Monday, 16 November 2009
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The Glue of a Relationship
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
That's right. In my opinion when you meet someone and you want an ideal relationship with them, it is usually based on respect first then trust. During infatuation, you usually fall for ideal images, when these images are distorted you might question the person and their character therefore it is difficult to fall for someone you don't respect. Respect is required in most relationships from acquaintances to parent-child relationships. Respect is lost when unmet expectations degrade further and it's easily lost in more informal relationships with a lack of communication.
For example, you have an ideal image of someone then you lose it. it's usually because you've lost respect for them. However, the world is not perfect, people are not perfect so respect is a tough thing to hold on to but you have to understand how people earn respect and when to be lenient. Consider also, in a similar circumstance would you do the same thing as that person? If you answer yes, then I would give them leniency and understanding.
What do you think? Is respect the glue of relationships?
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I'm actually quite confused now that I've read this because I know what you mean but I'm not sure whether I agree or not.
I always thought relationships were held together by clear communication, but I realise now that you wouldn't get that if there wasn't respect lingering around somewhere. But then again, I've been in relationships where respect was always there but communication wasn't and that's why they fell apart.
I don't know anymore, haha.
I totally agree with you!
Here's a little story actually, and it's true. My friend told me once that she was at a family friend's house and they were having a bit of a discussion about love. And something or other was said and someone asked well how do you spell love? And the one guy said "R-E-S-P-E-C-T". Everyone was just so shocked and it went silent.
When she told me that story I was like just like WOW it's so true!
Good read!
Hell yes. Respect is the bread and butter for a good relationship of any kind.
Most def.
@Vacantwhispers@xanga - I renamed it marrow on my site. Does marrow clarify things?
Yeah.
agree.
I totally agree. We all need to respect each other's opinions as well as privacy.
yeahhh~i thinkkk thattt righttttt:3
We need a combination of love, trust, truth and respect for any relationship to work. Respect is just one of the main ingredients, like the yeast in a dough and without respect, the whole thing would just go flat.
Respect is important, but I agree with @The_Bodyguard@mancouch - its a combination of love, trust, and respect.
trust, intimacy, and respect
i used to preach this exact blog. props!
I think respect is part of the glue. It goes along with agreeing to disgree. I think that respect is really a small part of understanding. This also with along with good communication and trust are the true glue here. From this intimacy will happen, and the love and fidelity will continue.
Communication.
I agree but respect isn't what you should compare relationships with.. Relationships are complicated, you can't just sum it all up in two sentences. You find out what keeps relationships together as you go along whether it be respect, caring, communication.. It's alll conncected to make a good relationship. Oh and when you're in a relationship DON'T overanalyze it! Just go with it and you should know deep down if he repects you or not.
communication is also important.
Respect is definitely the key when put together with communication. If you ask me the simple formula is respect PLUS communication equal relationship
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definitely agree. its so difficult
I completely agree. My boyfriend and I respect each other to the fullest. We also trust each other (which can be hard for others, especially in a long distance relationship). We also don't fight or yell at each other, ever. He has never raised his voice once to me. Oh, and I forgot, COMMMUNICATION. Talk out your problems. Don't try to think your SO will figure it out (they can't read your mind =P).
No.
@JazzedUpArcher@xanga - i would say communication THEN respect... I think when you are dating a person... you have a certain level of respect and trust in them. As time progresses and you COMMUNITCATE more, then the trust and respect grows. Granted all are integral parts in maintaining a relationship, to be communication is the ultimate glue.
Respect, trust, communication. And voilà, the answer to a happy relationship.
I'm pretty certain respect is a requirement for consummate love (all encompassing, sustainable love). It is not the glue to a relationship but it's definitely a part of what makes a good relationship.
Something I've realized: a person who is not themselves at first date doesn't quite know... themselves. And therefore cannot have a relationship based on trust and respect. They are only looking to keep up the ideal image, to keep the infatuation going.