Estela's sister at the sideshow
last night? Sportin' a camel toe through her jeans, cornrows, you know
she's a straight-up hoochie"
2.A woman usually defined as being a promiscuous
or other wise a slut. To be a true hoochie, a woman must be labled by a
collection of other jealous females.
"Did you see what Yolanda was wearing. All the guys were staring at her ass hanging out of those dukes. She is such a hoochie."
just figured you should know that that girl who kept giving you those "compliments" was really a bitch. hahaha
I was just told something to the effect of... that it takes 10 positive comments to balance out 1 negative comment. Have you ever heard of this?