Usually it's the other way around. I know that my ex planned a Thanksgiving dinner with a specific group of friends she went to high school with (I went last year when we were together). I wasn't invited and I understood (since we just broken up and it would be awkward). However, 3 of those friends kept asking me if I was going. After I told them that I wasn't invited, they try to take the liberty of inviting me to go. I had to decline again since I wasn't originally invited and that going to it would be rude and (again) awkward and uncomfortable for her and me. 

I have been experiencing this 100% right now. The way it has been working out for me is that I'll see the mutual friends (which is pretty much all my friends) when he is not around. I rarely ever see him, and when I do its okay. I mean its awkward for me and probably for him, but its not awkward for other people. Or they don't lead it on to be. Its just a weird situation. And has its awkwardness but for the most part its has been okay.

my boyfriend's best friend dated my best friend. then they broke up. it's a looong complicated story from that to now-ish, but in short, until two days ago, my boyfriend and i had to figure out which one of us got to hang out with their bestie. it sucked. never really had a problem with friends after that...

after my first bf and i broke up, i eventually started hanging out with people that we both considered friends...turned out everyone actually hated him because he's fucked up. he thought he had one or two friends but it turned out they didn't even really like him either.

Why can't people compromise, anymore? I notice that people just do one or the other because its less complicated. Which isn't very nice.

I've had friends that don't get along with each other. I just purposely make plans to do separate things with them. That way I still do fun things with ALL my friends, but just not all at the same time. It is possible, if you have friends that are good enough friends that they will actually make an effort to continue to see you both.

In my estimation, if they won't make the effort, then they aren't really that great of friends. And aren't worth worrying or being sad over.

@FreeeVerse@xanga - Lol, really? Thanks! :)

@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - yep.

but i've never had a breakup where our mutual friends (which have always been most of my friends) had to take sides or are broken up by the breakup as well.

This happened to me. My ex couldn't be around me so me and our friend's couldn't all hang out together. I remember one day one of them asked me to go camping with them and a couple of hours later they turned round and told me that I couldn't go because my ex wasn't comfortable around me. It wouldn't have bothered me if my ex hadn't said we'd remain friends and would be there for me.
Only thing you can do now is hang out with them seperatley.

im in  this situation myself. it's been bout half a year, but it still bugs me. I mean, now i totally dislike her, not the typical "i-hate-the-bitch-cause-she's-my-ex" but because i realized she was just using me. i dont even like who she is, as a person, anymore. i just relaly dont like the dumb asshole.

we're in the same grade and the same school, same group of frends and are in the same scene. so it's hard not to see her everywhere.

at first, i tried to make nice. why should being ex's make anything awkward? so what, we were in a relationship that didn't work out, doesnt mean we can't be frends. wrong. i guess the only relationship she knows how to have with a guy is a flirtacious one or either none at all. she just ignored me. and i would keep on persisting, trying to make things cool, acting al lcasual around her. i did the little things i knew should would catch. i said hi everytime i saw her. but she just continued to ignore that i even existed. she wouldnt see it that i got a glance when i walked in or even a wave when i leave, which totally pissed me off because i know it's one of the little things she hates herself. so i gave up on trying.

we were pretty close and had a long history together, so i felt kind of hurt by it all. so i tried to give her a taste of her own medicine. i ignored her back. and she definitely notcied. things just got weird between us.

I didnt bother looking at her passing her by in the hallway or acknowledging her presence when i was talking to a group of frends she was with. whenever i went out with frends, i would see her there. i wouldn't talk to her or even make any notion that i knew she was there by not even looking at her. i pretened she was inexistant. whenever i planned an event, i never invited her. it was foreign to not have her be the first one to call and ask to hang out, but i knew it had to be that way. I felt weird doing it all, but i did it to make myself feel secure and less vulnerable. i needed her to know that she's not the center of everything and that she gets to me.

and so, everything is awkward between us. not just awkward, but hostile. and im usually not a person og hate, but im good knowing that she understands that im definitely not cool with her. she knows how i feel bout her; i told all my frends when they asked and they could totally see it when we're in the same room. even people who i hardly talk to know. and i dislike her--and almost feel bad forhaving such low dignity--because after we broke up a while ago, she instantly went to the first guy that told her he loved her, got messed up and sexually harrased, broke up with the loser who was waaay to old for her anyways (i think it would have been considered rape cause of the age diff), went a little mad, lost half her frends, and is now dating one of my close frends because he's "the cutest guy in her league." poor girl. poor dumbass girl.

I recently went through a bad breakup.  We had been together since freshmen year in high school and have all the same friends. After the break up it seemed like everyone picked sides.  Some are still mutual but I think most of them had a preference in the beginning.

this past may, i broke up with my ex and we had a lot of common mutual friends.  at first, it was hard hanging out with the friends with my ex always around but you just get used to it.  our mutual friends would hang out with me and him separately at first, but after a while, we decided that we shouldn't put a strain on our friends and just hang out with our friends even if we're broken up.  

@mewithoutu77@xanga - Must be nice.

I lost all my friends after my ex and I broke up.  Her being cute and nice, everyone just assumed I was a jerk and would rather be her friend than mine, so no one really talks to me anymore.

my friends usually invited us both, but we usually just dont attend. or show up after the other or not stick around for too long.