Tuesday, 24 November 2009

  • Would You Share Your Blog?



    Nick and I had a huge talk about a bunch of things a couple weekends ago. I don't really know how to describe it without going on forever about it, but I will say this: It ended up in me sharing this site with him. I'd told him very general things about this site, but he never got to look through it at all. He never expressed interest, until we had this talk. He seemed to like reading the blogs, as well as your comments to them. It was nerve-wracking on my part for some reason, to sit and watch him while he browsed my site, but I also liked sharing this part of my world with him. I feel relieved. I'm naturally very secretive, but I hate hiding things from Nick. So I think this was an interesting and maybe even necessary experience for us.

    Would you/have you showed your blog to an SO? Why or why not?

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Comments (46)

  • hundredsongsinhundreddays@xanga

    Easy one, since Miriam and I write our blog together.
  • betterdesigned@xanga

    Sure. I have nothing at all to hide.
  • silverlocket_88@xanga

    Yes, because I used to write about him on my Xanga.
  • Insomnia_Pickles_XtraTomato@xanga

    yeah, i even let him read all the private ones i'd written about him ... it was over a span of years that we crushed on each other while maintaining the "best friends" thing.... i was super nervous as well, but he loved reading them.
  • LauraG0929@xanga

    I always talk to my hubby about conversations I have with people or different blogs that I found interesting on here. As well as my own blogs and sometimes what feedback I got. Honestly, I think he's pretty patient with me rambling on about it sometimes, haha...I'm sure it doesn't interest him half as much as it does me. :)
  • XxFireXboltxX@xanga

    I tell my husband about xanga (and pleonast, another blogging site I'm on) and he likes hearing the conversations and a lot of times gives me really good input. He's not interested really....there isn't a "ish" site about guns and knives so it's not his thing.

    If he ever wanted to be a part of my blogs, I'd let him in immediately. But, he doesn't so right now it just makes for interesting conversations.

  • HollowTendencies@xanga

    umm.. no, this is the one place i share secrets i can't share with anyone i know. it's just for me, to help me become more honest with myself. i've had it for about 5 years and so far no one, that i know personally, knows about it. i'm thinking once i'm married, maybe i'll share it with my husband. like instead of my virginity.. since someone already has that LOL (ok it's not funny but ya know) ..just being honest
  • stardustskye@xanga

    Yup! I have nothing to hide from him. and whenever we do have an issue, instead of blogging about it and venting, I usually either a) talk to him about it, or b) vent to my friends. so it works out rather well. :)
  • DeathzDezign@xanga

    yep, got nothing to hide...although she doesnt know that I mention her every now and then in mine. I mostly talk about food, cooking, photography, and games...nothing that she doesnt know already. I still think journals/diaries/blogs are a personal thing, and its up to you whether you want to share or not...but I do respect those who want to keep it personal
  • rpghero27@xanga

    I have my blog, my wife has hers.  Both of us are clear that these blogs are ours as individuals, not as a couple.  I blog much more frequently than she does, but I do read hers, and she does read mine. 

    Come to think of it, she and I as a couple have not created a blog.
  • Bongflower@xanga

    Well, yeah, sometimes. 'Cause I write about him a lot.
  • decembriel@xanga

    I probably would share it as long as we had reached a certain level of trust.
  • midnight_rapture@xanga

    I don't think I would. My boyfriend is kind of sensitive sometimes, and I often use this site to vent about things that may not be that big of a deal, but really made me angry. It's my go-to place to get everything out. It's like my diary, or at least a personal safe in the back of my mind. If he were to read this, it would be like he could read my mind. And that's just not something I want.
  • jeezshoua@xanga

    1) I have nothing to hide from my significant other (if I do have one) but 2) it's my personal blog and I rather keep it that way.  We should talk and share mostly everything with each other but sometimes, it's good to have your own space from one another as well.
  • laurenmaureen@xanga

    my ex knew i had it, because it slipped out.
    i wasn't a fan of him knowing.
    and i don't think id want him to read it.
    a) because i wrote about him... sometimes bad.. haha (always on private though)
    b) because it would be like him reading my diary. thats weird.

    my new blog, though, has nothing significant.
  • imTHEmeowMIXcat@xanga

    Sure, why not?
  • kor_girl@xanga

    in one of my past relationships, whenever things got to a point where i couldn't TALK to him about a situation or a problem, i'd blog and he'd read it. next day or the weekend, him having some sort of an "insider" info made it easier for him to open up and not get angry about nothing. but he knew i kept this blog, i never sat there and had him go through entries while i got nervous. but mind you, he couldn't access EVERYTHING. most of the things i wrote ABOUT him or things that related to "us" that i didn't want him reading, it was sectioned off. he wasn't "allowed" to view my protected listing and i prefered it so.


    when i think about my current bf reading through my blog, it makes me giggle but also shake my head no. i would feel relief for sharing something that was PRIVATE and PERSONAL with him, but also feel restrictive. he'd always know to read it, even when i'm not aware of it, the freedom to share what's happening (whether it's about our relationship or my mood swings) will be reduced since i'd be writing with him reading in mind.


    the relationship with my ex worked out because he got mad about everything (anger management issues) and it was easier to talk to him once he processed things over a day or two. but my current boyfriend doesn't really scare me with his emotions, i'd rather have him ASK what's going on and open up our communication windows rather than rely on him having an upper hand knowledge. in short, NO
  • Rainy_Day33@xanga

    When i was with my ex i didnt share it with him, partly because i felt self concious, and my blog has a lot of my complaints. He knew about it, and he wanted to see it, but i told him i felt lame him reading it. He was upset about it, he felt like i was hiding things. I was just self concious.

    I decided i was going to show him, but i forgot to, and soon after we decided to break up. To be honest i would feel wierd showing anyone my blog that i know personally.
  • utoppia@xanga

    No for me. I stopped writing about myself a long time ago and most of the things I do write about now is more about my friends (who I ask for permission every time before I even post it up) which no one knows here. My SO use to read it and his friends was also reading my site until it just got too annoying to filtered out questions asking me who was this or who did that. 
  • Werewolf@mancouch

    I'm a single guy and I blog because I need an outlet for my guy thing. I don't want anyone else telling me how I should blog. And I definitely like to keep some things to myself.
  • lesprit__descalier@xanga

    i am guilty of using xanga as a source to relieve my frustrations with whatever i'm dealing. most often, it is the bf. he's known about my blog since before we started dating, and i know he doesn't like that i keep it. i dont write long entries. i write one liners that i think relates to many aspects of my life at the time, in terms of how i feel. i updated it everyday, but the bf was not pleased because i would write something that he wishes i had shared with him instead of post it on a public site.

    my argument is that i don't provide any details and people can think whatever they want.nevertheless, it caused me to delete a lot of posts and i stopped updating it daily.
    sometimes i need a place to vent.. i wish i never told him about it so i could speak my mind SOMEWHERE.but i guess the healthiest thing to do would be to talk about my feelings with him directly.i like xanga because no one knows me. but i get to read about other people that are similar to me. it's comforting in a way.
  • laytexduckie@xanga

    I probably would. I have with one of my exes when we were dating (since she has one too). As for right now, maybe, maybe not. I'm not sure. The past month has jut been soppy entries for me so . . . *shrugs*
  • GaMeGurLsH@xanga

    not really but i don't have much in my own blog.
  • my_final_username@xanga

    I am single,  so I got not really much to hide,   I don't talk about my blog with family,  but have dropped hints about Xanga,   once or twice to my parents (mainly my mum)


    that there is more social and blogging networks out there than just Facebook,   even though she does not use social sites.
  • Soul_Pizza@xanga

    Probably not.  I feel like this is a place for me to blog and interact strictly with people on the internet who are not, to my knowledge, anyone that I know in RL.  I just like it that way.

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