*I'm sorry this was driving me crazy your whole post: Carrie Bradshaw.

The reason she is a bad girlfriend is because she is supposed to be playing a normal girl, who makes mistakes and does crazy things. We all have that crazy in us.

@whatblokedoufancy117@xanga - No one should care about Sex in the City enough to have that bother them, haha. Carry, Carrie...who the fuck gives a shit. And of course she's a fictional character, she still represents real girls out there who make the same stupid mistakes. I hate it when girls snoop around and act all insecure.

@TanitaBelle@xanga - i feeeel you. i can't hold a boyfriend because i get bored after a month at the most. 

I have the best boyfriend in the whole world. and this post makes me feel like the worst girlfriend in the whole world. I'm so needy. I'm insecure. I'm always mad when he doesn't compliment me every second of the day. he has two jobs, hes a computer science major, he has his friends, his family, and on top of that ME! I need to give him a break.

thanks for this post. it makes me want to be a better girlfriend :)

@lifes_brootal_babeee@xanga - Lol glad i'm not alone. My longest relationship was 2 months and that was when i was like 11. I don't think i even kissed the guy LMFAO.

@Nellie0x@xanga - LMFAO. Obviously i don't mean i'm just out for sex. otherwise i wouldn't bother with the relationship shit at all. I'm jus smart enough to know that most boys my age only want sex, and none of them are interesting enough for me to want anything more from them. I've experienced being in love and personally, i don't think it's all that it's cracked up to be. Plus the whole getting to know someone and having special bonds with someone, that's what i have my best friends for.

    This is how my ex was when we were dating in high school. She once told me that she would be happier being with a girl than being with me because the girl would be able to know exactly what she wants and how she wants it. That crap made me feel like I could NEVER make her happy as her boyfriend. She also used to keep asking me NOT to hit her or abuse her because of her rough past with guys (she had a bunch of ex-boyfriends before we dated, not to mention her rocky relationship with her dad)-so like you said-she tried to make me guilty of a bunch of stuff and judged me like there was no tomorrow. 

Yeah I never liked Carry as a character.  I mean she has her moments, but she's a bitch to all her bfs throughout the series.  She's even worse to other girls on the show who take/like/or possibly like her bf or ex bfs.  Gah heh.

Yeah, I've had a girlfriend like your friend before, it gets very annoying.  And while trying to be nice and respective of it you can only last so long before you stop caring, which will tend to the girl leaving with a "He was an asshole" mentality.

@TanitaBelle@xanga - LOL. You're a piece of work.

i dont think im the best girlfriend, but i think im an alright girlfriend >< ive done some shitty stuff
but I AGREE BRADSHAW IS NOT A GOOD GF!

its true insecurity is will ruin a relationship. it causes so many problems.i have never snooped (except for once because he snooped thru my phone and saw devin's number and that i talked to him alot)but i was a really bad girlfriend at first but my man never wanted to let me go for some reason.i was selfish and mean and just flat out crazy. he would aways kick me out or dump me but then tell me that he didnt really want that but i was acting like i didnt want a boyfriend so he wanted to give me what i wanted. anyways 6 years,a baby, a dog and a townhouse later and i am happy he never gave up on me. i am happy to say that i am a good wife now. my man is so spoiled....as long as i am happy and he gives me what i want.

@ordinary_gir1@xanga - i agree with you also. i was so clueless with my first real bf, along with being insanely jealous and insecure. he turned out to be an awful boyfriend and treated me like shit, but at least i learned from it.

almost every boyfriend has told me i'm the best gf they've ever had...however, 4/6 of them dumped me. so idk what's up with that but it's whatever now. i'm still jealous and insecure, and with my current bf i admit (sadly) that i have snooped before. i realized it never ended well-if i found out he was talking to other girls, i was hurt, and if i found nothing i was paranoid he'd deleted the evidence. he's never cheated on any gf, and never given me reasons to suspect he's cheated on me. snooping never made me feel better, and in addition to feeling shitty about whatever i did/didn't find, i also felt shitty that i felt the need to snoop around on my him for no fault of his own.

to make my relationship work despite the jealousy and insecurity etc, i've learned 1-to try and identify WHY i feel those ways. are these feelings warrented or am i over-reacting? 2-then, to not project these emotions onto my boyfriend because i know it's usually not HIS behavior that causes these emotions. and 3-most importantly, to communicate about EVERYTHING, no matter how scary it can be. and 4-work together to reach a solution.

i felt insecure after going to a party with my bf that an ex before me went to. afterwards, when i flipped my shit over events from that night. i had a problem with this girl for multiple reasons, and so i talked it out with my bf. initially we thought i was worried that she might cause my bf to stray, but i realized it wasn't that, it was my new low self-esteem that was the main cause.

he immediately reaffirmed his love for me, and showered me with compliments...then, i was still feeling insecure so i asked if he could limit some interactions with the girl at future events, and pay a little more attention to me--nothing major, but since my bf and i go our own ways at parties, i just wanted a little more acknowledgement that i was his gf when the girl was around. i agreed to do my best to be a mature adult around her, and to be friendly (though my bf has no desire for me to actually be her friend, and neither do i). we still have a few problems with this, but after we talked it all out things have been better.