Nothing is worst than rejection. Oh wait, there is something worst...cruel rejection.
It's hard enough when you like someone and you're trying your best to get them to like you back. Whatever happen to letting them down gently? One of my girlfriends has liked this guy for the longest and everyone knows it. He knows it too. We all thought he was leading her on a bit because he's nice/flirty to her. They went on vacation together. They even made out at parties. So when he told her that they couldn't be together, she asked him why. He told her he didn't want to ruin their friendship. When she asked him why that wasn't the case when they went traveling together or making out in a corner, he finally tells her "I like you but not enough to look pass your size."
I swear, you can hear her heart breaking into a million pieces.
So was it necessary for him to be so cruel or couldn't he just stick with his first reason of not ruining the friendship? Yes, that was the real reason he didn't want to be with her but is honesty the best policy when it's so hurtful? Especially if it's someone you so-call care for as a friend?
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i would have punched him in the fucking face.
Wow, she shouldda socked him.
ah WOAH what a douchebag! also "just friends" shouldnt be going away together or making out! not a smart move - on either of their parts. he knew he didnt want her, that's wrong. and she should have more respect for herself than that.
But if he didn't tell her, then the thought of not knowing would have haunted her. It may be cruel,but it's the truth.
It's definitely cruel and mean. He's a totally a-hole for thinking that and letting it be the reason to not like her.
But we all know that if he didn't tell her the blunt truth, she wouldn't take it. She didn't accept it when he said "he didn't want to ruin their friendship". She had to know and well, so she did.
Look on the bright side, she would probably hate his guts and get over him a lot faster knowing how much of a jerk he is. Or at least that's how I would deal with it.
But god, what a jerk...he just used her all this time.
Ouch! I felt her pain from here. Personally, if he's THAT shallow she's obviously not missing much. Grade A d-bag, give that man an award.
effed up T__T.
At least he's honest...
If he made out with her at parties, how does he not find your friend attractive? Someone needs to slap the shallow douchebag out of his disrespectful ass. Hopefully, your friend can find someone who can appreciate her for who she is.
cruel, but honest...
Wow, I smell eating disorders around the corner. :[
so cruel x____X
thats mean, been there lived that it sucks
i would have responded violently and be glad that the "friendship" was over haha
Funny cause I have had girls tell me that a few times! I am just happy that my girl now doesn't care she is ubber hot *not that it matters* but she is even hotter then any of the girls from my past, put together.
He's obviously afraid of what others will think and not just what he thinks. Because going away together and making out at parties is kind of a big deal if you know that some day you're gonna have to reject this person. He sucks. A lot :(
I dunno, she didn't let his first reason go. He was trying to be nice. If they are actually friends, then they should be completely honest with each other. I would expect the same from my friends. I have been told that I am not pretty enough, etc. and while it hurts, it's good to know and move on to someone who actually likes you for who you are.
He could have rejected her without stating the reason.
What an ass.
She pushed for the truth and he told her...he was being HONEST!
Females harp on males constantly for not being honest and then they do tell us something honest and we freak out. I'm SURE that it hurt, I've BEEN in that situation and it sucks, but I would so much rather a guy tell me the truth --- be it size, personality...whatever, than lie to me.
It was pretty cruel of him to lead her on, but I don't think his reason for not liking her is awful. Physical attraction isn't everything but it IS important.
At least he was overly honest so she can get over him even more quickly. And as for him "not wanting to ruin the friendship"--too late, he just did.
What an idiot.
He would of wore a Shiner on his Eye for weeks ! I'd of showed him just how big I was ! That's cruel. Appearance isn't anything, yeah it helps to be physically attracted to someone, but you don't have to be that cruel.
that's brutal, but look at the bright side, now the girl KNOW what SHE got to work on her self! instead of hearing all the lies from her friends how she's fine, etc!
plus, she push for the truth!
If he didn't like her enough to actually want to date her, what was he doing making out with her and going on holiday with her?
I know she asked for the truth and she got it, but those who say that, think about how you would feel in her position: What if you had a certain physical feature you were self-conscious about and the person you had a huge crush on said that was the reason they didn't want to date you?
Not sure what he could have said after she didn't buy the "ruin our friendship" line, but there's a difference between telling the truth and being downright brutal.