Sunday, 29 November 2009
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Some Cravings Are Weirder Than Others
I've always known this about myself but only just now came to the outstanding realization that I crave physical affection.
Just as I crave food, and coffee (habit I've actually been trying to kick) I crave physical affection from others. (Okay not others, just boyfriend.)
And I mean it gets to a point where I NEED to just hug, or cuddle with my boyfriend. It mostly gets bad when I'm laying down to sleep, I just wish there were human warmth beside me and the thoughts nag and nag and it really frustrates me that I can't have that. Then even when I'm around him, I can't help but just randomly attack him with unsuspected affections... it's all done on impulse. When he randomly wants a hug or kisses me on the cheek, I get warm fuzzies. It's really almost as if my heart skips a beat in joy.
As far as friends go, if I come home from college and see someone who I haven't been in contact with for a while who I've really missed, giving them a hug is almost soothing in a way. I guess it makes me feel closer to them, like I'm making up a little bit for the lack of their presence in my life. Not just friends, but this really goes for my parents, family members, and even a few of my friends parents.
I read somewhere a while back that without human touch, babies suffer growth deficiency, which is why it's especially important for parents to be able to so much as gently stroke a pre-mature baby in its fragile state of being as a newborn. So this makes me wonder, do humans have an inborn biological trait that makes us thrive off of intimate physical interaction with others?
I would google this but I would rather see what all of you think. Do you crave physical affection?
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Yes, most definitely! Plus, I'm such a strong believer in the power of human touch. It's amazing!
When you describe how you miss your boyfriend when you lie down to sleep, I was like, "Yep, that is so me!"
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i love cuddling and my boyfriend loves it too. i love that i live with him and every night he holds me till i fall asleep. i've actually gotten to the point where i cant get to sleep very well if its arms arent holding me tight.
but i agree. the human touch has a lot of power. it can comfort, calm, satisfy, protect, and warm. but it also has the power to be cold and hurt or harm.
I think I crave emotional affection more so.
Yea, I don't have this problem. More like the opposite. I don't like it when people touch me. It's odd because I'm only comfortable being touched by certain people, but I'm not quite sure what about those certain people makes me feel comfortable around them.
Yes, it's human nature! Unless you were abused or experienced something traumatic as a child then I can see how physical touching can make you cringe.
"The skin is the largest organ in the body and touch is human’s natural way of reacting to pain and stress and conveying love and compassion."More on the interesting article if you want to read up on it:
yeah, it's a very powerful tool.
yes, i think it's what keeps us going sometimes.
For sure! I get really sad if I don't get enough physical affection...which is partially why I've never really been single for more than a couple of months. Even then, I cuddle with my girlfriends. I guess I'm just a touchy-feely person ^^
Hehe, good thing I'm not large, threatening, and untouchable...otherwise, I'd probably expire from depression.
Yes i do and expcially from my husband i cant help but get hugs, kisses but mostly hugs or cuddling omg thats my favorite...expecially when its time to go to bed he stays up and watches some tv before he goes to bed and sometimes i make him turn off the tv and just hold me in the dark till i fall asleep, but of course he is so comfy he ends up passing out right along with me lol I totally understand what u mean about always wanting it cuz its a beautiful thing and your deffinitly not wrong for it. im sure we get on our mens nerve sometimes but they cant help but love it. hehe
what you described with your boyfriend is soo me :) i had to laugh while reading this.
but it's not the same with other people, in fact, i'm always a little held back when i meet family members which aren't as close as my parents or grandparents, and i don't really like to hug them or get hugged.
This post = me in a nutshell
I LOVE physical affection from my boyfriend. What I don't like is when my bf thinks I'm being clingy when I crave physical affection, or even thinks the type of physical affection I'm craving is sex. There IS a HUGE difference between being clingy and being affectionate; and a huge difference between sex and non-sexual affection (kisses, hugs, cuddles, etc.). This is how I am and in my experience, people just don't understand that.
Physical touch is what makes people normal. If you grow up isolated and unable to come in contact with other people, you basically turn out psycho. =)
Oh, and physical intimacy releases a lot of hormones that make you feel GOOD.
I'm a brain, behavior, and cognitive science major, I can't help it.
I tend to want emotional and physical. Emotional because it's what builds the relationship. Physical, because we appreciate hugs more, hand holding, kissing . . . . it ties into the emotional affection.
If it's from someone I love, yes. If it's from a stranger, it makes me uncomfortable.
i do crave physical affection but ONLY from my boyfriend. i don't even like hugs from family members. when i was younger i even had a hard time sitting close to someone. it's weird because i want physical affection from my boyfriend ALL the time and absolutely never from anyone else.
i'm the exact same as you, only from the boyfriend as mentioned but i craveeeee it constantly.
i can't sleep for hours unless my boy is cuddling me to sleep
and i get the warm feelings inside too
and the random impulses to be affectionate :)
it's funny, because i was never EVER a physical person before my boyfriend and i started dating. i shied away from touch of all kinds, from all people. even my family members. but since he came into the picture, i need that touch more than anything. it's quite bizarre.Â
I'm definitely a craver. I think it's perfectly natural to want it, too. And the best part is that it doesn't have to be sex or anything dirty; the simple touch alone is incredibly powerful.
yeah i definitely am :]
i crave it, because i've never cuddled before.
Yes. It's been the hardest part of my long distance relationships, and especially of the last six months when my partner has been missing altogether.
oh, i definitely understand what you are saying.
I would have to say that yes, i do crave physical affection as well as emotional affection.if that makes sense.My boyfriend and i get to see each other, if were lucky, every two weeks. Sometimes a month can go by before we see each other. Due to the fact that i have moved and am in college. And after spending those short two days on the weekends he is either able to visit me or i come home. for the weeks after all i want is to have his arms wrapped around me as i'm falling asleep. I mean, obviously i love every minute of being with him when we do get to see eachother. But i'd have to say, those times at night when were cuddled under the blankets and fall asleep together. and waking up with him there beside me is probably the best feeling in the world. I even love to goodbye hugs and kisses, because they always seem like there is so much more to them, because we know they may be the last ones for weeks to come. it's been hard since i've moved to college, especially when we used to see each other multiple times a week. but i also think it's made our relationship stronger. and we have learned to really take the time to we spend together and make the most out of it.i'm pretty sure it's an inborn trait for humans to crave touch, as long as (like someone else said) you weren't abused or something when you were younger...
and i'm in the same boat with my boyfriend too! i also live with him, so luckily i don't often have to wait long to be in his arms :) i'm not big on trying to cuddle while falling asleep...my bf and i both move a lot in our sleep so it's restricting. my bf and i just snuggle close together, and usually end up with one or both of our butts right up against the other lol. his touch is the fastest way for me to get out of a bad mood, even if i'm in a bad mood because of him haha. it's like magic. like others said, i need emotional affection too.
as great as physical affection is, i only want it from people i care a lot about. i don't appreciate someone i barely know touching me unless invited...it makes me feel uncomfortable.
definitly! and if it's not so much physical affection that people desire..such as those who don't like to be touched. then it's always emotional attraction.
so it's either one of the two. but people really need both.
@untainted_love_for_her@xanga - right there with you. that's what makes long distance relationships so hard. you have the emotional affection but not the physical. which can still cause you to feel alone. that's why webcams are such a helpful tool. they let you see your partners face so you feel closer to them. in a long distance relationship you have to wait a while for even a hug..it sucks.