Sunday, 22 November 2009
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What is Considered Cheating?
Is this cheating?
If you're only dating someone, is it okay to date someone else?If you're dating someone, is it okay to talk to someone else?If you're dating someone, is it okay to kiss someone else?If you're just talking to someone, is okay to kiss someone else?Now...If you're actually with someone, such as they are your girlfriend or boyfriend...Is it okay to talk to someone else?Is it okay to flirt with other girls/guys?I personally define cheating as if they're my significant other, cheating would be if they are kissing someone else, dating someone else while they're with me, or even sometimes flirting with other people. I don't think getting drunk would be a good reason for "cheating" on someone because you're still conscious and you kissed or did something with someone else other than your significant other.Now how do you define cheating?
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I'm pretty sure it's different for everyone. To me, cheating is kissing someone else, or actively pursuing someone else, I guess.
All the reasons that you listed if they were your boyfriend or girlfriend. Openly flirting is a big no-no. However, there are some people who are just friendly and some take it as flirting.
i suppose if both of you understand that you are exclusive then any of the above (kissing, holding hands, "talking" with intention of "dating" or "talking" to someone you are aware that shows an "interests" in you, holding hands with someone else) and the biggest sign of a cheater would definitely have to be being intimate with someone else while with you.
Is my definition too Elementary?? And if so, I wonder how it would be wearing the other shoe.
I think it's different for every couple and you should sit down together and discuss what you each define as cheating.
In my relationship it is like this...
Any romantic physical contact
Dates
Flirting [somewhat, not extreme]
Sex
i'm still struggling to define it. but i knkow for sure anything physical or any extra affairs are deffinitely cheating.
Every relationship is different, but basically, I consider cheating to be anything that you wouldn't do in front of your S/O. Is that too broad?
I don't agree on the "oh I was drunk" thing either. Such a lame excuse...
i would say anything past flirting, but that's so subjective. imo, flirting crosses into the boundaries of questionable/borderline cheating when the two are holding hands intimately, touching places like their open back, giving massages..etc.
The definition of cheating is subjective. After all, not all relationships are monogamous and/or sexual. Some relationships are polyamorous, others are asexual, and these types of relationships might define cheating to be something completely different than "usual".
Like others have said, the romantic participants in a relationship should get together to discuss and clearly define what cheating means in their particular relationship.
Depends on what you and your SO define cheating as.
cheating is breaking the rules of the relationship, whatever those may be.
Cheating is specific to monogamous relationships a.k.a. the boyfriend/girlfriend thing.
Now, that's different from just "dating" somebody. So, if you're only dating, than there is no cheating. You can flirt, kiss, date, and fuck anyone else you want. You don't have any obligation to the person/people you're dating other than to be at the specified place by the specified time of the date.
But, let's say you woke up from a drunken stupor and found yourself in one of these sticky monogamous situations and the other person, thank god, is pretty good looking so you go with it.
Cheating, to me, involves any sexual/flirtatious/wanted contact. Sex, blowjobs, finger fun, tonsil hockey, hugging with excessive ass-groping, and sensual whispers while letting your lips hit their ear all count.
Then what doesn't constitute cheating? Thoughts. I may get a lot of shit on this one, but c'mon, men and women both have fantasies and eyeballs. Let's say some exotic sexpot walks down the street while I'm with my girl and I look and in my head, I get a little mental boner. This is natural and really isn't a big deal. The same thing happens when some 36pack ab monster strolls by on the beach and my girls tongue finds itself outside her oral cavity. I don't get mad. I can't. She may be oogling him, but she's fucking me.
I could say more, but this post is long enough as it is.
cheating is sex, kissing, flirting or trying to be with someone else even though you are in a relationship not just dating.
and lucky me i just got cheated on a week ago ._. after a whole 2 years together. oh and he left me for her
If I wouldn't do it in front of my husband, it's probably cheating.
Cheating is, as others have said, a relative concept. It's anything that crosses the borders of what has been defined as acceptable in an agreement between the people in the relationship. But cheating is only half of the story; the other half is adultery/fornication. The former wrongs one's partner, and the latter is sin against God. Though that's defined as any sexual contact outside of the context of marriage, Jesus went on to say that we're guilty of it even if we only lust and never do the act. What exactly constitutes lust may be somewhat unclear, but we know when we're wrong. And so do our SO's.
Anything that you wouldn't do in front of your SO with somebody of the opposite sex (or same, if you roll that way).
Typically things like kissing and things you typically do with your boyfriend or girlfriend, with somebody who isn't your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Flirting isn't cheating but is pushing the boundaries. Kissing someone? Oh hell no. XP
I say it's anything you wouldn't do in front of them. If you act one way around them and different when your not with them your not happy anyways, you shouldn't need to do anything with anyone else. You shouldn't even have to talk to someone else, not saying you can't have friends just you don't need to have any conversation or do anything that if was recorded or re read by someone you'd be ashamed and you and the your other peron would go seperate ways or fight over.
@snapeful@xanga - That's cheating?
Flirting is definitely pushing the boundaries way too far in a relationship. I would consider anything that you wouldnt do in front of your girlfriend or boyfriend / husband or wife to be considered an act in which you should NOT be doing.
I'm with the one who says actively pursuing someone else with interest and intent for it to go further...while you are in a monogamous relationship with someone else.
I don't think flirting without intent to pursue is cheating.
I think friendly kind of flirting is fine because some people are just naturally flirty. But I think a kiss and anything further is cheating.
if you are in a serious relationship i dont that its ok to flirt in the real or virtual world.
people say it's anything that makes your SO uncomfortable or anything you wouldn't do in front of them, but i think there are less broad ways to define it. this is my opinion:
i don't think flirting is cheating, but it is pushing it. i don't think talking to someone, even your ex, is cheating as long as there is no intent behind it, but it may or may not be inappropriate when you are in a relationship. i even think having a tiny crush on someone might not be cheating, it's not like when you get into a relationship everyone is going to become unattractive. but if it's happening often, you shouldn't be in a relationship.
now onto what is cheating, any physical contact you wouldn't have with "just a friend." holding hands and kissing is cheating. dancing/grinding with someone who isn't your SO might be cheating. sex is very definitely cheating, i don't think anyone would argue with that. and if you are trying to pursue someone else, be it emotionally or physically, that is cheating.
when it gets down to it though, it's more about what your SO is comfortable with...not you.
Cheating is when - after 24 hours after fucking you to death, your lover dumps you for someone else, and justifies it in the name of, "personal self interest." I hate selfish bitches without a life...
It sucks.