Saturday, 28 November 2009
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Infamous Love Triangles
In a love triangle there will always be the guy who is perfect and the guy who is perfect for the girl. I hate how most girls always choose the guy who's perfect. See the guy who's perfect will get over you eventually, because he's perfect...he could easily be perfect with another girl. But the guy who is perfect for you, is simply for you, he won't get over it. I'm sure he'll move on, but he won't be over that girl...because that guy was perfect for her, and to that guy, that girl was simply perfect even with her imperfections. It upsets me that girls can't see that.
I think Joey from Dawson's Creek seems to be the only girl who made the right choice by choosing Pacey after 10 years of indecision. Stephanie Plum from the Stephanie Plum Series by Janet Evanovich is headed to making the wrong choice by choosing Morelli and not Ranger. And Bella from Twilight made the wrong choice by choosing Edward instead of Jacob. She even said it herself that they were in fact soulmates, but then she ends up choosing Edward. Then of course there's the classic love triangle of Catherine Earnshaw, Heathcliff and Edgar Linton. Catherine marries Edgar even though she loves Heathcliff... I know I'm looking into all these love triangles too intensely considering that they're all fiction...but it just bothers me...because it tends to happen in real life as well.
If your soulmate is right in front of your eyes, and you know it....why would you even consider being with someone else? People don't need to tell me that love gets messy, I've been there...I know it does, but it's ridiculous how clear the right answer is and yet we make it so complicated. Things don't have to be complicated; we make them complicated by choice. If you ease up, let things flow, you'll see that sometimes the answers really are black and white. I doubt I'll ever be caught in a love triangle of two guys, one because they're way to simple for me, the triangle would turn back into a line before I even get a chance to say "Oh my jeez! I'm in love with two men". And also because...it's hard enough for me to find one guy I'm interested in, if there was ever two at one time I'd probably die from shock and not have the opportunity to say "Oh my jeez! I'm in love with two men".
Anyway, in the case of a love triangle between a girl and two guys, I always feel bad for the guy who’s far from perfect. Yeah, they're far from being "perfect" but they fit so well with the girl involved, but of course the girl involved is usually too happy to have someone perfect on her arm to care about the underdog. I think the only other girl who chose the imperfect guy besides Joey from Dawson's Creek would be the girl from the novel/movie The Notebook. I forget her name. Two out of millions of girls... It's depressing...this isn't just about fictitious characters, but real people too. A girl I used to work with...Carol has the most darling boyfriend, serious he's perfect... and I really think they make a good couple. But the way she still talks about her ex...makes me wonder if she's with the right guy...We had this whole perfect and perfect for you talk...and then she admitted still being in love with her ex...Yet she continues to see her current boyfriend.
I don't think the girls realize it but they're really settling. Why settle for perfect when you can have someone who’s perfect for you?
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In non-fictional matters, it is a lot more complicated and personal. The answer is by no means "obvious". And there is no right or wrong answer. Someone looking at it from the outside would never understand. And they don't need to.
I agree and disagree on some points. People do make things a lot more complicated than they need to be, but at the same time, the answers to these problems are by no means simple, even if they may be obvious. People have different thresholds and capabilities, some people can compromise certain things, while others can compromise other things. Even if the answers are black and white, the methods to getting to them or putting them into practice are far from it.
That being said, I don't believe in a such thing as soul mates. There may be people that are 'perfect' for you, but that number isn't limited to one in anybody's case. While I agree that people should look more for a person who gels with them and simply works out rather than, perhaps, a list of traits or qualities they think they like in a guy (or girl), you can hardly blame them for searching out those specific qualities and going for their definition of 'perfect'.
This post reminds me of the movie The Ugly Truth.
bleh obviously op didn't read breaking dawn. don't want to spoil it for anyone, but trust me, the twilight love triangle really was more of a rectangle. haha.
A long time ago I was in a love triangle between an older guy (who I was in love with, think I should mention) who my parents viciously tore me away from, and my then boyfriend who I comparatively didn't care much for, but was obviously the "healthier" choice at the time. I dumped my boyfriend, and dove into a quasi-relationship with the former guy behind everybody's (including my friends, since they strongly didn't approve of him) backs. Looking back now, I think I was just too much into the excitement of forbidden love.
I don't really agree much with your first point though, or at least the part about the loyal guy being the "right" choice. I feel like that's insinuating that settling is the better choice. But ehh, that's just my interpretation, of course.
ya...lol uh no. There's more to it than soul mates and love.
lol i have been in triangles and it wasn't necessarily that one guy was perfect for me and the other was perfect.
The guy that's "right" for you is usually
someone you're not very attracted to. Eventually the relationship will
get boring and we like excite me in our lives so we tend to pick the
one that seems perfect, but may not necessarily be right for us. Why do
you think girls often pick the bad-boy over the good-guy in movies?
Because sometimes the right guy for us is is too nice. I was in a
tri-angle once where the right guy for me said yes to everything. I
don't want a guy who will always agree with me, I want a guy who will
make his own decisions and not be afraid to stand up for himself.
@cornyonacob@xanga - lol, that was one of the first things i thought.
i had a hard time taking anything from this because im stuck on you saying bella chose the wrong guy. i wont go into detail, but they really were perfect for each other.
i'm in one, not your ordinary love triangle though, a really twisted one, unfortunately.
interesting point of view. i like... something to think about. thanks for your thoughts. :)
lol, i've been caught in many, maaany best friend versus best friend triangles, and also with a freakin' octagon... so annoying, so i ended up choosing the perfect guy over all the others... and when that didn't last, i just ignored all the other guys... hmm.. yeah, whenever i end up getting into a weird love triangle or triangle of interest, i get annoyed, because it's like they're claiming me, when i'm not even theirs to claim, so i just end up ignoring them. even if they're just friends or something. so they won't get attached, but i don't think that works at all.. it just gives them more drive. hella annoying. :O i was also the past year caught in a tetragon LOL. where i was with on and off with the current crush/bf, my ex bf was still trying to win me back, and the best friend came in after me... ALL AT THE SAME TIME. omg it was like war. LOL... but yeah, i hate those situations... it's confusing... everyone's so impatient... and annoying... and i feel trapped... so my choices and thoughts were not even considering LOVE or my FEELINGS, i was going with the MIND... but eventually I did go with the feelings risk, and ended with the best friend... still with him. :)
@Gorrific@xanga - I absolutely agree, I was about to say the same. You cant judge if youve never been in that situation.
This is my current problem, lol. My best friend (and my boyfriend's best friend) and I kind of kissed. I told him I loved him, he told me I loved him. I do love him, I've known him since 4th grade.
I told my boyfriend I needed a break before any of this happened, but it was so heart wrenching and devastating to see him like he was. I spent an entire night with our best friend, and then went home. The second I got home I burst into tears and realized how much I missed my boyfriend (he lives with me.)
So thirty minutes after i got home I called him and apologized and begged him to come home, which he did with no fight.
I'm such an idiot, now I've lost a good friend and he thinks I did all of this on purpose but I didn't, I just got confused and scared and idk. He just doesn't understand. But my boyfriend does.
@cornyonacob@xanga - who was the 4th person? there's bella, edward, and jacob ... are you talking about Mike and that chick that was in love with him or something?
I read the series, so don't worry about spoiling it for me.
@goblinsinthemirror@xanga - lol, 4th person was renesmee, bella's daughter. :o
I found a guy who I believe is perfect for me, however the problem is he's going back to the girl he's on a break with when she gets back. So, perfect or not for us, sometimes it is more complicated than that. There are times when we can't change the guy's mind, and no matter how perfect for us that particular guy is, sometimes it just doesn't work. Because life isn't perfect, and love isn't perfect, and people aren't perfect. You can only find someone who makes you happy and hope you can make them happy and hope no one gets in the middle of both of your happiness.
I don't like that I feel like the other girl. I don't like that this man is dangled in front of me and that he has been mine for a couple nights, only to have to back down and give him up to a girl who also is willing to be with other people because they can't be together for now. I don't like that I felt trash and cried... and I don't like that I was willing to do all of this, but yet I still can't regret anything. Because I do care for him, and I am glad that we've done what we've done, and I'm glad that at least for once it's not that I'm not good enough, or that I'm not pretty enough (Yes, exes have told me such). It's just wrong timing.
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