Attached Moment (verb)-a moment where you inexplicably run to your spouse and hug him/her until the feeling subsides-or a feeling where you just want your spouse so greatly there is nothing else worthy of thinking about except seeing/hugging said spouse
I am having an attached moment, I really really miss my husband right now, he is at work nozzling soap bags for the next two hours, and I really wish I could go up to him and hug him and tell him how much I truly madly deeply love him. He sometimes thinks that because he can't buy me everything my heart desires, which is not a lot, trust me...I am not materialistic at all, he feels he's not good enough. The other day we had to go to the grocery store for a last minute female item and we didn't even have the money to buy a doughnut from the bakery. He has since felt miserable and I have tried to tell him those things don't matter the simple things such as helping me cook dinner, feeding the cats and even just hugging me is all I need.
I know that we are close to broke and getting by week to week is difficult but I am feeling really lonesome and needing my buddy right now, he has worked 11 days straight and 2 more until he takes a day off to spend with me. I know as soon as he gets in the car tonight when I pick him up from work I will kiss him and tell him everything is all right, in probably not so many words but enough that he knows what I mean.
I know marriage is tough, and it makes it even harder when your spouse is working a lot and you're just barely scraping by, but the thing I keep in mind is, it isn't forever eventually things will ease up and we will be able to see each other again, more often than we are now. Attached moments are great when your spouse is there, because all you gotta do is run and hug him and tell him you love him and don't let go until you feel better. They're bad when he's working because I can't do anything but try to find something to do so I don't think about it so much, or count down the hours until I can get in the car and pick him up from work.
Church nights are the hardest because I have to go by myself, but at least I have my church family there to make the loneliness not seem so bad. Thats one advantage of going to a congregation where you have people that will talk to you, ask you how your husband is doing, it makes it feel better. Still though once a attached moment happens it won't quit until you see said spouse and give him a hug. I am ready for him to be home. I love him so much, I don't know what I would do without him.
Have you ever experienced an attached moment?
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I hate those moments. Because it reminds me that:
1. I broke up with my SO...2. He'd still be too far away even if we were together.Ive been having so many of those moments since i've been to college.
My boyfriend and I used to be able to just randomly message eachother and get together and go for walks or just hangout and talk or do whatever we felt like. But now it's almost a chore trying to make plans to get together. I am an hour and a half away, he doesn't have his liscence i dont have a vehicle, and we're not about to make all our friends drive one of us to go see the other. It wouldn't bee fair, so we've gone weeks, even almost a month without being able to see eachother. It's especially hard when i have my nights that i feel really alone, and just want to feel his arms wrapped around me. It makes me feel so safe and happy, no matter what. This is probably one of the hardest things we've been through in awhile, but so far we've been able to handle it. So i hope we can deal with the rest of the year, winter however, will probably make it even more difficult! .This is such a sad, sweet post. And yes, I've had many of those "attached" moments. *Sigh*
I get attached moments all the time :) There are certain hours of the days when I just run to my parents or my friends impulsively and give them a huge hug. I love the adrenaline rush that comes with the feeling. It makes me feel like life isn't that bad afterall and like you said, it's always the little things that count not the materialistic desires a lot of us so wish to have.
My fiance and I have those moments every morning. We just lay there and hold each other until we're ready to get out of bed. <3
I also hate being in public places without him, I feel almost naked.
Attached moments are good for couples. It means that you haven't taken each other for granted. Those moments are also what help get you through the tough times (such as now). What's that one cheesy song line? "We've got each other and that's a lot"? :)
@shoujo@xanga - its Bon Jovi's song Livin On A Prayer, which is actually me and my hubbys song :)
This is so sweet. Your love for your husband is evident. I have many, many of these moments with my sweet man. Don't give up - your encouragement to him is likely more precious than he knows how to explain.
Too bad I'm not dating the person I have those feelings for :X
- John
Every day, every day. D:
And it sucks, because clinginess is bad bad bad!
Buuuuut, we have our attached times. :]
And I love them. They satisfy my little cling-urges.
Look him in the eye. Tell him he is the world to you. And kiss him. Tell him he is all you'll ever need. There's nothing on the face of the earth that could ever replace him. He's perfect the way he is. You love him for him, not what he can bring to the table.
I have been having an Attached day. It is hard yearning that badly for someone that is not there.
I get like that almost every day whenever I can't see my boyfriend. But it's so worth it when I do. He's the best in the world and I love him with all my heart. =) Plus I think it's good because it reminds me how lucky I am to have him when I'm not with him.
yes yes yes
Imagine having a man in the military. Months go by and you're both missing each other, feeling unable to retain the urge for touch and conversations.. That's so bittersweet. Somehow it's something I fantasize about too often. I'm such a fool haha (=,
I miss those days.
:)
aww <3
I'm in a similar situation where my bf wishes he could buy me things he can't afford and feels he isn't good enough because of it. I tell him that I could get by with much less than we have now as long as he's with me. And I'm definitely prone to those "attached moments". Sometimes I just feel the need to hold him close and remind him that he's my whole world and I wouldn't have made it through recent tough times without his love and support.
I'm kind of having an attached moment right now. My fiance proposed to me just a week ago today and for Thanksgiving he's in Ohio where his family is. I understand it's the holidays and he should be with his family..but I just miss him. Especially with everyone around who is with their 'significant others' on the holidays. *sigh* So yes, I know what you mean lol.
Been having those moments because boo is so homesick in India... two more months, then I can hold him
Yeah, I hate feeling like I need someone, being so attached to my boyfriend,
makes me feel vulnerable and needy. Which is the complete opposite of what I am!
People know me as a hard ass who always has their wall up to hide any type of emotion whatsoever.
But being with him, makes all of that go away.
Especially that Im dealing with family problems, I feel the need to have someone I can confide in and love unconditionally.
I dont think its a horribly bad thing to have attached moments to your significant other,
but its always good to have a little bit of rationality;
because you never know when it can all come crashing down.
Always be prepared for the worst, in my opinion.
Loved the post though! ^-^
it's good to know that through everything you're going through, you still have love.
i have soooo many of these with my boyfriend. i never thought i'd miss somebody and want to squeeze them for hours, when they were right next to me. it's such a great feeling.
definitely had that moment when i saw the bf after 3 months. all i wanted to do was hug him.
YES! My bf and I call them "cling" moments, and then we hug each other and say "clingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingclingcling" hehe