I'm in a communications class right now since I neglected to take it as a freshman...or sophomore...or junior. I sit angrily to the side in a room of fresh-faced 18-year-olds where our old and out-of-touch prof tries to capture their attention at 9:30am and silently do more interesting things in my head, like conjugating German verbs in my head. (True story: it's a nervous habit I developed on a plane to the country.) Every now and then he'll give us these "assignments" to do to reinforce his topic. With this one, we were to put in order what we found the most irritating to the least irritating. I'm only slightly sure where this plays into communications (I saw it as more of a psych experiment) but I thought it might get some discussion flowing.
"Below are several common experiences. Your task is to rank order them, with the one ranked #1 being most annoying."
You have been stood up
You are on a bad blind date
Your date is inappropriately dressed for the occasion
Your date gets obnoxiously drunk
Your date flirts with other people
Your date talks too much
The best way to characterize your date is "extremely unaffectionate"
Your date is late
Your date won't take "no" for an answer
Your date tells you about all the great dates he/she has had with other people
For me, none of these are really the things that get under my skin. Someone who behaves like my dad would be the last straw... or if he was Spencer Pratt. For the record, my least irritating was obnoxiously drunk dates (our professor attempted a joke that if we ranked this last, that we were likely the obnoxious drunk) and my most irritating was hearing about other great dates.
What about you? What are your rankings, or what other kinds of things just get to you?
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I hate people who are obsessed with talking about themselves. Every time I try to slip in a sentence, they might pick up a few key words, but then they incorporate that into another story about themselves.
I also get pretty pissed when I'm being blatantly disrespected, like if the guy is hitting on other girls while I'm standing there, or if he starts comparing me in a negatively with other girls.
Top 5:
1. Your date flirts with other people
No loyalty, very uncool. I value loyalty more than anything else in a prospective partner.
2. Your date tells you about all the great dates he/she has had with other people
Same concept, only it's more like she doesn't give you a chance to let her see who you are before dumping expectations on you.
3. You have been stood up / Your date is late
Respect. Very basic.
4. Your date won't take "no" for an answer
I'm abstinent. Self-explanatory. And again, respect.
5. Your date gets obnoxiously drunk
Self-control. I value that in people.
The others I can deal with.
Least would probably be my date being inappropriately dressed. Most irritating would be being stood up, because that doesn't even give me the opportunity to be irritated about any of the other ones.
You have been stood up 1
You are on a bad blind date 6
Your date is inappropriately dressed for the occasion 7
Your date gets obnoxiously drunk 8
Your date flirts with other people 3
Your date talks too much 10
The best way to characterize your date is "extremely unaffectionate" 9
Your date is late 5
Your date won't take "no" for an answer 2
Your date tells you about all the great dates he/she has had with other people 4
i would hate for the date to not come. but if he was drunk, i would care but then again not really idk, havent had the experience
in order from most irritating to least.
You have been stood up
Your date flirts with other people
Your date won't take no for an answer
Your date tells you about all the great dates he has had
Your date gets obnoxiously drunk
Your on a bad blind date
Your date talks too much
The best way to charcterize your date is "extremely unaffectionate"
Your date is late
Your date is inappropriately dressed for the occasion.
From your list:
#1.
Your date gets obnoxiously drunk (or just drinks in general)
#4Your date tells you about all the great dates he/she has had with other people
#5Your date flirts with other people
Yeah the others have never happened or I just don't care about them. But I really hate it when I'm with a girl and she starts drinking, loses so much attraction value. Same if she was to smoke, it's pretty much over for her after either of those. Guys are creatures of fragile egos, why make it tougher by saying how great you had it with other people...sigh heh.
You have been stood up ---> 4
You are on a bad blind date ---> 5
Your date is inappropriately dressed for the occasion --->8
Your date gets obnoxiously drunk ---> 1
Your date flirts with other people ---> 6
Your date talks too much --->7
The best way to characterize your date is "extremely unaffectionate" ----> 10
Your date is late ---> 9
Your date won't take "no" for an answer ---> 2
Your date tells you about all the great dates he/she has had with other people ---> 3
i think your date talking too much would be better than a date that talks too little, especially if it's a first date., hate long awkward silences.
obnoxiously drunk, talking about other great dates and flirting with other people is just a HUGE no though; if you get so off your face it obviously means you don't value my company and if you pay more attention to other girls then...why are we on this date again?
date talks too much about himself or talks himself up to an embarrassing extreme.
@Unfettered_Mind@xanga - haha those are the ones i picked too.. and pretty much in that order
"Below are several common experiences. Your task is to rank order them, with the one ranked #1 being most annoying."
1. Your date is inappropriately dressed for the occasion - I think this is because I'm extremely self-conscious. I usually try really hard to figure out what is considered appropriate for an occasion.
2. Your date won't take "no" for an answer - Pretty bad bother. No only means one thing!
3. Your date gets obnoxiously drunk - Embarassment not only to himself, but me as well. I probably have to end up watching out for him until I figure out who to call to help him or dump him off at.
4. Your date flirts with other people - Come on! Am I invisible or something? At least have some respect here!
5. Your date tells you about all the great dates he/she has had with other people - Ahem Ahem. Are you trying to hing something? I've had a better time too mind you.
6. The best way to characterize your date is "extremely unaffectionate" - I am assuming that this means I'd have a better time talking to a wall than him.
7. You are on a bad blind date - I sure it'd be hell to stay through a bad blind date.
8. You have been stood up - I'd be livid after I realized that I've been stood up. I'd blow some heads off and burn a lot of bridges.
9. Your date talks too much - I could deal with this more or less. If what he's talking about isnt interesting, most likely I can zone out without him noticing.
10. Your date is late - This really depends on how late he is and under what type of weather condition I'm waiting for him in.
I'd say the most annoying part of a date is when the cake turns out to be a lie.
This is how my list goes:
Your date flirts with other people
Your date gets obnoxiously drunk
You have been stood up
Your date is late
You are on a bad blind date
Your date talks too much
Your date tells you about all the great dates he/she has had with other people
Your date won't take "no" for an answer
Your date is inappropriately dressed for the occasion
The best way to characterize your date is "extremely unaffectionate"
Then again, I haven't been on a date in almost a year, since my boyfriend would kind of disapprove. But, I think that's how it used to go.