The winter season is already here. Though there are happy holidays associated with this season, this season is known for its loneliness. I don't know if Thanksgiving is considered the fall or the winter, but I have always associated the cold with the winter. Regardless, holidays such as Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years are holidays that are filled with gratitude, love, hope, and happiness. In regards to all this "positive" atmosphere, why would the cold of winter be associated with loneliness?
Maybe it's because of these holidays... For those who have people to spend these wonderful holidays with may not feel so lonely, but those who have no one indefinitely experience the wrath of the cold. This year was my first Thanksgiving alone (no family, no close friends, no man), and perhaps because I have been so indifferent and apathetic about everything these days - the lack of holiday cheer did not dawn on me until I watched an episode of Grey's Anatomy.
The scene of Grey's Anatomy where everyone cheered "Happy New Year" and kissed their significant other was when I realized that I am alone on Thanksgiving. It also made me wonder, will I kiss someone this New Years? If I do kiss someone this year, will it be someone random? Someone I just met? It's sad to admit, but I believe that if I do kiss someone this year it will be because I just want to be kissed - I just want to feel... to be given attention to, to pretend for a moment that I am loved by someone that they would choose me to kiss on New Years and no one else. Unfortunately, if I do kiss someone random, it would be the complete opposite of what I want. Kissing randomly would mean they kissed me because I was the only one available. Sounds pathetic.
So how should I break out of this cold lonely winter? Find someone so that I don't have to be lonely? But why should being with someone define my happiness? Why winter?
According to University Toronto researchers "Some evidence supports the idea that reduced temperature also contributes to an increase in depressive experience".
I suppose when there aren't any other warm bodies around, the temperature affects you more.
Being with someone doesn't define my happiness, but being cold affects my depression. So where should I find my warmth? Where do I find my warmth when I have no family, no friends, and no man?
I know I can't be the only person alone... sp how do people who are alone in this world survive the cold?
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move to australia, we're in summer now baby! <3
on a more serious note, you write beautifully.
i could feel your sadness. perhaps travelling isn't such a bad idea at all.
get out, see the world. make new & exciting experiences & friends.
smile, laugh, sing, dance.
visit another country. discover new beginnings.
who knows. maybe you'll find the one you're meant to be with on the way.
good luck hun xx
Go somewhere warm
New Year's always makes me feel lonely. I mean I have my friends and we always have a blast partying, but I've only had 1 person to kiss at midnight. My ex and I had 2 new years together. It was so nice to have someone to celebrate the new year with in that way. I spend Thanksgiving and Christmas with my family so those holidays don't bother me as much.
In order to receive attention in return, you would have to invest and give emotional and physical support to someone around you. Do not complain about not receiving anything in return when you're not putting in any efforts out. There are many things that you can do. Anyone can be your family. They don't have to be blood related. :)
I feel you... being alone sucks. but just know that it's temporary and keep on keeping on.
I love the cold! probably because I hate sweating...
cocoon yourself in blankets ;)
I so understand. I'm just out of a relationship and I'm going to a friend's for new year. He said to me last night that I'll be his new year kiss because everyone else will have someone. That made me feel more alone that I had realised before. About keeping warm though, hot drinks and you're duvet will help a bit. My dog helps when I need a little cuddle. He's always so warm.
Ever heard of seasonal affective disorder? (S.A.D. for short! I know, how cute)
I know exactly how you feel. I used to love the winter, now I can't stand the cold... Or the smell of it.. (Yes. I said smell. Winter in Jersey has a scent. Leave me alone. Kidding.) Anyway...
Just find something to keep your mind off it all. It may be hard... But just try..
I just got out of a relationship in october and this fall/winter will suck. Fall and winter are the worst moments for me in relationships.. Either its when A relationship turns into a relationshit. Or I begin a relationship that winds up sucking once the warmer months come along
we just do...
I just got out of a relationship at the beginning of this month and well....spending Christmas without a significant other, as well as New Years...will be an arduous experience to say the least.
GO HOME TO YOUR FAMILY?
winter is one of my worst seasons and i hate valentines day too i mean i would celebrate it if i had feelings for some one else but im enjoying being single for right now i can do what i want and get my life in order before i can start caring for anyone else if i cant take care of myself :)
Volunteer, you're bound to meet people.
sleep thru it.
If you have a very active mind and its not prone to depression the challenges you set yourself will bring you into contact with lots of folks and then you'll never feel lonely but thats brings a whole new set of challenges cheers.