One of the biggest myths or excuses you’ll hear out there today is that condom use makes sex less enjoyable, or ‘kills the mood.’ Plainly put, being confident and knowledgeable about your own sexuality never kills the mood. There’s plenty of reasons why condoms and safe sex in general can, in actuality, make sex with your partner better and more thrilling. The reasons are both physical and psychological, and have to do with the core of what an enduring sexual relationship is about.
Firstly we should address the concept that condoms can reduce sensation for the man, or for both partners. While a condom might reduce sensation if put on improperly, the truth is that with the proper know-how and research, condoms should enhance sensation rather than reduce it. Most importantly review the steps on how to put on a condom and make sure you are putting it on correctly. Also, if there’s a condom which doesn’t seem to fit you or just doesn’t feel good, the best thing to do is to try a different brand or style of condom.
Some men just are better suited for different brands depending on size or sensitivity. For example, the ribbed or studded condoms may be a thrill for some couples, while others will find it irritating to their skin. The most important thing is to try several different types of condoms and find one that’s right for you and your partner. Our condom variety
pack was created for this exact reason – so that finding the perfect condom for you can be easy, and fun.
In reality, condoms can actually heighten sensation with your partner. Use of a condom with lubricant makes for a silky smooth experience which both partners will enjoy. The lubricated latex helps couples have sex for longer times without worrying about drying out or getting sore. In addition to STI’s, the latex can also prevent irritation to the skin or chafing. When you find a condom that works for you, and use lubricant when needed or desired, you’ll find that safe sex is not only exciting, it’s a breeze.
In addition to the physical benefits of wearing a condom and practicing safe sex, there is the underlying psychology behind safe sex which makes it much more rewarding and fulfilling to both partners. Quite simply, being safe makes everyone feel more comfortable, relaxed, and sexy. When you practice safe sex you can trust your partner that much more, and trust is at the heart of any relationship. When the two partners trust each other, they can feel more comfortable to express themselves and enjoy each other’s company.
When you feel comfortable with each other, you can just worry about each other with no nagging thoughts or worries. Having that trust opens both partners up to feeling comfortable expressing their sexuality and having a great time without any worries about unwanted surprises popping up on them at a later date. So not only will you be guaranteeing a healthier and more exciting sexual experience, you’ll be strengthening your relationship with your partner – all the more reason to educate yourself as much as you can about safe sex.
Safe sex is a mindset as much as it is a practice. Taking the time to educate yourself about your options will pay off dramatic dividends in the future. You’ll be rewarded with a more intimate physical relationship with your partner, and you will feel a closer and more intense sexual bond with the person you’re with. Safe sex is smart sex, and it benefits everyone.
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I'm all for safe sex, but for me personally, sex feels better without a condom. Which probably explains why I"m pregnant right now. LOL Ah well, life is all about learning.
YAY for this article!!!
For me, either way it feels awesome no matter what. My hubby uses sheep skin condoms though; compared to his other brands, the sheep skin is more durable but it's thinner, so both of us can feel each other aaand we're playing it safe ^^ Oh yes and... My baby girl has finally arrived ♥!
I'm all about condom sex when you're not married/not in a serious or monogamous relationship, but I hate condoms. The sensation is totally different. Though, I didn't mind condoms at all when I was dating a circumcised guy. But uncircumcised? Feels much better without a condom. But we didn't do that until we knew we were both clean and committed.
I guarantee I could probably find condoms I like, etc., but really the only time we use them is if I'm not in the mood for messy sex or if I'm taking antibiotics or screwed up taking my pill. And it's not terrible - I still love sex if we're using a condom! But once you do it frequently without one, using one seems weird.
BUT - if you and your partner have not been tested together or if you don't have proof of their STD status - DEFINITELY DEFINITELY DEFINITELY WEAR A CONDOM.
@NonnieGirl@xanga - HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Meh. Pills are fine alone as long as you're in a healthy, monogamous relationship. I wouldn't have sex otherwise anyway.
I don't like sex with condoms. It just doesn't feel right. They were on correctly and blah, blah, blah. I prefer pills. /end.
People need to wrap their business up. For serious.
I think condoms kind of suck. Obviously, condoms are SMART, especially if you're not in a monogamous relationship, and you're not on the pill. I always think you should use a condom if you're not taking another form of contraception, and if you don't know if you or your partner is clean. But honestly? Condoms are just not as fun, and they do make things less pleasurable.
When we tried experimenting with different brands it ended up being painful for me not for him! Oh well. I enjoy sex better without a condom, but it's not such a big difference that people should be complaining too much. Nice article.
I'm all for the message behind this post. Great job!
My boyfriend and I don't use condoms, but I use another form of birth control (the Today Sponge). And that's only because we've been together for a very long time and are completely monogamous. If you're having sex and not using any form of protection, you are STUPID, unless you are in a monogamous relationship where both partners are disease free and you are actively trying to have a child. And if you're actively trying to have a child please make sure you're out of high school and have the ability to support the fucking kid.
I wish people announced when they got an STD like when they get pregnant. Maybe that'd wake people the fuck up
My husband and I hated condoms till we tried the new Trojan Ecstasy....um, those rock. But our method of birth control (Fertility Awareness) we only have to use one during a certain point in my cycle.
Sex with a condom DOES feel better, I wont front. My favorite are the Avantis and anything that's already lubricated. The only thing that probably ruins things and cause complaints is when they start to cum and all of the cum splashed back into your penishole or whatever. Otherwise, the biggest fear men really have with it is trying to keep it on. Heaven forbid, the condom slips off, when he's trying to work it out. Haha!
I'm on the pill PLUS we use a condom. That puppy gets wrapped at all times. And the boyfriend and I actually had a talk about it. He said it didn't matter to him either way, and personally I enjoy sex with a condom a bit more.
i like this post.. yay for condoms and safe sex! ahaha. :)
Condom + the pill all the way. Just in case we're both drunk and forget the condom (because I am anal-retentive - no pun intended - about taking the pill every day). Hey, never know, it happens.
All for safe sex. If you're not planning on having children at the time or not using any other type of contraception condoms should be used. It definetly is just about finding the right one. I thought it felt better without condoms till me and my ex found one that was good. It also really does put your mind to rest and makes you relax a whole lot more.
"Our condom variety pack was created for this exact reason" -- is this some kind of advertisement or something?
i actually prefer my man to wear one. not just i don't trust my pills but it feels better too.
no condoms.
Safe Sex or No Sex ~ !!
Hahaha~ =]
I wouldn't say it feels better... it doesn't make much of a difference to me because we each always reach our goals... haaa. through experimentation though, we did eventually come to the decision that trojan ecstasy condoms or durex "natural feel" condoms are better because they're a lot less restricting for boyfriend... and when it comes to condoms, I do feel bad for him but we both agree that it's absolutely necessary, no question about it. so we've finally reached the compromise by finding some that feel just as good for him- and that makes me happy.
and psychologically speaking, condoms just make us both feel so much more comfortable- they eliminate worry, and we don't have to think about accidents during... of course we always check for breaks after, and if we find one we'll deal with it then (which thank god has never happened) but during the sex... ahh. so nice not to worry. I could never have unprotected sex... I'd be freaking out the whole time. rather, I just wouldn't let it happen in the first place...
I advocate safe sex all the way but I dispute much of the content of this article.
@zombiejuices@xanga - i agree!
@shoujo@xanga - LOL ok, full disclosure: I've always had sex only with condoms (except for a few times when I was in a serious, long term, monogamous relationship) and I've always had a lot of pressure from guys telling me it feels better without. The truth is there are a ton of other ways to make sex feel better without losing the condom, I know this for a fact =)
I was searching for an article to post today that might agree with my point of view and I found this, it's an article from a website called condomman.com (so yes, it's a bit advertisey), I linked it at the bottom of the post.
Good eye, btw! and thanx for the comment =)