Friday, 27 November 2009

  • Non-Dateable?

    Is there really such a thing as being non-dateable?

     

    They say that there is somebody for everybody but after being single for almost 9 years in a row you kinda wanna start hearing something different.

    And they also say that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Well what do you do when half of those "fish" are engaged or married-I don't think I can try to date a girl who has a husband-I'd be considered a homewrecker in a millisecond.

    Is it possible for a guy/girl to be non-dateable-or is there truly somebody for everybody?

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  • CharlestonGirl88@xanga

    I do have to wonder that myself.
  • laytexduckie@xanga

    I truly there is someone for everybody. Like all things in life, you just gotta keep looking. And who knows, there can probably be more than just one someone for you. 
  • hundredsongsinhundreddays@xanga

    i know that things don't happen when you want them to.  and...are you looking for love in the wrong place???
  • crim077@xanga

    non dateable doesn't exist difficult or unlikely circumstances do.  everything is choice and possiblity nothing is really definitive until you make it so and how you choose to handle a situation or look at it ultimately determines your reality.  I spent a good long time trying and failing and trying and failing then i had a realization.  why keep trying to find something among just what i can see.  There is this secret power of intention of attraction and all that nonsense.  I have two key bits of advice.  In some fashion or another outline exactly what you want.  then keep it in the back of your mind but stop worrying about whether or not your going to find someone.  The biggest problem with any situation is worrying about how its going to turn out.  You can't possibly hope to know for sure how a situation will turn out...ever.  Thats the truth but what you can do is not let how it might turn out be the reason why you will or won't do it.  If you want to do something do it.  So be free, have fun, talk to people, find hobbies, do things that you can enjoy and keep your eye open, for whatever it is you outlined.  Within anywhere from well your whole life to tomorrow or a month from now or whatever, you could very likely find the person who you'll just happen to fall in love with.  Know who you are, know what you want, don't worry about when or how things will happen just know that they will.  Live your life until then and I promise that you'll find happiness but you must stay the course no matter what.  Do not falter or deviate or second guess or give up on what you want.  The best thing we can do is just be ourselves.  Pick out the advice from my utter disregard for punctuation and follow the insights, advice and your own intuition and things will work out.
  • salvatruca_stalking_havok13@xanga

    Non-dateable sounds really weird to me. Maybe, undateable instead?

    Well, I think that as long as the person is willing to engage in a romantic relationship and is also not an abusive asshole, then a person is dateable. It might take them a while to find someone, yea, but I believe it's possible. Rome wasn't built in a day and other cliche bullshit on patience, yadda, yadda, yadda.

    The only people I would classify as undateable are those that are not interested in a romantic relationship (O HAI) or abusive assholes, but even they unfortunately manage to coerce people into a relationship. :(

  • imTHEmeowMIXcat@xanga

    "I don't think I can try to date a girl who has a husband-I'd be considered a homewrecker in a millisecond."


    Um, yes...I think that's what someone would be in such an instance. Try looking for singles, gym, bookstore, coffee shop, (I say this next one with dread) ...bar?


    no one is non-dateable that wishes to be...just look around in the right spots, or better don't look at all...they say things like that often happen at unexpected times!
  • An_iLL_Dispositi0n@xanga

    Maybe you should switch your game up ? 
  • wyrdkismet@xanga

    that special someone is out there...you'll just appreciate love so much more once you've found it.

  • macphoto@xanga

    I'm pretty sure I fall in the non-datable category too.
  • dearFLOPPY@xanga

    if you've been single for 9 years in a row, you're either A) a med sci student B) a workaholic C) not making any effort in the dating game and D) you obviously place academics before love, and no girl wants to know that she's second to your career. my SO is a medsci student too, so yeah, i understand.
  • KrazeeKunoichi009@xanga

    I believe there are people who are non-dateable. Like aromantics. I don't ever see myself as being "involved" with anyone. Relationships and dating just aren't my thing and I honestly feel at ease when I'm by myself.

    Also, just because you're single, doesn't mean you're alone.

    - Kunoichi
  • silverlocket_88@xanga

    I stop believing theres is someone out there for me. So yeah,its possible.
  • AphoticxIllusion@xanga

    Yeah, there is. Could be a number of reasons. 
  • FreeeVerse@xanga

    You should travel out of your country. I can BET you'll find someone who will date you in a heartbeat. In my home country, I am the definition of "non-dateable" or "un-dateable" (not a single guy liked me, seriously). But when I travelled to Europe, I was hot cakes. Spanish guys would want to kiss me after just seeing me for several minutes, while an Italian dude and a Moroccan gentleman wanted to make love with me. I only consented to the kissing - the rest were too much. My point is, don't give up hope. Just travel.

  • dragon_king@xanga

    @FreeeVerse@xanga - I still have yet to do this, once I can get the money and time-I think it would change my perspective completely
  • Synhyborex@xanga

    @FreeeVerse@xanga - so true. traveling out of your country, or even your community, gives you a lot more freedom and basically restarts you, since people don't have set impressions of you. that's kinda why it's hard to find a girlfriend the same age as you at the end of high school, i guess; you've changed so much and maybe for the better, but people have set ideas about you and what to expect so they put you in the "non-dateable" category.


    in general, however, i have come to be in disbelief when it comes to being dateable or non-dateable. no such thing!
  • FreeeVerse@xanga

    @dragon_king@xanga - You do that, and then write a post about it

  • FreeeVerse@xanga

    @Synhyborex@xanga - You are right So... would you say I'm dateable? *Ahem* Hahaha

  • kawasaki_saiyan@xanga

    @dearFLOPPY@xanga - that's a nice way of putting it in perspective...  
  • kawasaki_saiyan@xanga

    even you said it yourself, never stop believing...

    there's truly somebody special for everybody...
  • Synhyborex@xanga

    @FreeeVerse@xanga - of course you're dateable! haha but i think you might be a little too old for me, though i wouldn't mind a little experimenting outside my comfortable age range =P
  • FreeeVerse@xanga

    @Synhyborex@xanga - Geez, I'm not old! How old do you think I am? LOL.
  • Mysandwichworld@xanga

    Nah, I definitely think anyone can get dates... now for it to lead somewhere.. I don't know. Some people makes circumstances more difficult than they need to be. so for the dates to actually get sophisticated or more personal or whatever I that that is the question...

    And I know a guy who looks on creg's list to find girls. Maybe try that out? lol
    GOOD LUCK
  • ItsNona@xanga

    How can there be someone for everybody when the male-female ratio is off?
    Unless you're gay . . .
  • Ni_Shi_Wo_De@xanga

    I've met a few people that aren't dateable...in the sense that they're antisocial and so unapproachable that people give them a wide berth no matter what the circumstances.

    I think some people are just happier by themselves, or they've settled into a routine/mindset that they're undateable so they stop trying (See: Labeling Theory)

    Too many psych classes >.< I apologize.

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