Friday, 20 November 2009
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Sweet or Sneaky?
Isla Fisher is reportedly converting to Judaism before marrying longtime love, fiancé, and babydaddy Sacha Baron Cohen. MyRegistry.com wants to know what you think: Is converting for marriage a romantic gesture or cheating the system?
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I think it's a bold measure and personally I'd rather have someone who can accept me into their life, just the way I am.
However, from a romantic point of view, I'm sure this would be sweet.
I don't understand how it can be beating the system . . . if she loves him that much to convert, I guess it's romantic.
Wow, that's a surprising couple.
It's cheating the system...whatever is meant by that. Why claim to be something if you truly don't believe in it? Then your not a true believer in whatever religion it is you convert too. It'll weigh down your spiritual conscience eventually...
In the beginning it might be sweet, but it's usually something that comes and bites you in the butt (I have seen it happen.) Something that can be thrown in to fights, and various other things.
One more thing...
No matter what religion is a personal thing. You should choose it to benefit yourself, not to please others.
You should choose a partner that helps you preserve and enhance your spirituality, whatever religion/ non religion it may be.
But I think its a bad idea to do it for someone else, because in the end your cutting yourself short....and that shouldn't happen in a relationship.
i dunno what it is.. but i think they both look really cute together :)
i personally would never convert to anyone else's religion... being that im not religious at all..
I wouldn't say it's either of those things, I don't know what it is either.
I don't know if I'd go So far to say that it's cheating the system, but I definitely don't think that it's a romantic gesture. Your beliefs or religion should be just that...YOUR OWN.
It depends. If they refuse to marry you unless you convert, then it is far from romantic. If you convert because you've become interested in that religion because of a boyfriend/girlfriend and want to be closer to them, then that's fine.
A lot of religions also have similar values, but some people make a huge deal out of switching from Catholicism and Christianity.
It's a romantic gesture as long as she holds the same beliefs he does.
My father converted to Catholicism so he could marry my Mother. I don't see how it's cheating the system. People have been doing things like this for years.
I do not think it is necessary her doing it for him, moreso for his family. I've been with someone who is Jewish, and in order for us to have gotten married, I would have converted to Judaism for his parents. It depends on the two people involved, how important is family. And for some families, religion makes a huge difference.
My boss is Jewish and he has raised three sons as such. His sons are allowed to date non-Jewish but not allowed to marry a non-Jewish person.
A: It's a mixed bag of both, romanticism and 'cheating' the system.
definitely cheating b/c a conversion means that you no longer believe in your own faith.
i don't know her religious faiths so i can't really say anything :| how am i to know if she really believes or not?
If she doesn't give a fuck about religion...it doesn't matter at all.
"Wait....so you're saying I have to convert to the Dark Side before I can join you in matrimony Darth?....ah fuck it...sure why not...where do I sign....do I get a free gift and a silver plated pendant just like the Scientogists?"
what do you mean by cheating the system?
If she's going it on her own, fine. If someone cant marry you for what you believe, then it's not love to me. I've seen interfaith weddings that are beautiful & they either agree to raise children in one religion or a blend of both. The most common religious unions I've seen are Jewish & Catholic but I saw one that was Christian & Hindu too. The bride wore a sari in white. Gorgeous! It was on TLC.
@xpika1x@xanga - That's considering you have a religious or spiritual conscience.
It's cool. It's kind of cheating the system, since Jews are only supposed to marry other jews, and she wasn't born jewish but just a converter. However don't know how romantic it is unless she was a devote in some other religion and decided to give it up just to be with him. Then I wouldn't even be sure if it was romantic or just the last straw and she caved so they could finally be wed. Judaism still seems to have a lot of people who can't marry unless their partners are of the same faith as well. I think Christianity still has a lot of followers who follow that rule as well (I know most of my Christian relatives constantly say how they will never marry anyone who's not Christian), but they also have less strict parents...or maybe more rebellious offspring so you hear about it less often than with Judaism heh.
@JusticeCho@xanga -
Hmmm, I think it's also true for people who consider themselves agnostic/atheist also. Because that is also a certain type of belief. Most people I know (so I'm kind of generalizing from my experiences) who are either, usually are strongly opposed to religious structure. So isn't it kind of cheating yourself by forcing a religious structure onto yourself? In the beginning it might not matter, but I think eventually it might come back and bother you.
Even if your just not religious, I think your still cheating yourself by not allowing to yourself to explore what you do believe in or just don't believe at all. (although, I guess sometimes others choosing for you is good for some people, lol)
But I also feel it's kind of like cheating the other person. You said you accepted a certain belief, but do you really? It's like a lie almost, at least in my opinion if you don't.
Although, i think it matters more after you have kids. I don't see it as big problem before kids are born.
@JusticeCho@xanga - That's true, she's not considered a "pure" jew. (sorry lack of better word.) I'm not even sure if she has kids, if they would be either, since Jewish lineage is through the Mother's side. If your mother is a Jew are too.
Haha, I find my Jewish friends are getting married quicker than my christian friends, maybe for the same reason you stated but fits, but more for this scenario. Limited options makes you more open-minded to your partner?
man its late I hope I made sense!
@xpika1x@xanga - I kind of consider myself multi religioned, even though I don't really practice any of them buuuuuut if I were in this girls situation, and my boyfriend of multiple years and father of my children already knew how I felt about my religions, and if the only way his faith and/or his parents would let me marry him would to conver to judaism I don't think it would be much of a problem to me. Except for the fact that I'd have to start going to temple and doing all that annoying stuff that comes with it. Sure it would be considered lying in the grand scheme of things saying that I was jewish while possibly still holding onto my other beliefs but I don't think it would cause that big of a problem. And if I was smart enough I would just teach my kids the other religions without them knowing it was a religion. Which in my opinion is the best way to teach religion, because religion usually just gets corrupted and annoying...oops personal feelings came out a bit at the end there heh.
But yeah for people who strive to be aethist or agnostic it would definitely have an impact because their whole purpose is to be without religion. So that's a bit different. I think there can be people who just don't care about religion, and not have to be 'aethist' to prove it.
@xpika1x@xanga - Yeah I guess limited options would make you more open minded and more accepting probably heh. I have a cousin who...oh yeah, ok. He was probably Catholic, and she was Jewish the kids celebrate both holidays, but I would say they are more Jewish oriented. Although I think her parents were dead when she got married so that might have been why she was more easily able to marry a Catholic? heh I'm not sure.
You're missing some words I think, but makes enough sense heh.
Oh and it says at the top that he was her babydaddy so I'm guessing she has at least one kid already.
It's not cheating the system... its what you are willing to accept. compromise.. and could also be a romantic gesture. For me I plan on getting married to a christian and I myself am a hindu. His family accepts me for who I am and so does my husband to be but a lot of family tradition is involved in marriage and I am willing to accept to convert into their realm of things since I am going into their family and will carrying their name. I don't find this act a form of non acceptance. I more see it as a way of accepting me into the family. A rite of passage so to speak.
@JusticeCho@xanga - I guess I agree with what your saying also. There will always be people in the happy medium.