Wednesday, 18 November 2009
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She Thinks She's Special
I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. We've been through so much together and we both have a lot of trust and understanding for each other. Now, I'm not the type of girlfriend that doesn't allow my boyfriend to talk to other girls. He can talk and hang out alone with any one he wants as long as it just stays in the friends zone. I trust him 100% when he goes over his girl - friend's house to study or chats with them on the phone. I'm fine with it, I honestly don't care because he ends up telling me everything that goes on anyways.
I was over his house one day and while he was napping he got a text on his phone. He's ok with me using his phone and reading his texts to him.. So I shake him to wake him up to read him this text, but he doesn't wake up. I read the text anyways and it's from a girl he hangs out with at school, I didn't think much of it because it was just a regular "hey.. what you doing" text.
I was about to put his phone down when right above that one I see "Why are u saying u miss me.. shouldn't u be missing your girlfriend."
I was in shock..I couldn't help but end up reading the whole conversation. and this girl is delusional.. My boyfriend did NOT say that he missed her.. he even texted back saying "uhh.. I didn't say I missed u..." Then she got jealous that my bf was talking about another female friend too. She kept flirting and saying things like "why r u texting me.. why don't u text ur gf. " "why r u txting me Soo much . u shud go call ur gf".. like.. he's really texting her THAT much..
I feel like she's making herself feel special .. that he'd rather talk to her than me.. which is not the case because me and my boyfriend talk enough on a daily basis.. I can clearly see that this girl likes him. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he told me not to worry about it because he doesn't like her and doesn't find her attractive. And "that's just the way she talks"... but I feel like he's making up excuses for her stupid behavior. And honestly I feel like he should stick up for me and tell her to stop acting the way she does because she knows he has a gf.
I just don't understand why this girl tries so hard to build herself up. I don't want to nag my bf and tell him not to talk to her because that's his choice. What should I do from here? Demand that he stop talking to her? Confront her? Or just leave it be?
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I get the point of this post but I hate to be an asshole here but you people need to learn to spell. I really can't stand it when people send texts filled with spelling errors such as the ones mentioned in this post. It irks the hell out of me.
Confronting her is an admission that you feel threatened. If, in trying to preserve your relationship, you focus on distractions of that relationship rather than the actual thing, you are not being productive.
@TheHiddenRose86@xanga - Completely agree.
I know my man wouldn't be around someone that made me uncomfortable... I'd keep nagging. It really does work over time.
if she's making you feel this uncomfortable you should definitely have a serious talk with your boyfriend about it. seeing how you are in such a trusting relationship, i doubt he'd be willing to jeopardize what you have for some delusional girl...good luckk!
@TheHiddenRose86@xanga - hahaha. You're so irked, you can't even post on topic anymore. o_o I feel for you.
I understood it too but I got lost in the mental corrections I had to make while I read it.Maybe she think it'll build up her self-esteem to lie to herself?
I think you should talk to your boyfriend. He should really block the girl or actually do something if the two of them don't really know each other that well.
Although, her texts are something my friend would probably send me... Damn it, I so missed the chance to ask her why she did that. :\
That's ridiculous. I had the same issue, except it's a guy. He sends me at least 6 creepy texts a day, and I've been ignoring him for months. He doesn't get the message.
STOMP HER IN DA NUTS.
- Kunoichi
@LaddersAndTights@xanga - ignoring is passive-aggressive. if you havn't already i recomend telling him flat out how you feel if he doesnt' get the message any other way.
haha, you probably don't want to hear this... but you have two choices, ignore it, and pretend it isn't making you go crazy. Just focus on the positive things of your relationship, and if he IS innocent, which it sounds like he may be, but very VERY fishy, he'll see that she's psychotic and cut her out on his own, and realize that he has the coolest and most wonderful girlfriend ever. I'd start, however, building walls, just in case.
The other option is to leave him. He's not respecting you and neither is she.
@lenybobsyouruncle@xanga - It doesn't have any affect, I have before. And he goes on about how he'd die without me. We barely talked to begin with. And when we saw each other last, he practically tried to rape me, knowing I was a little bit high. I was going through emotional stuff, and took it upon myself to take some pills. Not a good idea. I ended up screaming at him and hitting him like crazy. I think I may have thrown something at him, too. I don't remember. It was months ago, I think near the end of July. It doesn't matter to me much, because I know he can't come near me. I live in a gated community. You have to pass three gates, then the gate of my house. And my house is tucked away behind at least an acre of land. There is no way in Hell he's getting through that, and Lord knows he's not the sharpest tool in the shed either. Plus, if I can over power him and beat his ass when I'm wasted, and he's sober... Yeah, I think that says it. I know how to over power anyone. You use their weight and strength against them.
I would just sit down and talk to him about it. Ask him what the story is in a non-confrontational way. It's obvious that he's not interested in her and that she's just one of those weirdos. I wouldn't think much of it.
Why put up with her at all?
Exactly what basically everyone else has said. You need to talk to HIM about this.
Let him know how it's making you feel. You can't give him or other girls passes for everything because it's "his choice" if he talks to them or not. You wouldn't let it be if he was flirting back with her. So i don't see how this is different, it is still making you uncomfortable. And if you two have such good understanding with each other he should understand and do what he needs to do to make you feel more comfortable about it.tricky. but she really is irritating!!
My GOD this bitch sounds full of herself.
Tell him to just slice her off. What kind of "friend" is this anyway? Telling a guy who has a girlfriend to stop talking to you so much, are you THAT conceited and arrogant?
What really sounds worrysome is the fact that he sticks up for her, as well. I mean, damn.
Hate to be a bitch, but your boyfriend plays a big part in this. It seems like you're the ones that's delusional.
what an insecure loser. you can't tell him not to talk to her, though. that would make you look petty. i think it should be ok - as long as boy makes it painfully clear he's not interested and doesn't flirt back.
@schallerbrandon@xanga - hey i never see it this way...but ur right.
@KrazeeKunoichi009@xanga - YES EXACTLY
it seems like shes planting the seeds so he gets caught. very sly.
@Coffee_Kaioken@xanga - [_ii Agree w/ HiiM. Shes Not A Good FriiEnd iiF Shes SteppiiN On UR Toes LiiKe That._]
Uh...are you sure that you just don't want to see what's really going on? Why would she be sending him messages like that for no reason? Kind of looks like you'd rather not see the truth, when in reality it sounds like he could be screwing around...
Okay, dude...he's cheating on you. Open your eyes. He isn't perfect like you seem to think he is, the problem is not with his friend...it's with him not being trust worthy like you seem to think.
@Boogumz_420@xanga - You really haven't learned how to type yet? SPEAK REAL ENGLISH! I bet you're failing in junior high.
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