Tuesday, 17 November 2009
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Parable on Friendship, Love & Marriage
A student asked his teacher, "What is love?"
The teacher said, "to get an answer to your question, go to the wheat field, get the biggest
wheat grain, and come back."
But the rule is - you can go through the field only once and cannot turn back to pick."
The student went to the field, gone through the first row, and saw one big wheat grain. But he
wondered....may be there is a bigger one else where.
Then he saw a bigger one. But may be there is a still bigger one waiting....
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he realized that the wheat grains
there are not as big as the previous one. He realized that he has missed the biggest one.
So, he ended up the search and went back empty hand. The teacher told him, "That is love! If you
keep looking for a better one, you could have missed the right person!"
"Then, what is marriage?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "to get an answer to your question, go to the same wheat field again, and
get the biggest corn. Same rule as before!"
The student went to the corn field. This time he is very careful not to repeat the previous
mistake. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked one good sized corn. He felt satisfied,
and came back.
The teacher told him, "You have looked for one that is just good for you, instead of coming back
empty handed. That is marriage!"
"What is Friendship then?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "in order to answer that question, go to the same field and choose the
wheat that appears nice to you. The rule is is the same."
The student went to the field. This time he is very careful. As he started scanning the field, he
has picked many grains that suited his taste and come back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, "You looked for one that is just nice for you, and did not look for the best.
That is Friendship".Note: Someone shared this with me. Does anyone fully understand the meaning of this parable?
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Its a fairly simple way of looking at relationships.
haha. Love sucks.
I don't understand the marriage one though, maybe it'll make sense when I get closer to that point.
It makes sense.
I'm always disappointed that these are always just made up stories. People don't actually give such illustration to kids.
ive always liked parables
If love is friendship set on fire, then I wanna bomb the whole fucking field, WOOO!!! Lol, just kidding.
I don't really like this parable, too simplistic.
awwwh this is cute.
Cute.
Wow, I love it! What an easy way to explain life and love.
this parable is simply fantastic!! too bad we only live once, and once you learn that lesson it may be too late :-/
This is all too simplified. For friends, I don't just pick people who are nice, I choose people who are the best. Best for me of course.
As far as love, I think I'll know when I find it. I'm not the type who is out "for the next best thing."
And for marriage, its about being with someone who you are the best of friends with as well someone you are in love with. Because friendship really is the foundation to any relationship-- its what keeps it going.
That's nice.
WHAT IS LOVE? BABY DON'T HURT ME. DONT HURT ME NO MORE.
Hmm, I don't necessarily think that's accurate but it is an interesting way of thinking about it. People and motives are not so simple as to be able to pick out what looks the biggest or best.
This is definitely love friendship and marriage cut down into a very simple understanding.
I think it does make sense, although it may not be the best way to describe each one.Regarding love these quotes say it much better than the parable:
To fall in love you have to be in a state of mind for it to take, like a disease.
- Nancy Mitford
Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the imagination and bottling the common-sense.
- Helen Rowland
(These quotes come from Best Love Quotes on Squidoo)
Regarding friendship these quotes say it much better than this parable:
Don't pity the girl with one true friend. Envy her. Pity the girl with just a thousand acquaintances.
- Unknown Wise Person
It is not how many friends you have won in life that counts, but how many you have left.
- Unknown Wise Person
(These quotes come from Quantity vs Quality on The Friendship Cafe )
I like it! :)
Reminds me of SNL: Lowered Expectations, but I guess it does hold true in this world. Does it mean that love has no forgiveness? Does that mean that marriage is a death card? I'm just being a jaded sh*t, but honestly, this message disregards faith and the idea of soulmates so it makes me little sad no matter where it came from. I can't make fun of the last part because I don't understand it. Mmmm, maybe if they had talked about when some of the seeds she gets germinate and some don't? Because you know you can buy a packet of seeds and half of it grows and you never know from looking at the seed if it will mature.
I think this is a really awesome way to look at relationships. It speaks a lot of truth.
Haha, I get it.
:) That's cute.
@snapeful@xanga - That's what being superficial is. That's the point. You DON'T look for the biggest and best one. You pick the one that makes you happeh :)
@ButterflyBless@xanga - i liked your thoughts on the friendship part.i liked this parable for the love and marriage part but the friend part did kind of bother me, so i like what you said better. :)
although this is a bit depressing when i think about it, now that i've let it sink in a bit. people missing out on love because they are always looking for the next best thing, and people settling for marriage because they don't want to miss out.
it's what makes relationships tough now. i think i can say that i haven't passed up possible loves because i'm looking for something better (though my memory isn't anything remarkable so who really knows...) plus this is easy to say when i'm happily in a relationship...and while my boyfriend and i are planning on the whole forever thing, we know that at our age the odds of us making it to the marriage point is like 50% and then the odds of us actually lasting for life are like 1%...sad, but realistic. i know i don't want to ever get divorced, ever ever ever. so it makes me wonder if in the future i will think about possible opportunities i have missed while with my bf (if things don't end up working out). don't get me wrong, i love him with all my heart, but it is things like these that arise those "what ifs".
i guess the best thing to do with love is to try things out and appreciate what you have if it makes you happy, and to not always assume there is something better...because what if you lose something great and you wind up empty handed in the end because you never learned to value what you had? this doesn't really fit with the whole marriage thing though, because love and marriage are two seperate things...(not that they don't go together, of course, just that the path to each of them are different, as this parable suggests/says). to be in a loving relationship is one thing, but to actually enter a legal agreement binding yourself to another person is something entirely different.
blah i've gotten myself all muddled now with so many different opinions on this. i enjoyed this though, it actually makes me think haha, though perhaps a bit too much over-analyzing. ah, a pitfall of being a female :)
@Bongflower@xanga - 'xactly.
Damn I freaking love parables. They are my favorite kinds of stories, besides hilarious ones haha.
It is simple, but I like it!
this parable is interesting, even though I don't necessarily agree with it, it's an interesting way of looking at things. thanks for sharing!